A helicopter parent is defined as a parent who is intensely overprotective of their child, resulting in paying incredibly close attention to everything the child does and their interactions with the outside world. Basically, a nightmare waiting to happen. Children of helicopter parents were asked on Reddit: "What was the worst or most embarrassing thing they put you through?" These are some the best responses.
1. They don't allow me to spend money without telling them first. I once bought a pack of gum without telling them. It wasn't pretty. Long story short, I got my phone taken away for a week after being chewed out for a solid hour.
2. Up until I left for college my bedtime was 9 every night, I wasn't supposed to be on the phone past 8:30, I wasn't allowed to go outside by myself, couldn't have friends over after 7, couldn't go to a boys house until the summer after high school. I had to show my parents my grades every semester to show I was successful. I rode the bus until my senior year because he wouldn't take me to get my license until I was. 17. He pretty much told me i had to attend a certain college because it was x amount of time away from home. While I'm in college, he makes me show him my grades, check in once a week with 3 Different family members, and makes me move home every summer. Now that I'm applying for masters programs and trying to move away, every conversation ends with an argument about me moving away and trying to start my own life.
3. She would constantly go through my phone and read everything when I wasn't around, and I'd find out when she brought up embarrassing information in front of friends, family, a crush. Once she found my crush on Facebook and messaged him a long-ass message that I don't even want to know what it said (all I know is that he was super uncomfortable when he asked me if I knew she had contacted him).
4. My parents were furious when they found out I had watched The Hunger Games at a friend's house. Same thing happens whenever I watch a movie rated PG or above and they're not there to fast-forward through the kissing scenes and mild cursing.
5. I wasn't allowed to hang out with girls when I was younger and one day I was at the school park with some of my friends and there were a couple girls there too. My mom called me on the phone to ask who I was hanging out with. I only mentioned my guy friends. Well apparently my mom was spying on me with binoculars (the park was just a few blocks from my house). As soon as she saw the girls, she drove to the park, got out and made a big scene about it in front of everyone, and made me go home. That probably wasn't even the most embarrassing thing she's put me through. There's been countless other situations.
6. My mother once drove to my workplace after school when I was 17 to check and make sure I was actually working. She then freaked out at me when I got home because she claimed I wasn't there, when really she just didn't drive all the way in the parking lot to avoid being seen since she drives such a distinct car.
That was around her phase of thinking I was on hardcore drugs and sleeping with the entire male population of my town. I was an A+ student who worked every day after school plus weekends, don't know when she thought I'd have time for all of that.
7. When I was a freshmen, my cousin was a senior and through him, I made a lot of friends that were upperclassmen. So at the end of the year, I got invited to go to prom. My parents made my date (who was just a friend) come over two weeks before prom and basically asked him every question imaginable. They got his phone number, home number, email, the works. He was super chill about it because my cousin had warned him beforehand. When prom actually came around, I wasn't allowed to ride in the limo with everyone else. Instead, my mom drove me in her ugly ass Astro van that looked like the mystery machine and she had my siblings and cousins packed in there. When we got to the venue, she got off with me and asked an administrator if she could stay. Thank GOD he said no. Oh, and I had a curfew. 8:30 pm.. It was 7 when I got there.
8. When I went away to college, my parents would call me every day. I went away to a fraternity weekend retreat during my freshman year where us pledges weren't supposed to bring our phones. I told my parents that I'm going away 3 days and not to call me.
On the day we were coming back, the guy driving us got a call. He then hands me his phone and tells me to call my parents.
It turns out, that when my parent couldn't reach me for 3 days, they came to my college, and went around my dorm and half the campus asking everyone if they've seen their lost little boy. I was 18 at the time.
On top of that, since I was on their family cell phone plan, they looked up all the numbers I had recently called and texted. They proceeded to call everyone letting them know I'm "lost" and asking if they knew where I was. This included girls that I had crushes on but barely knew, random classmates, and mild acquaintances.
When I got back to my worried parents waiting for me at my dorm, I found my cell phone with a bunch of messages of people asking if I'm okay and letting me know my parents are looking for me.
For the next day, every 1 in 5 people I walked passed would ask me if I talked to my parents because they were looking for me.
9. Mom read in my diary that I had lost my virginity to my bf of the time X, she called my school's principal to tell him that X had raped me.
10. In grade 9, I was only allowed to use my laptop in the kitchen to do my homework. My parents blocked Facebook, but I found websites that helped me use Facebook chat. In grade 10, I was allowed to take my laptop to my room, but my dad turned my Internet on and off every other hour from 8 in the morning until midnight, at which point it shut off for the night. It was ridiculous because I could never sit down long enough to get any work done before the Internet was gone and I had to wait for the next hour. My dad found out about the chat sites I used as a workaround for Facebook and blocked those. I resorted to using Bing bar's Facebook chat function which was slow and glitchy.
11. My dad followed me into jury duty when I was 21 because he didn't believe I could do it myself. I insisted that he didn't come, but he did anyways. He was stopped by security guards outside the area and he threw a huge fuss about not being able to accompany me. Most of the courtroom was confused and weirded out. Luckily, they didn't need me throughout the trial so I was dismissed.
12. When I was engaged to my now husband, I was given many long lectures by my parents about how I couldn't lean my head on his shoulder or ever ever be alone with him because it would lead him to have uncontrollable urges which would then lead him to rape me and it would be my fault for working him up. These lectures became daily and increased in absurdity.
my husband was able to stick it out. Things are much better now that I live
with him on the other side of the country.
said he wouldn't let me go unless I wrote a paper on the movie after I watched
it about its redeeming qualities and Christian principles.
14. Monitored my internet activity and brought up the porn I watched at the dinner table in front of my younger siblings and a friend who was over for dinner, and told me watching porn would leave me morally depraved and difficult for anyone to love. I was thirteen.
15. When my mom decided I was finally old enough to have a cell phone (and even then, I was only allowed to use it for calls), she called me basically every hour or two while I was out with friends to "check in." And if my phone died or I left the ringer off, she would call my friends' phones. Repeatedly. Or if I was even a little late coming home from school, she would call my friends and ask them if they knew where I was. This would've been at least somewhat understandable if I had been ten years old, but I was 18.
16. One night I decided to visit my boyfriend at his apartment for some TV time and cuddles. I ended up restarting my phone and forgetting the turning it back on part. While cuddling in front of the television, I fall asleep. At around midnight, my mom calls and it goes straight to voice mail. Any logical person would just figure the phone died or just didn't have service (very reasonable where I live). Not my mother. She called the cops and tried to report me missing, which ended with the police asking how long I had been gone. She responded with 'about 8 hours' and they tell her to wait until morning. At this point it is about 1 am and I am still asleep, we both are. Fast forward about 2 hours and my mother has called and woken up all of my friends hunting for me with no luck. She calls my best friend and she tells her that I am at my boyfriends apartment. My mother now knows that I am safe and not missing. This is not enough for her though. She ends up coming to the apartment after pestering best friend enough for the location. My best friend doesn't know the exact apartment so she just told her the complex name and went back to bed. I woke up at almost 4 in the morning to my mother banging on the door yelling 'personablyanxious, open the fucking door!' I run thinking something is wrong and fling open the door to find her red. Metaphorical steam is pouring from her ears. She yells for me to get in my truck and get home now. The next day when I went to visit my boyfriend and apologized profusely for what my mother has done, I discover that my mom had banged on every single door until she found the right one. I was 18 at the time. It didn't take much longer before my relationship ended. This is one of very very very many stories.
17. I was on leave from Iraq ... Turned 21 during that time period ... and my parents still made me be home by midnight ...
18. There was the time she called my boss and told him I needed a mid day nap because I was too tired...I was 22.
19. One time I was driving from Colorado to Michigan. Parents thought it took three hours to get from Iowa to Michigan because "well that's what Google maps said". When I didn't show up in the expected three hours, they called the Iowa state police, Illinois state police, Indiana state police, Michigan state police, lansing police department, grand rapids police department and our home town police department to report me missing.
20. I had a field trip when I was 10 years old that I was very excited to go to. The morning of the field trip, my grandma picks up a call from the school saying that the trip was canceled. I was enlightened at the fact that i could play games all day, but disheartened at the fact that i missed out on my field trip. Next day comes and I go into class. I remember asking the professor "When are we going on the field trip, since it was canceled yesterday?" And the professor just looks at me with this puzzled face, as if I was retarded or something. I end up finding out that my mom called my grandma and told her to act as if the school called my grandma and pretend that the school canceled the trip. Apparently, my mom was afraid of the school bus flipping over and combusting into flames, while also there being a possibility of me being sexually molested.
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