If you're anything like me, the only thing you hate more than receiving compliments is giving them. It sometimes feels like you want to reach out and make someone feel good. But how do you do it without everything backfiring?
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1. Well, that's a loaded question.
I go to the a big university so there are often huge lectures with 200 or more people. I was in one of these classes when about halfway through the semester a nicely dressed guy with brown curly hair came up to me and smiled shyly.
"Are you Jewish?” He asked. "Because you look Jewish."
I wasn't sure where he was going with this so I just politely answered back that no, I wasn't Jewish.
"Oh, okay," he said sadly.
He turned to leave and I couldn't help but quickly ask why he'd asked me about my faith.
"Well, I am Jewish and I thought you were beautiful when I first saw you and you always answer questions in class, so you seem pretty smart too."
I felt my cheeks flush and thanked him for the compliment.
He shrugged, "It's too bad you aren't Jewish."
With my curiosity fully peaked I asked him why that made a difference.
"We aren't allowed to date outside of our faith."
I thanked him once again for being kind and told him he was very brave to ask something like that out of the blue. He left and I have only seen him once or twice on campus after that. I hope he found someone, he seemed so kind.
2. Pride and joy.
I think many girls would love to hear "I'm proud of you" more often. Every time my boyfriend tells me he's proud of me I just feel so frigging happy, like someone actually notices of all the effort I'm putting into something.
3. Puppy love.
Whenever I'm at this particular male friend's house, his dog always greets me first and chooses to lie near me or beg me for pets even if there are other people around. So he told me one day (the friend, not dog): "You're my dog's favorite person." That made me happy.
4. Good guy Keith.
I've gotten plenty of compliments on my appearance, but the compliment that I will always remember was from a guy I was only acquaintances with through our friend group. "I like it when you talk. When you say something, it's always either really insightful or really funny."
Thank you, Keith. I will always remember that.
5. Make-up class.
So, I am a girl that doesn't often wear make-up. Freshman year in college, they were filming our biology class for some college video. Our professor had told us the class before, but I forgot. So I showed up to be filmed looking not my best. I was pretty self-conscious. (continued...)