24 Crucial Pieces Of Life Advice, As Told By People Over 60.
60+ year-old people on Reddit were asked: "What advice/tips would you give to someone half your age?" These are some of the best answers.
1/24 Listen more than talk. And "listening" doesn't mean waiting for the other person to shut up so you can start talking again.
2/24 Never stay at a job you hate. Nobody likes a smartass. Don't hang out with stupid people. Fidelity IS worth all the work. Your dick is gonna let you down. Use it as often as possible.
3/24 I'm not quite 60 but am closer to 60 than 50 so I'm gonna take a shot anyway. The most important person in your life is the person who agreed to share their life with you. Treat them as such. Children grow up way too fast. Make the most of the time you have with them. A friend will come running if you call them at 2am; everyone else is an acquaintance. Your job provides the means to do what's really important in life, nothing more. Do the job but live for your family.
4/24 Knees are important. Cherish them.
5/24 Choose your mate with your brains as well as your hormones. Be picky. If you're getting overwhelmed just return to the immediate present moment and savor all that is beautiful and comforting. Your life is not as serious as you think it is.
6/24 I'm exactly 60 and agree with what's been said so far. Especially how fast your children grow up. It's why grandchildren are so wonderful...I realize it now and appreciate and savor every single minute with them. I would also say that years go by in the blink of an eye. Don't marry young. Live your life. Go places. Do things. If you have the means or not. Pack a bag and go wherever you can afford to go. While you have no dependents, don't buy stuff. Any stuff. See the world. Look through travel magazines and pick a spot. GO!
If you have a dream of being or doing something that seems impossible, try for it anyway. It will only become more impossible as you age and become responsible for other people. We have one time on this earth. Don't wake up and realize that you are 60 years old and haven't done the things you dreamed about.
7/24 Floss regularly, dental problems are awful.
8/24 Never be afraid to ask for more pay. You WILL need it later.
9/24 When you meet someone for the first time, realize that you know nothing about them. You see race, gender, age, clothes. Forget it. You know nothing. Those biased assumptions that pop into your head because of the way your brain likes categories, are limiting your life, and others' lives.
10/24 65 yr old here. Work wise, work to live, don't live to work. You will never know who your real friends are until you're in deep shit. Jealousy destroys relationships. Trust your SO. Don't ever be afraid to make mistakes.
11/24 Don't take things personally. Don't empower others unless you want them to have power. If they spew negativity/poison out of their mouth - it is YOUR choice to ingest it or not. If you get mad at your partner or anyone, just shut your mouth and cool off for 10 minutes. After you've cooled: talk to them reasonably without any blame. Once you learn this skill you will rarely if ever get angry and never have outbursts.
Try to keep an openness and willingness to accept/greet all that happens without resistance and fear. Fear is the only thing that holds you back. There will be many unsettling and/or disturbing events in your life, just remember - no resistance or fear - you'll get through it. Always keep moving, even if just walking. People will always remember how you made them feel. EVERYTHING is an adventure if you simply choose it to be. Attitude is everything.
12/24 Books. Read them. 64 here, and your mom. All the cliches apply (sunblock, flossing, travel). But don't stop reading books, lots and lots and lots of books. Crappy ones, disturbing ones, difficult ones, fun ones. You can only live your one tiny life, but with books, you can live thousands more.
13/24 The joints you damage today will get their revenge later. Even if you think they've recovered completely. Eat like you're a diabetic heart patient with a stroke - so you never become one.
14/24 Learn something about finance if you haven't. Move to a fun place for awhile. Your life will become limiting, but a fun place will mitigate some of that. Stay active, but pick sports that you can do at 60 and won't kill you: triathlons, non-technical mountain climbing, non-contact cooking, etc. Read like a monster. F*ck with love and often. Listen to good music more than that. Quit spending money on crap, because crap becomes hard to store. Stay out of debt if you can. Your friends and family are key to mental health, so strengthen those bonds. Drink less and less. Travel on vacations if you can - and cheaply. Your job is not you. Smile to the point that it sticks. Don't knock other people: they may have the key to happiness and happiness is not to be knocked. You may live to 100, so ask those guys too. Have health insurance always. Expect major crashes along the road. We all crash and burn, so help other people. Keep a tow strap in your car. Some cretin stole my emergency bag out of my car and I thought: wow, good for him! Might save a life. Think like that if you can.
15/24 As a 60 year old, I'd say to 30 year olds that you should date someone twice your age.
16/24 Closer to 50 than 60 but here is the one thing I have learned. If you are a teenager, you are gorgeous. Seriously. You are attractive and interesting. Same goes for those in their 20s. I have never met someone in their teens or 20s who was unattractive. Everyone under 30 is gorgeous. Problem is, they will not realize it until they are over 40. If you are young and think you're ugly - trust me, you're not.
17/24 Ignore these people who tell you to do the things they didn't do and wish they had. For example, suppose I tell you that my dream was to go on African safari, but I never did, so my advice is to follow your dreams and take that safari. Now suppose instead I had taken that safari and gotten robbed by the locals, almost eaten by a lion, and caught a terrible case of malaria. Do you think at 60 I'd be sitting here telling you to go on that safari? No, because it stunk. It's a classic example of the grass-is-always-greener mentality. If they didn't do something themselves, ignore their advice to do those things.
The truth of life is that every year that goes by, the number of things that are possible diminishes. Life has momentum. Once you get moving in one direction it gets continuously harder to change that direction. At a certain point you will wake up and realize that you've already made the major decisions in your life, decisions that you can't change and have to live with. Most young people have dreams of doing a thousand amazing things, and while you're young, you hold on to those dreams because you've still got plenty of time and you're free to do whatever you want. Each decision you make to follow one dream eliminates others. For example, do you dream of one day having a family? Good, pursue it. But once you do, your dream of joining the French foreign legion or becoming a Buddhist monk or backpacking through the Amazon rain forest goes on hold, maybe forever.
So my advice is this: don't lament your decisions. You can't do everything that you dream of doing. You can only do a finite number of things, and that's okay. You don't need to be a devoted parent, a blowout success in your career, a nomadic world traveler, and a prize winning author. Be okay with picking a path and sticking with it, even if it means other paths will be closed off to you.
18/24 Stuff is just stuff. Hoard time instead.
19/24 62 years here. Don't take anyone else's advice as gospel. You can ask for advice from someone you respect, then take your situation into consideration and make your own decision. Essentially, take your own advice. But don't take my advice.
20/24 Friends are few and far in between. You will recognize them when you need them and they are there for you. Nurse those friendships, they are rare. Try to be a friend.
21/24 Well, as the old saying goes: a stitch in time saves nine.
Those weeds in the front garden? Pull them out now, or in a few months there'll be ten times as many of them and they'll be five times as tall. And next year they'll be bushes with roots that are a real pain to get out. (Personal experience)
The flaking paint on that window-frame? Paint it now, or it'll rot and be far more work to fix. (Personal experience).
That nasty sound when the car-wheel hits a bump? If you don't fix it and the suspension breaks when you hit a pot-hole on the motorway, you'll be stranded there with a forty-tonner bearing down on you. (Fortunately not personal experience - I'd learned something by then.)
22/24 Pay your bills and stay the hell out of debt. If I could have paid myself all the money I've paid out in interest over the years, I'd be retired already.
23/24 Treat people the way you want them to treat you. Even though I'm one year short of 60, it's something I wish I had done more myself.
24/24 55 year old man here: Stop taking life so seriously. Enjoy today. One day you will look back and wonder "I was so energetic why didn't I enjoy it." Ladies (I have two daughters) while relationships are nice to have, you do not NEED a man. Focus on yourself, your future and career first. Everyone, work hard for what you have. No one is entitled to handouts. And last, learn to manage money. Invest young. You will need it later.
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