27 Men Explain The One Aspect Of Their Lives Women Don't Know About.
Men on Reddit were asked: "What aspects of a man's life are most women unaware of?" These are some of the best answers.
1/27 The weird tangents our minds take if we're not doing anything for a while. It's hard to explain, but sometimes men just need to figure out an optimal strategy for defeating a 250 pound jaguar in a cage match.
2/27 Unless you're actively going for it, boners are more of an itch than anything else, and masturbation is the scratch
3/27 How extra careful and nice you have to be so you do not scare some people, especially small children and women.
4/27 I feel many women are unaware of how common it is for men to experience depression and other psychological difficulties. We just bury them down and let them fester because it is "unmanly" to have psychological problems. There is such a large stigma with it for men.
So ladies and gents, if your friend or SO is acting unlike themselves, talk to them. Who knows you may even save a life.
5/27 If you're a guy who is not old or decrepit, you could be called upon randomly at anytime to carry something heavy.
Also, if you are 6 feet or more, old ladies will ask you to reach stuff for them at the grocery store.
6/27 If I'm alone in my room, I'll have my hands in my pants. I don't even have a reason, it's not naughty or dirty in any way, it doesn't even feel good. I just do it.
7/27 How utterly socially alone we are sometimes. Most women seem to have many friends that they could call on in a second to provide deep emotional support.
No guy friend has ever put their arm around me and told me it's going to be ok. I don't know any man I could cry to or just be with if I'm feeling down and desperate.
Sure we can relate, and we can complain to each other. We can go out for a drink and talk and listen to problems and give solid advice and be there for the other guy. It doesn't seem the same as the emotional support I see many women have, it's an incredible gift to be able to let yourself go.
8/27 If you put an eye tracking camera on the average dude and reviewed the footage of them walking down the street it would be a sea of breasts and butts. I barely know what my own main road looks like because every time I walk down it I'm looking at the rear of the girl walking in front.
9/27 The constant absence of romance for many men. I really think most women fail to realize the effect it has when you have an okcupid account for like 2 years and never once getting a message. Then on top of that many men frequently try to express that they like a girl and are turned down. Repeatedly. For years and years.
Many men can go many years with the certainty that no woman is thinking of them romantically and many even with open disgust. I mean it's not absolutely terrible because most men I think learn to just dull out how depressing it really is and many of them (myself included) have extremely fulfilling male and male friendships. Even though, the truth is always there and sometimes you think about how shitty it is.
10/27 We can be incredibly insecure about our looks. Sorry for not being a Six-pack f*cking jacked 10/10 6 foot 4 model.
11/27 Chest hair is super good for lathering soap.
12/27 There is a nothing box, it does exist, and when I'm driving home from work or watching tv, I'm really genuinely thinking about nothing.
13/27 Unsticking your balls from the side of your thigh on a hot day. Also the dangers of accidentally crushing them if you sit at a weird angle or shift around in your seat.
14/27 That immediately following an orgasm we lose virtually all emotion.
It brings crystal clarity in our brain because it is literally the only time in our lives that 95% of our brain power isn't thinking about sex.
15/27 Being complimented, for any reason, is weird. Men don't get compliments as frequently as women do. And when we actually are complimented, we believe there might be malice or sarcasm within a compliment where none exist - simply because of the infrequency of it.
16/27 Some of us really wouldn't mind if you made the first move.
17/27 It might just be me but I can never tell whether or not I am at least a semi-attractive person. It's like I can look at a few women and know which one I think looks the best but if I look at a few guys (save for exceptionally ugly ones), it's really hard to tell who looks the best. To me they are just dudes and so am I. Hard to know if I'm attractive to women or not and my mind automatically assumes no.
18/27 Random boners and our ability to go on with what we were doing. There is an outstanding chance that a guy has spoken directly to your face with a random boner.... just tucked up into the waistband, half an inch of cloth away from poking out and smiling at you.
19/27 The constant sexual deviancy we must bury deep inside.
20/27 If you piss a man off and he says he wants to be alone, he wants to be alone. This is not an opportunity for you to try to break into his isolation sphere and talk.
21/27 That when I (a white guy) take my (black) nephews out to the park, I get looks from women that are the "He is a sexual predator". I have had police come up to me twice because women thought I was there planning on stealing someone's kid even though I was there with my nephews. Another time, I was walking with my nephews and a women came up to me, looked at them and said "Do you know this man?" They said yes and she said "Are you sure, he didn't take you or is hurting you is he?" This is something that I have heard other guys deal with too, not just myself.
22/27 The satisfaction of a good pinch and roll.
23/27 The sort of "silent expectation." It's a difficult thing to articulate but it basically boils down to a sense of carrying everyday weight on ones shoulders in the absence of recognition or validation.
As a man you have absolutely no implicit value. With women there is a sense of validation, support, and even celebration surrounding many aspects of your life. Men are not seen as having any sense of valuable identity, beauty, or character. A woman with a career and a college degree is a unique success and glowing individual who is to be celebrated. A man with a career and a degree is only ever "good enough," to meet the expectation enough that you aren't ridiculed or seen ostensibly as a failure. Women with high levels of sexual activity may be called slut behind their backs, but they are also celebrated as being empowered. Promiscuous men are called assholes and considered predatory for expressing their sexuality . Many gorgeous men spend their entire lives without ever being complimented once by anyone other than their mother.
Patriarchal structures give men many societal advantages, but from a social psychological standpoint men tend to live lives devoid of positive reinforcement or celebration of the things they do or represent. If that makes any kind of sense? Not to whine or anything, just an observation.
24/27 That I don't mean more than I say. There is no secret meaning hidden in every sentence. It means what it says, nothing else.
25/27 The satisfaction of pissing a skid mark off the side of the toilet.
26/27 When your dick touches the toilet seat. They will never know the struggle. Never.
27/27 Watching your own children playing in the park and being questioned by a random woman what you're doing there.
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Racism is an insidious, and unfortunately prevalent, force in all of our daily lives. Maybe we're on the receiving end of it, being treated differently and losing opportunities because of others' preconceived notions.
Or maybe we're on the other side of things. Even those who aren't actively racist or discriminatory still have to process the world through the filters of the things they've been told about people who are different.