27 Pregnant Women Reveal The Rudest Thing Someone Has Said About Their Pregnancy.
Pregnant people of Reddit were asked: "What's the rudest/most unwelcome thing someone has said to you about your pregnancy?" These are some of the best answers.
1/27 I was 20, but looked 15ish. "Didn't anybody ever teach you to keep a quarter between your knees?"
2/27 I've had a couple wonderful comments, but the most unwelcome was "At least if you lose this baby, you can always try for a girl!" I'm currently expecting my second son.
3/27 "It's not really your baby because you're on Medicaid. It's mine because I paid for it with my taxes." - my lovely mother
By the way, I was working and also pay taxes.
4/27 "You're having a girl, aren't you? I can always tell. Girls steal your beauty." -Relative who was subsequently disowned
5/27 I am currently not wearing my wedding ring at 36 weeks. My feet, legs, hands, and fingers are swollen so much I feel like a Macy's day parade balloon.
"Oh, is everything okay with you and the daddy?" No, I ate him, get out of my face or I will eat you too.
6/27 My husband and I announced that we were pregnant to the family this Easter. At the time I was 12 weeks along. Last October we lost our first pregnancy at 11 weeks and it was horrible! His grandmother had the nerve to respond "Well, I mean, it's not as exciting as the first time you were pregnant but at least you're farther along than the last".
I cried in the guest room.
7/27 "You sure it isn't twins" is always a winner. Right up there with the disgusted looks when I tell a stranger they cannot touch my belly. :-\
8/27 I lost a ton of weight after my first was born. About 110lbs. The store manager where I worked would always comment on my weight loss, little things like I was "wasting away" etc. Anyhow, I get pregnant with my second and as soon as I started showing: "Wow, you just keep packing that weight back on, huh? Must be hard. All that work you did was for nothing because you just keep packing that weight back on." It seems so petty and small, but it hurt. I worked really hard to get in shape and here this b*tch was getting a lot of joy out of tearing me down.
9/27 A few days ago one of my patients was asking me about training and my schedule and it came up that I won't be able to travel for away rotations because I'll have a newborn. She asked if I had a newborn, and I reiterated that I would have a newborn in a week. She told me she didn't think I was pregnant, just really fat, and she'd been wondering how I was going to be a good doctor if there were simple things I couldn't do (I couldn't bend down to the ground to put her shoes on her feet).
Then she grilled me on my lack of wedding band. I haven't been wearing my rings because they don't fit. Because I am nearly 39 weeks pregnant. I am having a baby in a week, but I don't look pregnant. K.
10/27 Was pregnant with my first at age 24/25. I was shopping at a local pharmacy/convenience store in which two elder ladies started to use that "shocked" sarcastic tone between each other making sure I could hear them. The topic was "Oh what a shame it is for all these children to having children. Teenagers should just learn how to keep out of trouble!" type exchange.
I realized they were talking about me, assuming I was a pregnant teenager, and I too was too bloated to wear my wedding ring. So I chimed in "Yes, It's a shame when teenagers don't plan their pregnancies or use birth control. I'm just glad I was smart enough and waited until I was married and in my mid-twenties to have my family".
I then checked out in a very glorious, but awkward silence.
11/27 So I got crazy sick with my second kid. Uncontrollable barfing (30+ times a day). I was hospitalized 9 times by the eleventh week for ketones in my urine/dehydration/electrolyte imbalance/malnutrition when I got a permanent IV line (PICC line) and home healthcare so I could mainline massive amounts of antiemetic drugs and give up trying to drink and just do IV hydration.
Random people everywhere: "Oh, have you tried crackers and ginger ale?" Yeah, because I totally went for a PICC line without first trying the easiest/least invasive treatment. Runner up "Oh yeah I/my wife had horrible morning sickness, too. She threw up every day for a month. It was horrible." Please, tell me again how horrible it was. I never got that lucky and I wish I had it that good!
12/27 I didn't find out the sex of the baby ahead of time, and that was apparently shocking for some people. So many people were flabbergasted that we wouldn't have a pink or blue nursery- I even had someone who was very concerned about what kind of clothes we would bring the baby home from the hospital in- hopefully my son was not too emasculated in his yellow onesie!
13/27 My first trimester, I brought ziplock bags with me wherever I went and was throwing up on buses and subways frequently ...the looks people gave me. Or the snide comments. I've had people tell me I'm obviously an alcoholic, I need to get my life together, or that I'm a mess.
Once, I managed to get off the train in time and was vomiting into a snow bank, and these college kids walked by me and went "Ohhhhhh! WASTED!" And in between heaves I said "no, pregnant!" And these freaking jerks said "ohhhhh got herself accidentally knocked up" so I held up my hand to show my wedding rings (while still heaving) and said "No, married and trying for a baby and after a miscarriage, I'm pregnant, leave me the F**K alone!"
14/27 "If you keep growing like that..you'll have a ten pound baby!!!"
15/27 While my wife was pregnant we went to a ren fest in Michigan and a man selling pickles asked her, "Is it congratulations, or are you just fat?" I wanted to laugh, but the murder in her eyes made a good argument against it.
16/27 During my first trimester, I was taking to someone about going out to get ice cream for my birthday. Person told me "the little one doesn't need a lot so don't eat too much."
I don't keep ice cream at home, so it was really a special treat. It's like I just can't eat a normal amount of ice cream on my birthday...I got a small like I was planning on it (screw the mini, it was my birthday).
People treat you like you are just an incubator and no longer a person.
17/27 "You shouldn't tell people yet in case you have a miscarriage." My SO didn't even know the lady.
18/27 "You should have a c section. No guy is going to want you when your vajayjay is all torn up." My coworker, my cousin, my dad, and a few other people, various times, being honest. Never mind that I'm married and have already given birth once vaginally.
Husband says that he doesn't remember prepreg vajayjay well, but that he thinks it still feels good. And yes, he has said that to some of the people who won't let up. I just tend to blush and defend myself.
19/27 "I hope it's a boy, for your husband's sake."
20/27 When I was pregnant with my first, I worked at a small, local cafe that had apartments for teen moms upstairs. I look young. I regularly get id'ed. More than once someone asked if I lived upstairs. No biggie until this lady followed up the question with "Oh, I assumed you where a teen mom based on your tattoos, you seem like you have made a number of bad choices."
21/27 This isn't really rude, but what got incredibly annoying was people at work saying things like "you're still here?" or some sort of variation of that, for approximately the last 3 months of my pregnancies. No b*tch, actually I had my fat pregnant a** cloned and the real me is sitting home with my feet up and eating cookies all day.
22/27 "Do you know what you're having? Cause if you remember what position you were in when you conceived, it'll determine the gender".
Thanks random lady in the grocery store. No, its okay, you didn't have to say hi or introduce yourself. I'm just public property right? Everyone instantly knows me because I'm cooking something up in my uterus? That's cool. And by the way, kind of awkward asking about my sexual experience!
23/27 Coworker starts by telling me how beautiful I look.....just like her friend who was pregnant. So much like her friend. Asks how far along I am, "Oh, that's exactly how far along my friend was." Proceeds to tell me how her friend's baby died in the same week of pregnancy and how she was there in the delivery room. Describes every f*cking detail of watching a dead baby be born.
24/27 I'm overweight. I know this. At 12 weeks pregnant, I wasn't showing yet. It was just fat. But I was at work and a woman asked how far along I was. So I told her. Then she said "You might want to have them double check your due date."
25/27 I was adopted and my mom hadn't been able to get pregnant before. When I was around 2 years old she finally managed to get pregnant! My aunt told her that she was praying to God that my mother would lose the baby because she thinks my mother wouldn't love me as much as her biological child. Mom started crying and dad screamed at her and punched her husband in the face when he said he agreed.
26/27 "Oh hey there Mrs. Waddles" (I had worked 20+hours in surgery and was 20 weeks pregnant and 5'2") my feet hurt and I about punched her.
27/27 I'm 8 months and still really small, like barely showing.
One person has accused me of lying about / faking my pregnancy because I don't post ultrasounds and OB appointment recaps on Facebook.
"It wasn't me!"
There's not much you can do when the righteous fist of the law comes down on you. Call it a mix-up, or call it a mistake, if someone's pegged you at the scene of a crime there's not much you can do but trust the justice system to prove you innocent. However, that's a gamble, and just because you've been given a "not guilty" doesn't mean the effects won't follow you for the rest of your life.
Reddit user, u/danbrownskin, wanted to hear about the times when it wasn't you, seriously, it was someone else, when they asked: