People Share The Most Profound Thing They've Heard That Changed Everything.
1/31. I was 34, with few skills, 3 young children, and just finalizing a divorce, when I was discussing what to do with my future. My friend suggested that I return to school, possibly to study my new found passion for geology. My response was, "yeah, but I'll be 40 by the time I graduate." Her life changing response; You'll be 40 anyway."
Now I am 42, and 3 semesters away from completing my 3rd (and last) degree.
2/31. My crazy German hippie Godfather once sat me down when I was an angsty self destructing teen and said "look, Kate, I love you and I will always, always be here to help you pick up the pieces- but goodness does there need to be so many pieces?"
3/31. As a teenager I started pouting after a coach yelled at me. He looked at me said "the time to worry is when I quit yelling at you because that means I've decided you're not worth the effort".
4/31. After my wife left me I had an older coworker tell me something like this:
"Nothing I can say to you is going to make things easier or help you get through this, but just know that I am here to listen if you decide you would like to talk."
I was so weighed down with friends and family who loved me giving me unsolicited advice when all I needed was someone who respected me enough to just listen. I always take this approach with people who are going through hard times. If you truly care about them just listen, eventually they will ask you for advice.
5/31. "Isn't it funny how day by day nothing changes but when we look back everything is different..." - C.S Lewis
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6/31. "Dn't ever make fun of some who speaks brken English, it means they speak another language."
Wow, I feel like crp now....
7/31. "It doesn't take talent to practice."
8/31. When I was 12, I was criticizing someone's project in shop class. A girl came up to me and told me very calmly "you're always criticizing people, why are you so mean?".
It was a very simple thing to say, but it hit me hard while my personality was still developing. I think her neutral tone was important too. Something clicked, and I realized she was right - I was kind of a jerk. It changed the way I behaved forever. I guarantee she does not remember the exchange, or even me at all.
Sometimes it doesn't have to be something poetically profound, just something true said with honesty at the right time in your life.
9/31. "An amateur practices until he can play it correctly, a professional practices until he can't play it incorrectly."
10/31. My wife was the the first person to tell me that holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.
It gets attributed to a number of people who probably didn't say it, but it really hit home when she was the one who told me.
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11/31. "The master has failed more times than the beginner has even tried" - Stephen McCranie
Saw it first on Reddit and it's stuck with me.
12/31. If you don't have time to do it right, you must have time to do it over.
13/31. When my dog passed, my grandma told me "Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional".
At first I thought what a pessimistic view this was, but over time I began to recognize the mental fortitude and optimism it contained.
14/31. This helped me get over cringing about thoughts in my past.
I can think of a few bad memories from middle school or whatever in a minute, but it takes me a hell of a lot longer to just barely remember something one of my friends or someone else has done that would make them feel the same way.
I don't care at all about what someone else has done that was embarrassing. I might've felt bad or laughed for a day, but I haven't ever thought about it since. Assuming most people are like this (worrying about what people think of them), no one else cares about what I've done, so there's absolutely no reason to stress.
Just take it easy and have fun!
15/31. "Motivation is fleeting... discipline is not"
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16/31. "If you want to be good at something you first must be willing to be bad at it."
My guitar teacher said this to me after I expressed that I felt like giving up because I wasn't making the progress I thought I should be making.
It made a lot of sense to me and it helps motivate me whenever I attempt something new.
17/31. "Every person sees the world in a unique way. When someone dies it is, in a way, the death of an entire world."
18/31. I was in San Francisco on a school trip and I went out of our hostel for a cigarette. I was going through some hard stuff at the time and wasn't handling it well. A homeless man came up and asked for a cig, so I gave him one and he sat and smoked with me. He asked what was bothering me, so I told him I was having some trouble with my girlfriend but I was okay, and he told me something I've never forgotten.
"Son, stop pretending you're okay. You're not okay. Sometimes in life crap happens and you won't be okay, but that's okay."
Really resonated with me. Helped me come to terms with a lot of things in the years since.
19/31. "The only time you look in your neighbor's bowl is to make sure that they have enough. You don't look in your neighbor's bowl to see if you have as much as them."
20/31. I was in McDonalds with my Dad when I was around 10 years old. I remember him asking me to take the tray to the bin at the end and I said "that's their jobs, someone else will do it."
My Dad said "someday you may have to do a job you don't particularly like and that other people could make easier or more difficult for you, you'll wish they made it easier."
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21/31. "Everyone is the main character of their life."
Now I stop and think whenever someone is being self absorbed. It's just they're excited over something that happened in their life because that's what's most important to them.
22/31. My old biology teacher told me "Don't judge a book by its cover, but be careful about the library it's in".
Basically a good judge of character is the people the other person hangs out with. Still get to know them, hence the "don't judge a book by its cover" bit, but at the same time watch out for the social habits they have. If they hang around mean people and do mean things maybe they aren't the best fit for you.
23/31. "No one thinks of themselves or their motives as evil."
Very important when writing antagonists in fiction.
24/. "If it takes less than five minutes, just do it now."
25/. When I was telling a friend of mine that I have a hard time believing that people can like me, since I don't like myself. She told me "we don't see you the way you see yourself". I know that depression alters the way I see the world, and that I see myself not as I should, but hearing that from someone else that actually cares about me really made it real. It's my go to quote now when I struggle. It made me realize that sometimes I just need to change my perspective.
26/31. 'Whatever crawls up his butt won't give me a belly ache' my grandad. Allows me to distance myself from other people's drama.
27/31. I'm a Software Engineer, and tend to do my best work when I am around people that are better than me. This quote has always stuck with me and I make a lot of decisions with it in mind. "If you're the smartest person in the room, you're in the wrong room."
28/31. Hanlon's Razor
"Never attribute to malice that which is adequately explained by stupidity."
People aren't mean, they're dumb, approach a situation from that angle and you're a lot less defensive, a lot more capable of understanding.
29/31. I don't remember it verbatim, but it was something along the lines of how parents raise good children but should instead be raising good adults. The thought blew my mind and really got me thinking.
Let kids be kids. Let them screw up occasionally and let them be sad every now and then. They're only preparing themselves for the real world and will be ready to face it when the time comes. Most parents do a great job raising good children and when those kids grow up, they're clueless how to handle real world problems.
30/31. "Some doors are closed for a reason."
Completely changed my life. I used to always be up into everyone's business, inviting them to share, "do you want to talk about it?" even pressuring when they didn't feel like it. After all, I believed, if you talk about it, you'll feel better. Truth is, people need to be able to control who they discuss their problems with and choose their own time for if/when they discuss it with others, and the last thing they need is some asshole encouraging them to "open up." Get off their backs! If they're not sharing their problems with you, assume there's a damn good reason and let it go. If they need you, they will find you.
31/31. "You are far more worried about what you say and do than anyone else is."
I put this as it was said to me, I didn't mean it to be applicable to everyone, especially politicians and Donald Trump.
You catch more flies with honey than with vinegar, or so the saying goes.
The same can be said for your interactions with cops, most of whom are perfectly happy to let minor infractions slide––When was the last time you were actually ticketed for jaywalking?––provided you're not a total Karen should you interact them.
Your local police officer likely doesn't care about jaywalking or the fact that you went five miles over the speed limit unless you give him a reason to, as we learned when Redditor Takdel asked police officers: "What stupid law have you enforced just because someone was an a-hole?"