People Share The Biggest Red Flags To Look For When Starting A New Job
Starting a new job is exciting... until the drama starts. Employers love to paint a rosy picture, but the realities of some jobs are grim.
CindarellaGTO asked: What are the biggest red flags you should look out for when you start a new job?
Submissions have been edited for clarity, context, and profanity.
High turnover and low morale.
I just started a new job last week and I already hate it. I think the biggest hint is "we've been so understaffed lately because so and so left, and the so and so also left, and...." I'm the only new employee in a group of people who've worked there for 16+ years and are so unbearable that I wanted to cry on my second day. The newbies just stop showing up.
Trust me. It doesn't get better. Stay if you need the money but start the new job hunt ASAP. These sorts of situations destroy your soul.
That was my last job at a grooming salon. I was clinically f*cking depressed for the three months I worked there. I had never hated working somewhere so much in my life.
Sounds like my old job. Worked with a bunch of 50 something's, I was less than half their age.
Bosses who are hypocrites.
A "do as I say, not as I do" mentality from supervisors or top management. I once worked for a company where the CEO sent a memo to all staff that it was "all hands on deck" to finish out the last two weeks of our fiscal year. Except for him. He went on a European vacation with his family.
My friend once worked at a media company in the Northeast, and there was huge blizzard that prompted a state of emergency and calls for people to stay home if they could. The CEO told all his employees that they had to come to work anyway. Except for him. He stayed home.
At my last job, the CEO/largest shareholder, after an absence of 4 months, sent out an email detailing company spending to all employees. He said it was "for transparency." He listed every employee's salary, except for his own. He also attempted to make projections about the profitability of each department, which should be nearly impossible considering that the company is very small and our products depended on the work of all departments.
During the 4 months he was gone, he'd spent $275,000 of company money at strip clubs, expensive restaurants and on bottle service at nightclubs. This was more than the company spent on the salary of all other employees during the same period combined. When this put the company into dire a dire financial situation. My friend/boss (who discovered his embezzlement, reported it to the board, and stepped in as acting CEO as the CEO went to rehab) and I were the only ones fired.
Too many bosses.
With newer or smaller companies, be wary of "top-heavy" staff.
10 employees but 5 owners/principals? Guess where all the salary money is going. Plus have fun having as many bosses as coworkers
Conversely, be wary of jobs that have hundreds of people also doing your same function. There will never be room for advancement and you're just a nameless worker bee.
Too many cooks will spoil the broth.
If you are expected to work right off without sufficient training. It reflects poorly on the company's management and likely also means that they don't care about the employees,
I started my current job and did literally nothing for the first month or so. I had a few required online trainings, but since my position was new there was no training or expectations. Nice in a way, but also very frustrating because I get vague directions and have to wing it.
With all my free time I've been working on a document of "guidelines" of what I do for the next person to take that position so they aren't just don't thrown in with no clue where to start or what's expected.
This is a very big red flag. Employees often over look it. But often it ends up being their demise. The company turns it back on them and fires for "performance."
No room for growth.
This happened at my old job:
During my annual review, boss did the standard "where do you see yourself in 5 years" question. I gave him a rather generic answer consistent with my goals. At the end of the review, I turned the question around and asked where he hoped to see me in 5 years.
He beat around the bush with it, but the answer was basically "doing the same exact thing."
I left the job a couple months later.
At the end of the review, I turned the question around and asked where he hoped to see me in 5 years.
Holy sh*t that's a good one. Ok, I'll try to use it in the next interview.
Lord, I wish I would have done this at my old job. Was the same sh*tty position for 4 years before finally realizing it was going no where despite the ever carrot-on-a-stick: "oh, we'll be moving you up in X season."
Poor job reviews.
Glassdoor reviews shouldn't be taken too seriously but if there's a constant then there's usually a good reason.
It doesn't hurt to be especially cautious.
Also, if the Glassdoor review is five stars and sounds like it was written by someone still working for the company's HR department...it probably was.
About 2 years ago, after my workplace made 40 people redundant and the culture went to shit, so did the Glassdoor reviews. Suddenly, a bunch of 5 star reviews started appearing all worded very similar and making the place sound like Disneyland.
Gossip. If someone leaves the room and everyone gathers to talk sh*t about them, they probably do the same thing to you.
I've had this on my part time job, after I exited the room I overheard coworkers talking sh*t so after I came back I immediately said 'What kinda sh!t were you talking about me?' The look of devastation on their faces was priceless.
There are two sides to this. Where I work the company tells us nothing, it's like people disappear in the middle of the night.
Our branch's HR rep was let go and replaced by someone from our corporate branch several months ago. I have still received no explicit communication announcing this fact. The only way I know any of this is through gossip.
Gossip sucks, but a lot of times it exists simply because there is a vacuum of information.
The work turn over is going to be in this thread a lot but you should also look for large gaps in tenure.
If there are people that have been in a company for under a year and people that have been there for over ten and nothing in between that means you have just walked into a good ol' boys club. If you are not one of the people that have not been there for a long time, or even from when the company started, you are never going to fit in or be treated like anything but the new kid. Your ideas will not be taken seriously and you are just there to get done what no one else wants to do and you better be doing it their way or you are going to be shown the door.
In this situation. Can confirm that this is what it is. They told me they'd be open to new suggestions and would love some fresh eyes in the place. Whenever I suggest a new way to do something, I get hit with the "well this is how we've always done it, just do it that way." Annoying.
This is spot on. I've seen places where people have been there for 10 years or 1 year, hardly any in-between. It happens a lot in sales. The tenured employees have all the good accounts. If you are new, you have to "build up your business." When in reality, relying on nothing but new developed business is not feasible. You need to be thrown a bone here and there at the least.
A lack of work/life balance.
During an interview for a fairly big consulting company i was told multiple times, unsolicited, how they valued work/life balance. It only took a few weeks at that job to realize that was BS. Maybe the managers had good work/life balance, but not the consultants.
That phrase is now a red flag to me, especially if its said without me asking about the topic
Their work life balance comes at your expense.
I had an old boss that would lecture is about work life balance. We joked that he meant he would work as much as he wanted, and with the balance of his time he could have a life but we weren't allowed to do that.
He was an intense dude. As director of operations he worked just over 200 days straight one time, holidays, weekends, everything. A day off for him was only working 6 hours instead of 10.
He didn't expect that of us and actually would tell us to go home if we didn't take at least a day and a half a week and would not let us work more than 8 days in a row. We were hourly though, the job was demanding of our attention but my peers and I (sort of middle managers/team supervisors) loved to work. He eventually had to cap us at 60 hours a week and we had to have 10 hours off property between shifts.
I miss that job and I'm glad I'm out of it at the same time.
Tension with management.
When people act literally fearful of the boss, or if the entire atmosphere changes when the boss walks onto the floor. If your manager doesn't take you around to introduce you to your new colleagues, I'd be concerned because that would show they don't care who you are.
Bossman Buttf*ckMcgee has lead our company into the future for the absolute best but there isn't a single person in my company that doesn't try to avoid him like the plague. Lots of capslock and !!!!!!!! in emails and will snap at the drop of a hat.
My first "serious" job was like that. The department manager was a mildly pleasing lady, but she ruled with an iron
handfist. People always kept busy, looking down or at the monitor, and there was a hush in the entire office.
I had a
guy gut feeling right from the start when she walked me around at the interview stage. But I needed the job so I walked into it and hoped for the best.
By the time I quit the company, I had a lot to say at the exit interview.
Have you ever found yourself in an argument so stupid and/or pointless that you were sure you were being punked? Like you keep looking away from the other person to check your surroundings for places Ashton Kutcher and a camera crew could come popping out of?
You're not the only one.
u/Anti-hollowkid asked: What is the dumbest argument you've ever been in?Brace yourselves, folks. Some of these arguments are breathtakingly bonkers. The sheer number of people who are willing to argue with someone over provable facts and what that other person likes or doesn't like is just ... stunning. It's stunning, you guys. Just not in a good way.
I Know What I LikeGiphy
My wife and I once argued over whether or not I liked mustard on my hot dog. I was for me liking mustard, she was against me liking mustard.
The argument lasted way longer that you could ever imagine it would.
A Stair Step
My brother and I argued if our staircase had 13 or 14 steps, based on an argument about if the floor of the second floor counts as a stair-step or not. We still have no solution.
My dad is a stairbuilder and I spent many summers working at his warehouse, so I can clear this up. 14.
My husband and I have this thing where we only say "I love you" on Saturdays. Every other day it's "I love you, but only on Saturdays." I don't know how it started, but it's been going for 11 years now.
We're both shiftworkers, so sometimes we have to stop and think what day it actually is. We had an argument recently over whether it was Saturday or not. I said it was Saturday, he said it was Friday. It was Monday.
I remember when I was about 13 my parents had an hour-long shouting match that ended with them almost getting divorced. The issue? Whether or not the nation of Iraq has a coastline.
My mother arguing that Iraq had a coastline, while my stepdad argued that it did not. This was back in 2004, and they are still quite happily married to this day. That incident is something they look back on and laugh about, and both of them admit it was really a pretty stupid thing to argue over.
With an ex:
"I owe you $80 for the bills of ours that you pay, and you owe me $40 for the bills of ours that I paid. Here's $40 in cash; we're even."
She did not understand this.
I literally had to go get another $40 out of the ATM, and hand the $80 to her. Then I had her hand me the $40 she owed me.
"Now how much do you have in your hand?"
She still didn't understand.
She somehow has a college degree.
When we were kids my brother and I got in a physical fight because he said I like mini wheats and I insisted I didn't. His argument was that I always sang the mini wheats song and I was deeply offended that he wasn't aware that it was just stuck in my head but I hated the cereal. I actually did like the cereal I'm not sure why I was arguing with him about it but I remember how genuinely angry I was.
I'll tell you about the only legal trouble I've ever been in, the fight that got me arrested. It started over whether we should return a box of crayons or not, and to this day I don't have any idea how it escalated to the point of the cops being called, but they were and I was the one taken in.
My boyfriend insisted that when two people are in an argument and one makes a point so reasonable and logical the other one can't disagree with it - it's unfair. I tried, logically and reasonably, to explain several times why that is just winning the argument, proving your point thoroughly and is completely fair.
His answer was that I was being unfair.
How the ch in masochism is pronounced. My friend caught me saying "masoKism" while he would say "masoSYism."
To be fair, he grew up speaking French, in which the ch in masochism is pronounced in "his" way. But he insisted that I was the wrong one here and that was just infuriating.
A woman was adamant that looking at the big solar eclipse on the television was unsafe unless you were wearing glasses. She wouldn't believe us and insisted on emailing NASA to check.
A Non-Standard Ruler?
I worked for a company that made signs. We had a customer ask for signs that were 7mm wide that were to go on a door. Our sign makers figured the order meant inches because 7mm is pretty small, so made them 7 inches. I got a phone call from the customer who went mad at me for making them the wrong size. So I put a reorder through for 7 mm.
Argued with the sign makers over it but they eventually agreed to do it after I shown them the order in writing. I even had the customer put her complaint in writing, reiterating the size they wanted.
7mm signs went out and a day later I get the customer on the phone literally screaming at me.
Cue the dumb argument - we ended up having an argument over how big a millimetre is, and obviously everyone in the office were laughing, but this customer just wouldn't accept it and said we must be using a non-standard ruler to measure.
Ended up being escalating to the sales department manager who refused to issue a refund. We still don't know what they actually meant.
This Unusual Vegan Argument
Was in a pub with a few friends, and some random Dude dropped an ear, and somehow figured I'm vegan. Well, people like him are the reason I usually avoid mentioning it. He came up to me and insisted on starting a discussion about veganism. He claimed that by the end of it, I would be eating meat again.
He listed some stupid arguments, I told him I was not convinced and then tried to keep on drinking beer with my friends. He followed me, and wanted me to "try to convert him to a vegan." I stupidly listed some of my reasons thinking it would make him go away. He told me he still was not convinced, so I was like whatever. Again, I really just wanted to drink beer with my friends.
That dude followed me all night and expected me to try make him vegan. Doesn't matter what I said, and all the reasons that for me are obviously good enough to be vegan. He'd be just like "No, that doesn't convince me, therefore your argument and how you life is stupid."
Didn't matter how often I told him that I honestly don't care; 5 minutes later he would come up to me again "I'm still not vegan, so veganism is stupid, all your arguments were stupid, now give me a good reason to become vegan!" At one point, I was literally yelling at him that I don't give a single flying f about what he eats and why, that it's in no way my responsibility to "turn somebody vegan" and in no way his business what I eat.
Honestly, for that dude, I would have bought a whole ham, just to shove it up his stupid annoying face.
In college my roommate and I argued about a line in Monty Python & the Holy Grail. The scene with the Black Knight where the line "Alright, we'll call it a draw" is uttered. We argued about who said that line, whether it was King Arthur or the Black Knight.
It went on for hours longer than it should have because I was stubborn and refused to admit I was wrong.
Albert or ArnoldGiphy
Whether Albert Einstein or Arnold Schwarzenegger would be more useful to have around during a Zombie apocalypse. How on earth would Albert Einstein come in handy!?
Below Sea Level
I live on an island and when you go upland and you look out the sea looks like it's higher than or on the same level as the land. It's just a weird perspective thing because of the horizon. One day some kid says that it's because the island is under sea level.
I'm like wtf bro all of us would be with the fishes. He argues that no that's not true and if I just go upland I'll see. We then spend a good 5 minutes of my time arguing about it until I decided to leave this kid in his stupidity. He even said we shouldn't believe everything adults tell us and sometimes we need to think for ourselves.
This kid was older than me and was going to a good school. Lost my respect for him ever since then.
Someone tried to fight with me over how to spell my name.
Now, my name is in a lot of languages with slightly different spellings. I would have accepted any of those spellings, but this one was just... Not even close. It didn't make any logical sense.
An analogous example is if my name was Thomas and someone was insisting it was spelled Tomash. And not just the name Thomas in general, but that me specifically, on my birth certificate, was named Tomash. I know how to spell my own name.
I swear to god, it went on for like an hour.
Whales Are Mammals
I was in an online chat room one day, and we were talking about whales. I commented on how whales are mammals and the next thing you know, someone was arguing with me and trying to convince me that a whale was a fish.
Stupid microwaves. Having a man child talk down to me about how microwaves work only for him to google it and prove me right. He slept on the sofa that night.
My friend keeps telling me that the norm is that a person should shower once a week. This has been going on for years. I'm almost convinced he's trolling me.
No Balloons For Grandma
My cousin and I argued over a balloon going to Heaven. We were at his big sisters prom send off and he let a balloon go and it went high into the sky.
He then said this balloon will go up past space and go to Heaven and reach grandma (God rest her soul). And I was like no it's not and it's probably not even gonna reach space. Releasing balloons is terrible for the environment and kills/harms so much wildlife.
He got really mad and defensive and started telling me to google it and do my research and I'm like I don't have to google it you idiot. He was mad at me for a good week.
Spontaneous Dolphin ExistenceGiphy
How dolphins reproduced. It took me a few solid minutes of explaining to her that dolphins have reproductive organs and that they did not just pop into existence. The argument began with her saying she wanted to work with sea creatures.
Personally, I hope she was messing with me cause I lost a little faith in humanity that day.
I repeatedly had the argument with a friend over whether roosters were chickens. She was convinced that only the females were chickens (hens). We were 18 at the time.
Me and my friend were drinking underage, we ended up in an argument of whether lightning McQueen's eyes were blue or green. Somehow throughout the whole thing both of us never thought to straight up google a picture.
But ... Ice Floats
Woman wanted ice on the bottom of her drink.
Now read that sentence again and try to imagine arguing with that particular brand of stupid.
Time Zones Exist
Coworker claimed that it was the same time of day and the same season on the whole globe. Had to get 4 coworkers to confirm to him that time zones do in fact exist.
My brother is colorblind. And he CONSTANTLY tries to correct me on what color things are.
"Hey could you hand me that red _____?"
"no, it's red"
"YOU CANT EVEN KNOW"
It is the base of our most common and heated arguments.
I'm late, but I saw this question and instantly remembered that I was booted from a Facebook group because I called someone out on a lie that was not only bull, but extremely pointless. She was friends with the moderator and they made the case that my argument over such a little lie was more of a problem than the lie itself (though they didn't refer to it as a lie.)
The woman said that she used to babysit for Andre 3000 and that his name was Andre 2000 - but he changed it after the year 2000 had passed. This was so easily disproven it was ridiculous. Their debut album came out in 1994 and he was already going by Andre 3000 at that time.
The argument wasn't a huge long drawn out thing, but the fact that either of us were on Facebook at separate times meant that the responses were over a long period of time so this argument lasted a few days.
It was stupid.
Stars Like Our Sun
I was arguing with my grandpa about stars he didn't believe that there are other stars like our sun. Basically he thought there is only the sun, the moon and the earth.
I have a degree in history. I mostly focused on nationalism. Wrote a 50 page paper on it and Richard Nixon with around 50 100 sources. Looked at micro film for hours on end. Part of the paper focused on how Nixon being chair of the house committee of Unamerican Activities was used as a powerful weapon to use against political enemies. It also inspired Joe McCarthy. Have had people tell me I was wrong and Nixon was never elected to a position besides the president and Joe McCarthy came before Nixon. I stopped trying to talk history to people.
I also know quite a bit about the history of the Balkans its amazing how many Serbs refuse to believe Tito did anything wrong.
Wrote 100 page paper on nationalism in Israel. Its frustrating to talk about because for some reason a lot of people think Palestinian firing rockets randomly into Israel is ok but if Israel retaliates the people get up in arms over a targeted air strike that kills 3 people.
Balloon to Heaven
My cousin and I argued over a balloon going to Heaven. We were at his big sisters prom send off and he let a balloon go and it went high into the sky. He then said this balloon will go up past space and go to Heaven and reach grandma (God rest her soul). And I was like no it's not and it's probably not even gonna reach space.
And he got really mad and defensive and started telling me to google it and do my research and I'm like I don't have to google it you idiot. He was mad at me for a good week.
I got into an argument with a co-worker over how we were attaching two pages of a letter together: small binder clips or paper clips.
He felt that paper clips would leave a "dent" in the paper when removed, but binder clips won't. He refused to staple them together. I felt that binder clips would also leave a "dent", so we might as well just use the paper clips.
It ended with him saying: "Do what you want [me], I don't care!" and storming off.
Once got accused of faking being Jewish. Why? I have no clue. We argued over the course of a month, any time I'd bring it up and she heard about it, she'd begin going after me for "faking it".
My mother's side is ethnically Jewish. Grandparents were practicing.
3 friends and I once got into an argument about how to pronounce Nutella. It lasted for about 3-4 months. It was hilarious how serious we took it, it'd get heated but never for real serious.
I think someone even called the company that made it to check, or that may have been for the Cheetos company. We were really bored in high school.
Late to the party, but there it is.
I'm a manager at a small store. We're only 4 working there, so my team and I grew very close and we joke around a lot. Once during a slow shift, my employee and I had an argument because we were looking at the lingerie boxes, and I thought that two specific boxes had the same woman on it, but she was 100% positive they weren't the same person.
Looking back, I don't know why it was such a big deal to us at the time, but we even called another employee who lives across the street to come and tell us what the heck was up with that. Turns out I was right, and she was pretty salty about it. It was a great night.
Wicked Witch of the West
I almost got into an argument with an old girlfriend over Glinda the good witch from Oz. She insisted that Glinda was manipulating Dorothy to assassinate the Wicked Witch of the West and convince the Wizard to leave to create a political void she could fill.
I conceded the issue when I heard the whole premise because I thought it was too damn stupid to get worked up over.
Keep Your Hands to Yourself
Just the other day I legit got in an argument with my co-workers on why I don't like my butt being grabbed by anyone (I'm a guy). Seriously.
They went on about "I don't mind it. Mike and I do it all the time and we don't care." Yeah, that's nice dude, but I'm not you, and there's something called "Keep your hands to yourself" (which was taught to a good portion of us growing up). Just like how Karen wouldn't like it if I touched her boobs or her grabbing your crotch or frankly ANY area you wouldn't like being grabbed, keep away. In general, you should not be touching me in any areas after I've told you not to several times before.
So unless you're sleeping me or dating me, keep your damn hands off my toosh.
My best friend and I argued over whether or not telekinesis was possible. Her argument was that humans don't yet know what the human brain at 100% usage was capable of, and that telekinesis was inside the possibilities.
I said the brain does use 100%, just at different times.
We didn't speak to each other for four days.
How dolphins reproduced and whether or not ghost existed (back to back with the same person). It took me a few solid minutes of explaining to her that dolphins have reproductive organs and that they did not just pop into existence (the argument began with her saying she wanted to work with sea creatures).
How it shifted to the existence of ghosts is a solid and reasonable question to ask (I don't remember why). I had to then proceed to tell her that ghost hunting TV shows do not constitute as undeniable evidence.
Personally, I hope she was messing with me cause I lost a little faith in humanity that day. This was in high school SO... hopefully she was kidding.
Dogs and ChocolateGiphy
I told this stupid woman that chocolate is toxic to dogs. She went on to tell me how a little bit will just make them hyper and then they will calm down. I told her to google it. Her and her bf shut right up. Now they have a kid. Good luck, Jeremy and Andrea. morons.
I should also add that this argument started because Jeremy was giving his tiny dog chocolate and I told him it was toxic.
Is water wet?
My roommate and I have a recurring argument over whether or not water is wet l, and whether or not a person is considered wet underwater.
For the record, it is no to both questions.
A kid a church telling me about the mission trip I went on. Not only was I not on that trip, but I had never been on any mission trip. We were good friends, so it's not like he would've mistaken someone else for me.
He insisted I was there as if an entire week long trip would just fall out of my memory. He even had stories of things we'd done together. I'm not sure if he thought I was lying, joking, stupid, or crazy, but I was pretty sure he was some combination thereof.
One time I got into a shouting match with my mom and little brother in the car. The issue? The names of the two-headed dragon from the PBS kids afternoon show Dragon Tales. I swore it was Zack and Macie.
It was actually Zak and Wheezie. I don't even remember why we were yelling about it.
Green Or Yellow?
When I was about 15 or so my mother and I spent about 20-30 minutes arguing about the color of a shirt. We agreed it was blue/green, but to me it was just a shade more blue, while to her it was just a bit more green.
Turns out, your eyeballs yellow as you age and hers were 24 years yellower than mine, so I think that skewed her color vision.
Stars In Their MultitudeGiphy
I once got in an argument over whether or not a line from the song "Stars" in Les Mis says "...but mine is the way of the lord" or "mine is the way of the law".
I didn't even really care what he thought but he was so adamant and cocky that it got me heated. By the end of it we were shouting at each other and I had to apologize, which I think is what he wanted the whole time.
My brother is colorblind. And he CONSTANTLY tries to correct me on what color things are.
"Hey could you hand me that red _____?" "that's orange" "no, it's red" "orange" "YOU CANT EVEN KNOW".
It is the base of our most common and heated arguments.
About five years ago, my girlfriend (now wife) once had a very intense argument about whether or not hot water cleaned things better than cold water.
She genuinely believed that water temperature didn't matter. This is someone who has not one, but two masters degrees.
We argued for something like 2 hours, and we seriously almost broke up over the whole thing.
I had an argument with a girl IN THE MIDDLE OF A BIOLOGY CLASS in high school about how humans are not mammals. She thought a human was a human and we are not mammals because "mammals are animals and humans are not animals"
I tried explaining to her the difference between reptiles and mammals and how humans fall under the mammal category to try and educate her... but she just wouldn't listen.
I still have no idea why the BIOLOGY teacher did not get involved...
Solid Or Liquid?
Some classmates and I got into a heated debate as to whether or not the human body could count as a soup, salad, or sandwich. The teacher got mad at us, but hey! All we were doing was watching a movie.
For the record, my logic lays with soup- Liquid contained within a solid, at a hot temperature.