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Bridesmaids Share Their Best Bridezilla Stories

Just tell your friends to elope...

Brides can be a bit much. We all know that. Their wedding is only the biggest day of their lives. So they are allowed a little leeway. But there is a point when nerves furlough into bats**t crazy! Who has thousands of dollars to spend as a bridesmaids? And the wedding party is not entitled to turn their lives over to the bride; someone should tell her that. Their are some wedding tales even fiction can't cover. It's just a party, not a world event ladies.

Redditor u/PuppieWayne wanted the bridesmaids of the internet to tell us a few tales asking... Bridesmaids of Reddit who was involved in a bridezilla wedding, what happened?


50. Be Legally Blonde... 

Bride was blonde. All bridesmaids except for me were brunette. She asked me to dye my hair brown for the wedding because she, "wanted to be the only blonde." I suggested that instead I just give up my bridesmaid spot. Thankful to this day since I heard the dresses and bachelorette party cost all the other girls more money than I make in a month.

kmmurky

49. Girl you cray... 

She asked 16 girls to be bridesmaids. In the year and a half between the engagement and wedding, all but 6 dropped out (3 were her sisters). She wanted 16 separate shades of blue and 16 different styles of dresses for each bridesmaid then threw a fit when the store didn't have that many options. She demanded everyone pay for a week long bachelorette party in Vegas (including her share) and then got mad when some people opted out (I was a single mom/college student at the time). Her parents gave her a $20,000 budget and she ended up spending $100k and demanding they pay for it- they took out a loan they are still paying off.

She wanted everyone to have the same shade of hair so she asked the two blonde bridesmaids to dye their hair (they declined). She paid for nothing for the bridesmaids (traditionally the brides pay for something- the hair/makeup or the dress) but demanded we purchase specific shoes, jewelry, dress, etc plus hair and makeup. And stay the entire weekend at the hotel she was getting married at. All told, costs for the wedding- not including a gift- was well over $2k per bridesmaid. This was mostly amongst college age women in a poor/middle class area. She also had three separate engagement parties/bridal showers.

Final straw for me was when she demanded to see my toast a month prior so she could edit it. She ended up rewriting it totally.

I skipped the wedding totally and ended our friendship. They did end up getting married and 6+ years later he seems absolutely miserable.

hotel_girl985

48. Gross.... 

I was almost in a bridezilla wedding... I had an ectopic pregnancy (baby attached to my tube, which then burst, and I almost bleed to death).. She got engaged shortly following my ectopic. When she asked me to be her bridesmaid , she told me that I would be required to wait to try to have another baby until after her wedding in 1.5 years...

not because there would be a small child at the wedding, not even because she didn't want me fat at her wedding... but because if I lost another child, it would take away from her engagement and wedding.. I was so shocked I just declined and have never spoken to her since.

MommaBearJam

47. Flowers should be cheaper... 

My wife's best friend is a florist by trade, gifted her services to decorate her friends wedding. (Big cost savings)

Wedding goes as planned all is good. Afterwards Bride & Brides mom get pissy at florist friend who didn't give a gift in the wedding card, "didn't even cover her/husband's plate" Let's conveniently forget the $1000 in floral products gifted to the wedding, it's a rift that never healed between them since.

Hard_at_it

46. Thanks dad... 

My dad had the audacity to die 6 weeks before the wedding, and she couldn't understand why that superseded her wedding details for me. I met my husband at her wedding, haven't spoken to her since.

J-squire


I couldn't attend my friend's last minute destination wedding because I had to visit my dad out of state to handle hospice arrangements- he was dying of cancer. She threw an absolute hissy fit, attempting to guilt trip me because I couldn't afford to make two plane flights. That was the end of our friendship.

theuncannyvalleys

45. Family first... 

This was my sister's wedding so hold on tight. My sister had 10 bridesmaids. Most of them were her sorority sister's from college. They wanted to plan an elaborate weekend for the summer, while most of them were still in school without jobs. When I asked "hey, who will pay for this?" my sister got pissed that I even asked. When I also reminded all the bridesmaids them that our father who had stage 4 cancer wasn't doing so well and that maybe the bachelorette/bridal shower should be close by, they all flipped thinking I was being insensitive to the bride.

I was promptly asked not to be a bridesmaid to my own sister's wedding over these two things. I was fine with this as she was a bridezilla and I spent time with our dying father. He died 2 weeks after her wedding day, that he couldn't attend because he was in hospice care one day before her wedding. To me, she put herself before our ailing father, and it still makes me mad.

SashWhitGrabby

44. Don't speak....

Bridesmaid to a bridezilla here. The bride spent a lot of time crying and carrying on whenever she didn't get her way because "it was her wedding and we should all do exactly what she wanted." Which is not to say we didn't- we sure did. She wanted everyone to justify her irrational and horrible behavior because it was all about her.

She didn't enjoy it much when I told her she was wrong for kicking someone out of her bridal party , terminating the friendship, and pitching a fit because a girl couldn't make bridesmaid dress shopping because she was sick and had to go to the hospital.

This is also coming from the same woman who got angry and didn't speak to me for months because I didn't come see her to congratulate her on her pregnancy when I was home on furlough for a week at Christmas.

caryatidonvacation

43. Whatever girl... I'm too pretty for you... 

A friend of mine in college was getting married at 19 because she was super conservative christian and she wanted to have sex.

Between the time I agreed to be a bridesmaid and a couple of months before the wedding I lost some weight. She got super pissed at me because she wanted to be the skinny one on the stage and threw me out of the wedding party.

Oh well.

angela_bee

42. This is more than a student loan...

It was a best friend of mine who was very frugal, so I figured she was going to have a reasonable wedding and bachelorette party. I had shared my monetary concerns with her too, that I worked and went to school and couldn't take off much time. She didn't have that many friends so It was only me and one other girl as bridesmaids. She asked us to hand-make ALL her decorations for the wedding (I put in 15 hours a week hand making decorations, all outside of working and going to school full time).

Then she planned a week long bachelorette party out of town, also asking us to foot the bill, not to mention our dresses which I wanted to find something affordable (but she picked designer matching dresses that we had to pay for...never worn It again, been trying to sell It online). I spent nearly 1k on the whole ordeal, not to mention I did her hair and makeup for free for the wedding. I just felt largely taken advantage of and unappreciated. We are no longer friends because we ended up working together (after the wedding) and she tried to screw me over at work. It all makes me very reluctant to agree to be in someone's wedding again, even someone I thought would be considerate of everyone else's budget and time.

SpectralShifter

41. Thanks anyway... 

If someone proposes something outside my budget... I just tell them it's outside my budget. "Thanks for the invite, it sounds great but I can't afford it this week." If they want to pay for my ticket that's fine - I do the same if I want to bring a friend to something they can't afford. But if they don't want to, no hard feelings!

Moldy_slug

40. You need AA honey not Scotch! 

I bartend at a catering joint. "Bridezilla" would honestly describe like 40% of brides at our weddings. They can be extremely demanding, always blamed us, the bartenders, for the limitations of our venue or their own contract. Ran out of the special order scotch on our bar? You shoulda ordered more bottles. Quit yelling at me for your own mess up.

WaffleKing110

39. Ladies, ladies, ladies! 

Okay, can I offer a different perspective?? I was the maid of honor for my sister's wedding. My sister, who has the patience of a saint, was the calmest and most laid back of us all. The bridesmaids though, they turned into the -zillas of the wedding. I spent all my time before the wedding driving everyone around because they kept changing plans as to where to park their cars and who was gonna have what stuff in what car, etc.

Because the plans changed so many times, at the reception I was so worn out and my feet were bleeding from having to run to all the different cars over and over again because the bridesmaids forgot who had what in who's car because, as I said, they kept changing the plan before so no one had a clear idea of the ordeal. It was the happiest and worst day of my life at the same time. Man it feels good to rant about this.

ArchieGraye

38. Not all themes are appropriate... 

My best friend is a stripper. She was hired to do a joint bachelor and bachelorette party, set up by the bride. It became clear quickly she had set it up like this so she can watch her groom to make sure he doesn't have too much fun.

The whole time, she was sitting on his lap, making him watch their mutual friends getting lap dances. My friend was instructed that if she needed to speak to the groom, address the bride instead. She showed up to the venue to see the bride yelling at their friends to pose for pictures with the strippers, or they're going to "ruin everything."

She was the most controlling bride my friend had ever seen. Her man couldn't even have a drink without asking. She kept ordering him to smile. The best man joked with my friend that she's so good, they'll invite her to the divorce party to perform, because there was no way a man could live like this for long. mollymolotov666

37. All the colors! 

I've had colorful hair for years now. It's quite the investment--I go to a salon to get it done, and buy high quality products. When my best friend asked me to be her MOH, my hair was neon pink. Three weeks before her wedding, she requested that I color my hair to a natural color. I was SHOCKED. She offered to give me $100 to get it done (lol). I had justttt gotten my hair done (a plum/red color, quite tame in comparison to what I've done in the past)

If I had just randomly went from brown to lime green out of no where I might understand her frustrations, but at this point I hadn't seen my natural color in like 3 years!

I never changed my hair, we got into a screaming match at her bachelorette party and she drunkenly revealed that her mom hated my hair and would not stop yelling about it. We cried and hugged in the club bathroom and all was well.

Her mom didn't speak to me at the wedding and I'm okay with that. sweetvi0let

36. Deep Breathes... 

Wasn't a bridesmaid, but the bride was super controlling and prone to panic attacks. If people hadn't RSVPed to the shower, bachelorette party, wedding BEFORE the date listed, she had a mental breakdown. Like if the rsvp date was Oct 1, she was panicking Sept 20. The bridesmaids had to call people up and tell them the bride was freaking out and having panic attacks because they hadn't responded yet so they needed an answer today. SalamandrAttackForce

35. Post College changes people... 

The bride was someone I had known since college, so about a dozen years at this point.

She wanted all of her bridesmaids and mother and future mother in law at David's bridal to help her pick out her dress. We were there for 6 hours. Later on she decided she didn't like the $1500 dress she chose and went back to get another one. The first one was already altered, so no returns. Then she went back a third time because she didn't like the second dress either. So she bought a total if 3 wedding dresses for this wedding. She made us buy bright neon pink strapless floor length gowns for $200 and insisted that we pay the super expensive David's Bridal prices "for consistency."

Like other bridesmaids have listed here, I was instructed that my hair must remain a "natural color" and that I must have professional hair, makeup, and nails for the wedding. She is a trust funder and refused to pay for any of this. One of her best friends had blue hair and was pretty upset that she had to change her image in order to fit the wedding and it caused some drama. I'm not sure if her friend was allowed to be in the wedding after all, since I was fired before the big day.

She held 3 separate bridal showers and expected her bridesmaids to show up to every single one with a gift. I received group text e-vites for these events and I spent weeks having people reply all to the texts with their dumb comments and questions. On at least 1 occasion the shower was on a Saturday and she notified us all on Thursday that our presence was mandatory.

Her maid of honor told me she was really busy and couldn't host the bachelorette party, and asked if I would mind helping out. I was unemployed and said I'd be happy to help plan. Well, apparently they thought I was paying for the whole thing! The MOH gave me a guest list and asked that I send out an e-vite via email. The bride called me yelling because it was "tacky" to send e-vites and I should have made real invitations (note the fact above that she group texted her invites). She was also angry that the guest list included people she didn't like, and that I should have let her see the guest list beforehand (I got it from her best friend and MOH, how was I supposed to know?). She insisted that I buy all of the party favors from a boutique event store in the rich side of town (again, I was unemployed). When I told her I couldn't afford that and I was just helping to plan, I got screamed at and I was disinvited from the party.

That same week I received a text that I was fired from My bridesmaid duties, and asked that I give her the dress so she could let her other friend wear it. The dress that I paid $200 for plus the cost of alterations! I asked if she planned on paying me for it, and she said she would after the wedding. I knew this was a lie so I told her to pound sand.

We never spoke again. TheBinksterIsHere

34. Where you at girl?! 

My best friend wasn't really a bridezilla about the wedding. But she asked me to host an after party because the reception was non-alcoholic at a church fellowship hall. So she wanted to invite the friends to my house afterward to drink, sit around a bonfire, and celebrate. I was told there would be 15-20 guests. I made food for 20 people. I bought flowers and decorations. I bought enough beer and made enough mojitos for 20.

4 hours after the expected start time of this post-reception hootenanny, she and her husband and one other friend showed up. I was livid. I laid into her. I got drunk and went to sleep. The reason for the delay? She wanted to open presents first. The reason for no one showing up? She neglected to tell anyone. workity_work

33. I was the gift! 

My best friend got married and she was actually very calm throughout the whole planning process and on the wedding day. However, the day after the wedding she texted me and sarcastically said "thanks for the wedding present." I was planning to get her a present with my next paycheck. However, I was in such shock she texted me that. Especially after I spent ~$800 (dress, alterations, shoes, nails, makeup, hair, hotel room, etc.) to be in her wedding. It felt like all she cared about was gifts. smnth123

32. It's just a party!! 

Granted I am 25 and just getting settled into my career, but my best friend expected me to spend over $2k on her bachelorette party-this was to fly to a resort and didn't include food/activities/etc.

Granted she and most of her friends are in their 30s but there was no way I could pull that off on top of everything I had spent just being in the wedding. I participated in everything I could but heck no I couldn't drop that kind of money. idtapthatpinata

31. Vacation anyway! 

My wife-to-be was the maid of honor for a destination wedding in Costa Rica. There was a falling out between the two of them, weeks before, on the night of the bachelorette party when the bride decided to get too drunk and straight up ostracize her (my fiancé) in front of her other friends that she was in a sorority with. My fiancé is not in the sorority. They were college roommates for 2 years. Bridezilla Called her names, blatantly ignored her for no reason, and was quite the demanding person up until the wedding

My fiancé, myself, and my fiancé's mom, dad, and brother went to Costa Rica for the week, for HER wedding mind you. Her family spent $15,000 for this trip in total. The bride acted as if we did not exist on the day of the wedding or the days prior at the resort.

Whatever. We had a good vacation regardless of her coldheartedness. My future brother-in-law and I DJ'd the event for free and kept her 30 or so guests Dancing all night.

We get married a week from today, and my fiancé was big enough to invite her (not as a bridesmaid, obviously). Bridezilla decided to not even respond with a yes or no. Their relationship has been radio-silent since. So much for college best friends. YoshiCudders

30. Your mom is 'Off!' 

I didn't make it to the wedding. I was best friends with the woman, literally we did everything together. She assembled her wedding party and didn't invite me. She threw me my bachelorette, witnessed my marriage, etc. I found out later I wasn't invited because I was overweight and her mother thought that would limit bridesmaid dress choices and throw the wedding photos 'off.' At least I know, dodged a bullet. volcanicpale

29. Cheap Bride....

The short story is that she lied. She lied to the venue about the number of guests that were attending. Effectively packing us like sardines.

She lied about having a "day of" staff. That meant that all the dates of the bridesmaids spent the day hanging flowers, running to get kegs and waters, pouring the champagne for guests, setting up the entire venue the day before.

She lied to the hair and make up personnel about the number of people who were obtaining services in order to get them to come to the site. This forced guests to get hair and make up done in order for "the bride not to have to be charged extra."

She lied to the catering about the number of guests, this caused them to run out of food and alcohol.

All in all, I think her lies saved her $1500, but cost her close friendships as her attitude toward the whole situation was indignation instead of being apologetic. yelloworchid

28. Under the Sea....

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My first job out of college, a colleague got engaged and asked three colleagues to be her bridesmaids (in addition to one friend from high school). I had only known her for a matter of months, but I didn't feel comfortable saying no because she was one of my bosses.

In addition to being in a wedding for someone I barely knew, which is crappy in its own right, there were so many horrible things about this nightmare bridezilla wedding. First, I ended up hosting both her bachelorette AND her shower because no one in her life planned anything, and she showed up to her own shower an hour late, hungover and wearing pajamas when she mandated that everyone dress for a luncheon. She ordered our dresses from Etsy (as opposed to any bridesmaid dress company) and they looked like seafoam green raw silk pillowcases with holes cut for the arms and head. They tied in giant bows in the back and we all looked like literal infants.

She wouldn't let us wear heels with said "dresses" because the groom was kinda short and we all had to buy new flats in a specific shade of gold. She wanted us to wear our hair in a really ugly, extremely complicated updo -- and said we would have to pay to have one of the hairstylists do our hair (we refused). The wedding was on a Sunday in an extremely inconvenient and faraway location, and it was not the Sunday of a long weekend. The rehearsal dinner for this SUNDAY wedding was THURSDAY and started at 4 in the afternoon, requiring everyone to leave work in the middle of the day. She forced us to stay at an expensive hotel in the area the night before the wedding for no apparent reason and refused to pay for our hotel room. gabygygax

27. You Want what we don't want!! 

Bride had 2 weddings. Pretty different financial backgrounds between us and I was friend of the groom that became a friend during their engagement. She had one wedding in the local state she grew up and one destination wedding a month later. She couldn't decide which dress to get, so she bought three. I was maid of honor at the local event and supposed to be in the destination wedding. Had to overdraw my bank account to attend and cover expenses so I was really a bit in awe at all the extravagances. It was a 3 hour ceremony with 2 venue changes "I want what I want!" and "it's my day! I gave people for that!" Still ringing in my ears just thinking of it.

She spent 60k in credit card debt on her perfect day (s) which she told me the day before she had not informed the groom. The best part was when she was in her second wedding dress change, she started to scream about how things weren't exactly what she wanted. Standing there half dressed and drunk yelling about how the cake wasn't perfect. (3k cake that was transported from another state was slightly smushed on the back side from hours of travel) The whole bridal party was just standing there in the hallway waiting to take pictures again I told her to shut up, said i wasn't going to come to wedding in Ireland, reminded her that her hundreds of guests could hear her drunk butt, and fixed her bustle.

She was such a little tantrum throwing crap. At the end of the Irish dancing groups, the toasts, and her wedding dance (that was choreographed) her PAID wedding planner offered to give me cocaine for putting up with such a spoiled stuff. The lady did it loudly in front the an aunt who later told the bride. Yeah, it sucked. She is a great girl too, just a terrible bride and drunk. Tl:dr wedding planner offered me drugs for putting up with the bride. gigatroness

26. You're Out! 

My best friend just got kicked out of being a bridesmaid because she couldn't spend the $1500 to go to the bachelorettes party, all the other costs were killing her. The bride told her to take out a credit card to pay for it. One of our friends made the best comment over the situation, "she (the bride) just did you the best favor ever kicking you out of the bridal party." awayfrommymind

25. Maids should stick together! 

Not a bridezilla story, but I was in 3 weddings in the span of one year and one interesting thing I noticed was that there is always one bridesmaid that the bride stops being friends with after the wedding. You can start to see which bridesmaid it's gonna be about half way through the engagement. AntiRaz

24. Mother's Day! 

My mom was the bride, she didn't have bridesmaids but I (her daughter) was going to walk her down the aisle.

I've had purple or blue hair for quite some time, and I checked almost a year in advance with my mom that it would be okay for my hair to be blue for the wedding. Checked again every few months, every time I was told to stop insinuating that she was a bridezilla, of course my hair was fine.

Two weeks before the wedding, my own mother threatened to dis-invite me from the wedding if I didn't fix my hair. So I went and got it done, came home and my mother told me I was shallow for changing my hair to keep up appearances. Sigh. Getting it re-dyed back to blonde cost me over $300. gateauxes

23. All this for a Shotgun?

Friend asked me to be a bridesmaid in her shotgun wedding that was to take place in a little over a month. She has us order semi-expensive dresses and they HAD to be altered to a certain length. Shoes had to be ordered. Toenails had to be painted neutral color and fingernails had to be French manicure. We weren't allowed to paint our own nails-we HAD to get them done at a salon. Hair HAD to be done professionally by her hairstylist. And we were not, under any circumstance, to have bikini tan lines visible. Mind you, this was right after summer. I lived in an area where beach attire was usually the only attire and everyone had visible tan lines.

I eventually had to tell her that I could not afford to have everything done professionally with such short notice. I would be happy to do my hair and makeup. My hair was so short I couldn't do an updo. She told me her mom could pay and then I could pay her back. That was the final straw.

I sent an email to her telling her I could no longer be in her wedding. She was pregnant, about to get hitched, and now I was adding to her list of problems. I valued the friendship and told her such, but just couldn't do what she was asking.

I hadn't heard from her for YEARS. Until one day she sent me a message, asking for me to buy from her MLM campaign. FFS. killrtofujalapenobiz

22. So I'm the maid now?

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I was the maid of honor. I helped plan the whole wedding, I went to all the awkward parties with family members I had never met. I was close with the bride and groom, not their families. The whole time we were planning she kept talking about being a bridezilla like it was an inevitable phase she would go through. Ffw all the way to the end. She suddenly decided that her sister needs to be the only one involved, but I can still be the maid of honor. She calls me the day of the bridal shower and asks why I wasn't there and insists she told me the date. She hadn't.

She fires me on the spot and I don't talk to her again until a few days before the wedding. She tells me that I can still come but she had asked one of her husband's ex girlfriends, someone she didn't know to be her new maid of honor. Day before the wedding she asks me to be the usher. Says I can show people to their seats, the gift table, the bathroom. I didn't attend the wedding.

This last year I was my friend's "Best Lady" which means I stood on the man's side. Everyone helped set the wedding up, it was a blast. I declared myself his shield maiden and spent the entire time protecting him from everything, even a few birds in a bush. MarliePaws

21. Pay for the Privilege? 

Friend from college. We spent three months planning her bridal shower. She was not at all involved. When she finally looked at the plans 1 week before the party, she said it "wasn't what she'd had in mind." She then delays the wedding, which every one of her 400 guests had already made travel accommodations for, so that she can have her dream bridal shower.

Plans $25,000 weekend in Vegas. Booked presidential suite for herself and economy rooms for us, which she expected us to double up in. Wanted us to pay for the trip between us all evenly (25,000/7=3570 per person). And this isn't even including her!! She said "You're my bridesmaids, you're kind of supposed to pay for my bridal shower."

I didn't have that kind of money at the time and told her so. Same with five other bridesmaids (the other two were her sisters.) So she and her sisters have the bridal party on their own.

Day of the wedding, she informs me I need to dye my hair (and pay for it myself), because my hair color is too similar to hers and it would be distracting. "There aren't enough red heads so I was thinking you could be a red head."

To top it all off, she informed us after the ceremony that to save money, we wouldn't be served a meal along with the rest of the guests. "You already had the privilege of being in my wedding, so, what more can you ask for?" I didn't contact her again after the wedding. She reached out to me to ask how to return my gift for store credit. I never replied. ligamentary

20. Baby It's Cold Outside.... 

I was in a wedding where the bride planned two separate bachelorette weekends for herself and got mad at anyone who couldn't/wouldn't spend two 3-day weekends at ~$500/each away from their husbands/kids/jobs.

The week leading up to the wedding the temp for the big day was forecast to be a high of 10*F (February wedding, NE US). Bride was insisting on outdoor photos without coats "because we can't hide the dresses!" Everyone, including the photographer, tells her hell no. Day of she pitches a fit when we refused to do more than one quick photo.

Afterwards, she stopped talking to 75% of the bridal party because of their refusal to accommodate her outrageous demands. To this day, years later, she still complains about how her bridesmaids ruined her wedding. Hexagogo

19. You'll have other Birthdays! 

There were a lot of moments. One of my favorites was her bachelorette party was the same weekend as my birthday. We weren't allowed to do anything for my birthday at all on the trip. Not even mention it. On my actual birthday, some of my friends got some balloons and a little cake from the hotel. They tried to keep it a secret but Bridezilla came in the room, saw everything, didn't say a word and walked out. She was pissed because our friends wanted to do something small for me on my actual birthday.

It was fitting that the wedding ended in huge family drama. I definitely stopped talking to her after the wedding was over. rational_adult

18. Is this a Bravo reality show?

Not a bridesmaid, but a witness to one.

The bride got walked out on by her entire bridle party, except her maid of honor. Of course it was because no one loved her, and everyone wanted to ruin her day, not because she ripped a bridesmaids dress from the neck down, in an open area, because it was too white ... it was the dress the bride insisted on all the maids wearing. BARDLover

17. The Real Her....

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Loads of little things adding up, two things I remember standing out.

She started with the turbo crazy at her hen do, it cost over 400 pounds to spend a 3 day weekend away. That's not unreasonable in itself, but rather than appreciate the effort everyone made she came back from night 2 screaming her head off that one of the girls was a "miserable b***h" for coming back from a club an hour earlier than the rest of the hens because she wasn't feeling comfortable in the big crowd. She said she would make her pay... And then gloated on the eve of the wedding that she had put her on a table with a very attractive girl because she knew she was insecure about her looks and wanted her to feel self conscious as punishment for the early dart 3 months earlier?

Spoke to me like absolute crap the whole run up to the wedding. Then pitched a fit at me in front of the whole bridal party because I had the nerve to bring a bag with my purse/car keys in it after she had mandated we were all to leave our stuff at her house... with no way of picking it up as she and the groom were staying in a hotel that night. I was the only bridesmaid with no significant other to give that stuff to so would have been stranded at the venue without it. Made me see how vile a person she is and our friendship is now over following her pulling some even more crazy stuff a few months later. Just a shame I wasted so much energy on her over the years. Briseadh

16. Balance : 0! 

Picked $400 bridesmaid dresses. Destination bachelorette that cost over $1200. Insisted on a super expensive spot for the bridal shower. Registered at William Sonoma. I was a broke college student with limited funds. But managed to pay for all this crap and give a gift.

Bonus points: her husband forgot his entire tux and didn't figure this out until a few hours before the ceremony. A few minutes before the ceremony when she screamed at me for like the 500th time that day I snapped and told her either she cut her sh!t or I was getting in my car and going home. She cut her crap. The rest of it went fine. Notatumor1990

15. Soulless Matrimony... 

She wouldn't let our friend who was on chemo to sit down after they all walked down the isle.

Edit: this has gotten a lot more attention than I ever expected. Let me add more. B for bride. F for friend.

F had very aggressive breast cancer that she battled for 2 years. One of her doctors in Texas was charged with attempted murder for trying to poison a colleague, so she was going through a very hard time. Google Texas oncologist poisoning.

B is a "me me me me" type of person that has a controlling husband and doesn't do anything without him.

Immediately after the wedding B finds out her new MIL also got breast cancer, but her prognosis was not bad at all. F was going to treatment in Texas, Boston, Chicago, etc just to try to beat it. When she found out that the experimental treatments weren't working for her, she wanted her best friend, B, to provide some support. B told her to "try to understand" why she couldn't.... because her MIL also had BC. B cut contact. Wouldn't call back, respond to texts, nothing.

After we heard from F's husband that they no longer were in contact, we also cut contact with B and her new husband. Everything she did.... or didn't do, was enough for us.

We got a call one day from F's husband. The call made it seem as though F was ready to see people but it would be in the hospital. We went there, super happy to finally see her. When we got there, we saw people we never met crying and that's all it took for us to know it was F dying. We were there to send her off. I ended up with a nasty staph infection in my hand from the hospital.

Her funeral was a week later. That was when I texted B a nasty message about what a crap friend she had been and that I hoped she was happy that she didn't get to say she was sorry or good bye to her so called best friend. Mind you, I had know F for about 3 years and rarely saw her. F was an oncology nurse, go figure. She told her husband that I was one of the only ones that would reach out to her and ask her how she was doing when B wouldn't even reply to a text.

B showed up to the viewing. I flipped her off and told her to stop acting. I actively hate her. CasuConsuIto

14. The Family Shame... 

My wife got roped into doing the photos for her step sisters wedding. Normally my wife would charge between $4000 and $6000 for this, and we were flying across the country to attend this wedding mostly out of family obligation. So bride was getting an amazing deal. Over the course of six months bride becomes incredibly hateful on social media, constantly starting drama, was b***hy in her save the dates, changed venue and locations several times. We knew it was going to be a crap show but we'd committed so we bought our plane tickets and planned to come.

Week before the wedding bride goes totally psycho and posts nasty awful things about half of her wedding party, including my wife. So we decide to cancel the photography and not attend the wedding, wasn't worth it anymore. Bride's own mother was so ashamed her her behavior that she didn't attend either. All total they had 8 people at their wedding, and only got cellphone pictures. We had a nice little vacation and visited a lot of friends in the area. benfranklyblog

13. Five Feet of Evil! 

My best friend turned out to be a bridezilla. She is normally a short (5 feet tall), giggly, fun to be around person EXCEPT the whole time she was planning her wedding. She became a total control freak and nothing made her happy. The day of her bachelorette party, she didn't even try to have fun. We had a spa day planned, followed by dinner at her favorite restaurant (we had asked her mom to ask her subtly/not so subtly), and a sex toy demonstration (it is a bachelorette after all). She ended up complaining the whole day, and when we got to the restaurant she said: "I don't know why you guys picked this place, I don't like it that much." During the sex toy demo, she didn't even participate.

Let me tell you, the mood was not fun. The day of her actual wedding, she screamed at the hairdresser because she wasn't getting the hair right and made her restart at least 5 times. She had decided beforehand who would carpool with who but we decided to go against it and pick who we wanted to carpool with. She was furious at us. She made a scene before taking the bridal photos. After that, it was all a show. In front of everyone she was playing the "oh this day is absolutely perfect just as I planned it to be." If you ask her today how her wedding day went, she just says that it went by too quickly and doesn't remember much. Last note. As bridesmaids we must have spent upwards $500 each for the dress, makeup, hair and events. We never got a thank you. I'd love to say that she went back to her normal fun-loving giggly self after that, but reality is she remained the control freak and we have drifted apart. gigglesandcake

12. And. Scene.

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Planner here- I've seen some stuff. Bride invites ex boyfriend to wedding because "he's just a really good friend." During reception her husband of 2 hours goes to the bathroom, she plants a kiss on him. Notices I saw and promptly reminds me to mind my business. At the end of the night, catering informed me they hadn't settled their bill. If they didn't get payment that night there would be an additional fee charged. I run outside and let them know before they drive off. Two days later I get a call from groom who informs me the bride is extremely upset with my "unprofessionalism" and wants a refund. She wasn't happy that I "made a scene" by running outside to tell them about the bill, in an effort to save them from additional charges. I asked him if he was aware of the scene she made when she kissed ex BF on the dance floor while he went to the bathroom. He hung up. Imabigdiva

11. Lord give me the Strength.... 

Overheard the bride drunkenly tell a mutual friend at her wedding day that if she could do it all over again, she wouldn't have had myself and a mutual friend in her bridal party (I was the MOH). I planned her bachelorette party (with the mutual friend) from another country and dropped a lot of money on it personally so she would have the party she wanted.

I gifted her a pair of Jimmy Choos for her wedding day along with a beautiful ring with her wedding date engraved. I had to fly to Europe for her wedding, use a hire car to get around and help with loading/transporting wedding items back and forth. I was up that morning arranging with the hotel to deliver breakfast/coffee/ tea for the bridal party. An old friend decided a week before the wedding she was going to fly from Oz to surprise the bride, so I had to arrange that surprise and find a hotel room for this friend and speak to the groom to check with catering and arrange a seat for her without the bride knowing. I stepped in to help the make-up artist as she was running behind schedule. I walked the venue to make sure things were on track, There are more things she did throughout the night that infuriated me. I was treated like a slave; and spoken to like one. I catered to her every whim from 6am until midnight... and then to overhear that!

Apparently her wedding day was ruined because the calla lilies in her centerpieces wouldn't stay suspended in the water vase like she wanted. And it was all my fault because they slowly floated to the top.

Next day she is all hugs and kisses saying it was the best night ever and she couldn't have done it without me, I have never wanted to falcon punch a b***h so hard in the face. I will never EVER be a bridesmaid again. F**k. That! AmaGlugGlug

10. 2020 is too far! 

Not a personal experience, but I'm getting married in 2 weeks and when my MOH picked me up for my bachelorette, she mentioned a girl from work who is a bridesmaid in her friend's wedding in the Spring of 2020. Apparently the bride for that wedding apparently has already pitched a fit that her bridal party didn't throw her an engagement party, and that they refused to rent a cabin that will cost $400 each for a group of 10 people. For her bachelorette, for a wedding that is over a year and a half away. It stressed me out just hearing her tell the story, because I have felt guilty for asking my girls to do much of anything. I cannot imagine being that way. SinsOfKnowing

9. How about Wendy's?

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Bride insisted we (bridesmaids) make all the decorations but got pissed because they weren't up to her high standard. All of this a month before the wedding because she procrastinated the whole thing. Wanted to plan the bridal shower herself cause she thought we were incompetent. During the bachelorette party we went to a decently fancy restaurant and bride was pissed because her little sister (bridesmaid who helped with nothing) "only ate simple foods so we should have just went to Mcdonalds."

To this day she keeps saying how she wants to do the wedding over again because of how horrible everything went. There is so much more to this but I'm already border-line exposing myself (we are still currently friends) by saying all of this haha. It was not a good time and I myself don't want to have a wedding after being a part in that disaster. missxdi

8. Leave College Behind.... 

My wife-to-be was the maid of honor for a destination wedding in Costa Rica. There was a falling out between the two of them, weeks before, on the night of the bachelorette party when the bride decided to get too drunk and straight up ostracize her (my fiancé) in front of her other friends that she was in a sorority with. My fiancé is not in the sorority. They were college roommates for 2 years. Bridezilla Called her names, blatantly ignored her for no reason, and was quite the demanding person up until the wedding

My fiancé, myself, and my fiancé's mom, dad, and brother went to Costa Rica for the week, for HER wedding mind you. Her family spent $15,000 for this trip in total. The bride acted as if we did not exist on the day of the wedding or the days prior at the resort.

Whatever. We had a good vacation regardless of her coldheartedness. My future brother-in-law and I DJ'd the event for free and kept her 30 or so guests Dancing all night.

We get married a week from today, and my fiancé was big enough to invite her (not as a bridesmaid, obviously). Bridezilla decided to not even respond with a yes or no. Their relationship has been radio-silent since. So much for college best friends. YoshiCudders

7. A Hootenany!! 

She lost her shoes before the wedding and told me that this Cinderella disaster was all my fault

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6. I am the Gift....

Her mother actively called me fat to my face the entire day

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5. Make-Up is Dangerous! 

This wedding is in like 2 weeks... The bride has recently asked me if I would mind not wearing any makeup because only the maid of honor and her really wear makeup. I was pissed and confused... The bride doesn't wear makeup ever. At the last girls night, I suggested we mess around with makeup and see what you'd like for your wedding. She refused, saying she's not going to wear it.

What the hell kind of request is that? Like do you think other women attending the wedding aren't going to wear makeup. Plus, your damn MOH wears pyramid scheme make up in green and black in normal day life. What the hell do you think she's going to wear to your wedding??? bellsonlywish

4. Let me fix your eyes! 

Brother of the bride checking in: I was in the party because our father passed away, I gave her away at the ceremony.

After the rehearsal everyone went back to her house before dinner. Our mother, a master at baking, was putting the finishing touches on the wedding cake, while on chemo for breast cancer and barely able to hold the bag of frosting. My sister notices some small detail is not good enough and is standing there, red faced, screaming at my mother that she is ruining her wedding and her life. About 20 guests are staring in disbelief.

I shouted at her "Hey you want to walk down the aisle with two black eyes?" My aunt grabbed my sister by the arm and took her in another room for a chat.

That seamed to cool her down a bit. The ceremony went off without a hitch, the reception was fun, the cake was beautiful. No one mentions the incident now. dinnerwdr13

3. BFFS!!!

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I'm watching events unfold.

One friend is getting married in the beginning of the year. Her former "best fraaaand" has been super jealous ever since Friend A got together with her man and has been actually happy.

So, we'll call her B, and it will become apparent as to why, got with a guy early in the summer. Within weeks, she gave up her lease and moved in with him. Think three weeks. It's been less than six months, and they got engaged. Because A got engaged a few weeks ago, B got engaged last week.

B? Just HAD to set her date before A. She HAS to get married FIRST. The only planning she has done? She has reserved a crappy "party room" in a run-down municipal building.

She could wait, save money, and have a decent wedding on a budget. But no, the B has to get married FIRST, so she can rub it in A's face that she's HAPPIER, god damn it. My money is on B announcing her pregnancy at at A's reception. Madame_Kitsune98

2. Everybody be Crazy! 

Not a bridesmaid but was at a wedding where we had bridezilla, Maidzilla, and MIL-zilla all at once.

Dad and I watch the run up to the wedding go to shit basically from the start. MILzilla and maidzilla are flipping out at just about everyone for such incredible slights as ruffled hair and small creases in clothing. MILzilla specifically had a tantrum at me that my hair was a mess because I had been sweating. It was 90+ degrees in a California summer, at an outdoor wedding. No crap I was sweating. Maidzilla made the mistake of yelling at my dad that he was too tall for where he was supposed to stand in the pictures. Unfortunately for her, dad was a drill sergeant in the 82nd for almost a decade. The ensuing shouting match went one way, and one way only.

Day of the wedding: ceremony went fine, much to my surprise, and we get to the party. Most everyone is having a decent time. Except Bridezilla, who was intoxicated and taking issue with the music. Music that she had picked out in advance. In the span of the party, she picked no fewer than four fights with the DJ, who eventually threw his hands up, put the music on shuffle, and came out to the patio to get drunk with me and the misfits.

Oh, and maidzilla tried to offer my dad, who was a DEA agent at the time, some cocaine to "lighten up." That went well. DevastatorCenturion

1. I can only do so much... 

Granted I am 25 and just getting settled into my career, but my best friend expected me to spend over $2k on her bachelorette party-this was to fly to a resort and didn't include food/activities/etc.

Granted she and most of her friends are in their 30's but there was no way I could pull that off on top of everything I had spent just being in the wedding. I participated in everything I could but heck no I couldn't drop that kind of money. idtapthatpinata

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