People Who've Discovered A Friend's Secret Online Account Reveal What They Learned
There's a reason why people keep their reddit accounts a secret. There are a zillion very different, very specific subreddits out there, and the discovery of certain interests can be very embarrassing. So what happens when they're found?
PM_Me_YourTinyBoobs: People who have found their friends "secret" Reddit accounts, what was the most shocking thing you found out about them?
"I read a story on AskReddit once that seemed really familiar, and noticed the username was the same handle my friend's husband had used for years all across the internet.
I went looking through his history and found out my friend had serious psychiatric disorders, was a pathological liar, had emotionally abused him all throughout their relationship, and had turned to physical abuse after getting married, eventually cheated, and they'd divorced. I was absolutely shocked, since although I didn't see her regularly (we lived states apart) we kept in contact over social media, and I'd had absolutely no hint of this whatsoever.
I went back through her various SMs and at first things didn't make any sense since she was still tagging the husband, and things seemed to be fine. A bit more digging and I realized she had basically nuked her account, the account she was tagging was a fake account (so it wasn't actually her husband, it was just an account with the same name and profile picture), and she was pretending they were still together. It seemed like she would log into both accounts and reply to posts as her "husband".
The next time she started chatting with me I asked about the husband, seeing if she would open up, but she pretended they were still together and that he had said hi to me etc. It was really creepy knowing the truth and just seeing all these lies about what they were doing together."
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"Found a family member's account and was unpleasantly surprised by how many disparaging comments there were about me and my family."
At least it was validating.
"I had felt for a while that my girlfriend's family didn't like me, but whenever I said anything to her about it, she insisted I was wrong and just imagining it. Then I found her brother's Reddit profile (he and I are fans of the same baseball team and in a post on that team's sub I saw a post that sounded just like him, clicked on the username and it was definitely him, lots of identifying details).
So I start scrolling through, and sure enough he has posted several times things like, "My family and I hate my sister's boyfriend." It hurt my feelings, and I also felt like my girlfriend kinda gaslit me by insisting I was wrong, but I will say one thing made me feel better: He did a post on Am I The A**hole about whether he's an ahole for not wanting to invite me to family stuff and basically everyone said he's the asshole because his reasons for not liking me are really shallow and stupid."
A sad find.
"I had a fairly new coworker that moved back home to care for his sick mom. A couple months later he asked management if he could come back and they said yes. He must have been having trouble coping with something, because he disappeared sometime in the afternoon on his first day back.
A day or two after he disappeared a post was made on a local subreddit that was obviously him based on what I knew about him. He was just asking if anyone wanted to hang out because he didn't have many friends. I got really worried and asked him if everything was ok. He never responded and deleted his reddit account shortly after.
Anyway, he was really into weed and programming. We could have been really good friends."
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"Found my wife's account. It wasn't a "secret" account per se, but then again I didn't know she even had an account to begin with.
Turns out she's a really nice person who posts positive and uplifting things to people who usually need to hear it. 10/10 would marry again."
Keeping the memory alive.
"This is a bit different but my friend from when I was doing roller derby found me on here. We chatted, nothing too surprising for either of us in our posts except I'm bipolar which she didn't know.
The hardest thing is she died three weeks ago. I keep going to her account here and her last messages to me as it makes me feel better to know she's 'still on reddit' in a weird way.
She had epilepsy and died suddenly in her sleep before her 33rd birthday so it was very unexpected and sad."
Still looking out for each other.
"On another account I deleted, my ex and I were posting about our break up and had no clue that we were inadvertently commenting on each other's post.
Fast forward a few weeks and I posted about committing suicide and as I'm walking to my car I am stopped by police and they tell me that they had a call about me wanting to harm myself and even told me how I'd do it (something only reddit knew when I posted it) long story short, I am sketched the heck out and notice I have a follower reddit.
I went back to see anyone I've been talking to and that user was the only one, then I went and snooped through her history and I knew in my gut who it was.
It was very strange but I am so very thankful. We no longer speak anymore and she hates me but she honestly saved my life that night. I would've died had I not been stopped by authorities. If you are reading this, thank you."
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"I had secret reddit accounts disguised as different people to send messages of support to a friend who I found out wanted to commit suicide a long time ago and was crying for help on reddit.
His smiles have been genuine since then and he has been more open to people."
"He was my friend (I thought), turns out he made a whole incel-inspired post about how I was an "idiot slut" who wouldn't sleep with him.
It sounded so similar I was pretty sure it was him, a couple of clicks throughout his profile and it was 100% him. Not friends anymore."
Turns out, he's just boring.
"I was crushed to discover many of his funny anecdotes were stories from reddit and 4chan he stole and said happened in his own life.
He commented on most of them asking details and really strange comments, it was pretty sad."
If you or someone you know is struggling, you can contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255).
To find help outside the United States, the International Association for Suicide Prevention has resources available at https://www.iasp.info/resources/Crisis_Centres/
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