Divorced Men Share The Moment They Realized 'Yup, It's Over...'

Reading through these answers, I can't help but think: "Didn't you vet this person before marrying them?" But, alas, love is love. What can you do, besides legally devote yourself to them?

Male Reddit users shared the moment they decided they were going to divorce their spouse. You can find more answers from the source at the end of this article.

Our daughter at 3 years old told us to stop yelling.


She let me know she was pregnant and wanted my permission to tell all her girlfriends during a girls' night out.

Since I knew there was no possible way it was my child, she was also unknowingly admitting to having an affair. (I can math, and she can't). It was with her boss.

Lawyered up the next day, and he ate her alive in court. I got primary custody of our child we already had, and child support, and a sheriff's notice that she had to vacate my home in 30 days.

I never knew she could be that stupid.


The morning I saw a picture of some dude's penis on her phone. She was classy enough to bring him to the divorce proceedings...


Not me, but one of my best friends (got his permission to share). He got a pretty substantial year end bonus from work. He decided to use most of it for his wife's Christmas gift and pay off her remaining student loans (~$14,700) and the remaining portion to buy a new computer chair for when he gamed (~$300).

Christmas morning (he was nice enough to let me stay at his place when I traveled for work as he lived 20 minutes from the airport) we all woke up, and had breakfast. His family and her parents came over and we started exchanging gifts.

Besides paying off her loans, he had gotten her a few items. She opened the card saying her loans were paid off she just sat there for a minute. After the silence, and assuming she was kinda in shock, she asked "did you seriously not get me anything else? I bought you that stupid keyboard (the wrong one btw) and you only got me a few things?"

At that point, his brother in law and myself decided to go hang out in another room for a while they ended up getting into a huge fight. A day later when he was dropping me off at the airport he told me that he was going to visit a lawyer and get a divorce.


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When a friend's wife said to me "You know your wife is sleeping with my husband."


When she staged a robbery of our house so she could pawn all of my stuff for drug money.


When my stepdaughter became a teenager, my ex ramped up the aggression. She had always been an impatient, angry screamer of a parent. But as my stepdaughter became a young woman, my ex just went overboard with envy or something. I know lots of moms have a hard time with teenage daughters, but their base level patience is so much better than my ex's was. Threats of cutting hair in middle of night while daughter slept, ridiculing in front of her friends - I was out, with the kids.


My wife was around less & less...had to be free to live her life, go out with her friends. More often than not she would call me to pick our daughter up from daycare, after promising to pick her up & have some girl time.....just tell her I'm working late or not feeling well. She always had something better to do & the kids were old enough to know better. 

I went to pick our daughter up one day, when they called her name she came running over until she saw it wasn't mom, again, slumped her shoulders & slowly walked over to ask "what's her excuse this time?" That was the breaking point, told her to get out, even helped pay her security deposit to get her out.


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I was working on a mother daughter scrapbook as a Christmas present for her. Was going through her Google photos account looking for pics of them together. Came across a selfie she took with some dude laying on her. Confirmed her second affair. Knew it was over the moment I saw it. That has messed me up pretty good.


During the last year and a half of our marriage she became extremely psychologically abusive. She was a narcissist, controlled my every move, would isolate me, refused physical contact, I was just an extension to her life, was not allowed to talk to any female, was not allowed to hang out with any friends or she would ignore me for up to 5 days at a time, double standards everywhere, verbal abuse and the list can continue but it hurts to think about. 

The last straw for me was when she threatened to kill me because I came home from work late even though she knew I would be home late. It was just a little too late for her and she also threatened to hit me the same day. This was the second time this happened and I talked with several people at work about it and they suggested that I run. I had texts of the threats on my phone and contacted a lawyer that same week. She agreed to sign since I told her I would take severe legal action if she didn't. Thankfully no children and it was a clean divorce and I'm happily divorced.


I opened the computer and found the personal ad she was running for a sex buddy. Apparently it was just me she wasn't having sex with...


When she presented a picture of our four-year-old daughter and me laying next to each other on the couch watching Blues Clues to our marriage counsellor as evidence of my "inappropriate conduct" around our kids.

Thank God he saw right through that immediately and told her to knock it off.


Finding her, on Christmas Eve Eve, still sexting a co-worker whom she claimed she was no longer in contact with (having been busted sexting him previously, also). I cleared out of there like a blackjack dealer.


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I found out she cheated on me, and upon me confronting her to discuss it, she manipulated me into thinking she was suicidal. Then she admitted the manipulation. DONE. She may have once been a nice person, that's all gone now.


When I, as the only earner in the house, was denied buying a new pair of work boots - in December - because she needed the money to "buy vaccines for the puppies."

She bred dogs as a hobby, I was a framing carpenter in Ohio. My current work boots were toast - holes in both, no soles. I needed them. Her "puppy vaccine" story was a lie - her hobby was dogs, but she was a pro at popping pills. That's what she needed the money for.

I was done with her by March.


I used to love to do chores for her because she loved being taken care of. 

When she stopped noticing, it started hurting. Then one day I made a bench for our entryway out of barn wood. Took about 40 hours of work. She walked in the house after work that day and sat her purse on it and proceeded to start the fight where she told me that she was mad she got married to me. She stormed out of the house grabbing her purse. Never noticed the bench was there. I knew then but I think she already knew.


My neighbor's wife screaming "Putana!" downstairs after she caught my bride and her husband having sex in front of the fireplace.


When I found evidence of the last affair. As soon as I heard it, I knew that was the end, and there would never be anything else there.


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For the first one: I was working late and the daycare calls and ask if I'm picking up my kids. Left work to go get them, when I got home she was gone. Didn't hear anything from her for 2 weeks.

For the second one: the third time I bailed the house out of foreclosure because she wouldn't pay the bills. Even though there was money in the accounts to cover it. I closed the account, handed her cash for the mortgage packed a bag my kids and left.


When she asks me to take the kids on some errands, has kept me celibate for months saying she is asexual now, and once I leave invites some guy over to... ALL ON THE DAY BEFORE FATHERS DAY.


Not divorced yet...this happened last week. Her life is in such shambles I am not even mad.


When my buddies approached me to complain that she kept sitting on their laps, wiggling, and hoping for an erection.


Preface: we were doing a trial separation. She moved into the spare bedroom of our apartment. "Divorce" had been thrown around but we still spent time together and slept together. I wasn't seriously considering divorce, but rather counselling, etc.

Up until the day I came home from work at the same time I came home every day and she was in her room having sex with some random guy she met on Tinder. She had not told him she was married. I kicked him out of the apartment and made it clear to her I would be moving out as soon as possible.


When she said, "You didn't pray hard enough and that's why our son has cancer. That's why I'm sleeping with my prayer partner."


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When, after being in Afghanistan for 8 months (May '02-Nov '02), she was missing, had my car, finding two random women with kids and pets living in the apartment I paid for, the electricity cut off, no money in my bank account, a pay advance authorized by my commander, and a friend telling me to go easy on her because she was 5 months pregnant with his kid.

OH! And he had had heart surgery to remove some kind of cysts from his heart just before I left. He was 23, had a pacemaker, and basically half a heart. If I scared him, he could die.

I'd say that was the moment.


When I found the letter between her and my friend about their affair and how she couldn't wait to be away from me so they could be together..... yup... I knew then, that it was time to get that divorce.


I left for work at 6am and forgot to unplug the toaster. When I arrived home at 6pm, I was given the "everything you've ever done to piss me off speech" just for leaving the toaster plugged in. 

I asked her what she did all day that prevented her from unplugging it herself. Another "I'm a jerk" speech. I said something to the effect of quit acting like your mother. She threw the cat at me. A cat. She threw a cat at me.




Keeping secrets from kids might seem like an easy thing, but they tend to see and hear (and understand) a lot more than what the adults in their lives think they do.

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