Gay Men Were Asked:'What's One Piece of Advice For Straight Men?'
Men should never be afraid to showcase their softer, more sensitive sides. A collection of AskReddit responses reveal that being able to get in touch with your feminine side is never a bad thing. At the end of the day, if you're confident in your own skin, you can create your own definition of what it means to "be a man." (Hint: There is no right answer)
The following list source can be found at the end.
As long as a gay friend isn't crushing on you, we're really good at helping you figure out if a girl is right for you or if you're just blinded. We have a special ability with hot women called, "You have no power here!" and we find out very quickly which ones become hell to deal with if they can't wrap you around their finger. Our opinion also isn't shaded by female politics as a female friend can be.
I saw so many friends in college chase after girls that were completely wrong for them, just because of their looks. Gay men totally do the same thing when it comes to other men, so we can use your help as a filter as well.
Don't be so afraid to be feminine! You want to wax your eyebrows, go ahead, you're not less of a man. Want to dye your hair bright colors? Go ahead. Want to paint your nails? Go ahead. Want to wear a skirt? Go ahead. Your manliness is decided by you, not your lack of femininity.
Just wear clothes that fit.
Stop wearing white Oakley sunglasses with colored lenses. Just stop.
I'm not flirting with your girlfriend, I just think she's a lot cooler than you. So, stop glaring at me and go sit down.
I'm friends with gay guys. They check me when my place looks like shit and let me know if my clothing needs an upgrade. Most useful friends I've got. The best part is when I'm hanging out and a girl comes over and all of them point at me and say I'm the one who'd be interested, not them. I've got five wingmen with me.
Look a girl in the eyes. Keep your gaze off her tits and ass.
Three Words: Mow. The. Lawn.
Listen to women. They may not be telling you things expecting you to fix the problem. They might just want you to listen and show empathy.
The best revenge is living well.
Clean up. Personal hygiene is key. Shower and deodorant. We guys sweat and can stink. A good cologne will make the ladies swoon. Also, guys, you can moisturize, a lotion is fine [and] a nicely groomed beard is a good thing.
Don't treat your gay friends any differently than any of your other friends. If you're physically affectionate with your other friends but actively avoid doing so with your gay friend, we notice. If you have no trouble walking into a public bathroom with your other friends, but wait until your gay friend is done before going in, we notice.
Be confident, not creepy. I have seen so many good looking guys totally blow it when hitting on my friends.
The only cologne you will ever need is musk. Apply a small dab behind each ear and to each wrist. It blends with the scent of you to make you smell like a more attractive animal, so even if you get sweaty after you've applied it, people will think you meant to smell that way.
If you're wearing sweatpants, everyone can see your pecker.
Have a close gay friend. Don't be afraid of us, we are men just like you, just into fellow dudes. Some of my closest friends are non-judgemental bros. It's refreshing to be reminded that men of all walks of life can support and lift each other up together.
Stand up straight. Good posture is something girls like not just gays. Trust me.
Repression of emotion is the reason for so much of the anger straight men feel. It's okay to express!
For the men who don't have a stunning slim muscular physique:
You are still found extremely attractive by many. Do not let what society deems as "attractive" control what you think of your body. Even if you have aspirations to improve, some girl out there will find you sexy just the way you are.
Don't ask us who tops or who bottoms and especially don't ask, "Which one of you is the man?" If you have questions about gay people, politely ask if you can ask us a few questions. Odds are, we'll be happy to answer your questions if you give us a heads up before asking us for details about our sex lives.
Massage your head in the shower for a few minutes at least once a week. It will relieve stress and tension and will make your hair grow faster/healthier.
I don't have any special gay wisdom. I'm not a character from Sex and the City. I'm just like you, only I like men.
Being an outsider gives [you] unique perspective that can be valuable.
Try it once.
Wear a condom.
Ever wonder why a gay guy is a best friend to women? We listen.
Spit, don't swallow.
You catch more flies with honey than with vinegar, or so the saying goes.
The same can be said for your interactions with cops, most of whom are perfectly happy to let minor infractions slide––When was the last time you were actually ticketed for jaywalking?––provided you're not a total Karen should you interact them.
Your local police officer likely doesn't care about jaywalking or the fact that you went five miles over the speed limit unless you give him a reason to, as we learned when Redditor Takdel asked police officers: "What stupid law have you enforced just because someone was an a-hole?"