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Guys Share The One Compliment They've Received That They'll Never Forget

We need an initiative for men to compliment and support each other, because, you bet when a guy receives a compliment, he never forgets about it.


u/MostarRed asked:

Men of reddit, what is that one compliment you got that you'll never forget?

Here were some of the answers.


A Stranger's Encouragement

I'd been walking the same route for over a year for exercise trying to lose weight. I had lost about 120 pounds by this time when I heard a woman's voice iIdid not know call out to me from her back yard. "I'm proud of you, you have lost a lot of weight" I haven't seen her since but to me that helped me stay motivated hearing that.

duthgar1976

Pretty Pretty Prince

Some little girl in a cart, in a grocery store, once said 'he's pretty,' about me, to her mother. I could hear her mother telling her 'thats not what we say to boys.'

I didn't bother to say anything, but I would've told her that its ok to call anyone pretty.

Rockies14

A Prize-Winning Smile

Was working in a restaurant and told a guest that I would have the bartender make them a really annoying off-menu cocktail. Put in the order, walked to the bar to beg her to make this cocktail that I know she hates dealing with. She looks at me and sighs and says "That grin should be illegal." and proceeds to make the cocktail. Still makes me smile to myself.

BakedGoose

Hee Haw

I'm a little self concious of my laugh because it literally sounds like a dying hyena, and I've had a couple girls tell me "OMG I love your laugh" and "you have the best laugh", that always puts a smile on my face thinking about that. Also, I met one other person in my life who has the same laugh as me and we actually met in school, and we would sometimes sit on opposite sides of the classroom and then when one of us would laugh the other one would laugh and then it sounded like an echo chamber or a zoo or something, it was really funny.

mayhempk1

Cecily

I was talking to my ex and a few of his friends about this girl I knew in high school, Cecily. I said "she's the kind of person that makes you feel like you're the only person in the world when you're talking to her. She engages so deeply and always seems really interested in what you're saying to her."

One of his friends said "Downvoteallofthem, I think you're one of those people" and everyone else in the car voiced their agreement. It was the coolest thing that ever happened to me. I'll never forget that.

Downvoteallofthem

Ride The Wave

A girl I worked with once asked if I could give her a ride home because her ride wasn't able to pick her up. I did, and asked her out to dinner, which she agreed to. While we were at dinner, she confessed: "I didn't actually need a ride home. I just wanted a ride from a cute guy."

I was riding that compliment for months.

glory_of_dawn

It's All In The Eyes

I was at a funeral and my old school bus drivers wife who I had never met looked at me and said "you must be one of those (my last name) I said "yes," She said "I knew it when I saw your eyes". It made sense to me. It's happened my whole life. My whole family has large brown eyes and I'm always recognized for that so I said "yeah, we all have big brown eyes". She said "That's not exactly it. You all have kind eyes. You can tell by looking at a (my last name) they are genuine and good people" probably the most sincere compliment I've gotten.

Lookingood2

Support

I've been very depressed lately. I've never felt a low like this before. My roommate noticed because I stopped doing the dishes on my designated days, which is unlike me; I just couldn't find the energy or motivation.

I told her and she started writing encouraging notes on our shared bathroom mirror with dry erase markers.

Yesterday she wrote "5 things that make ColourfulFunctor awesome", and today she wrote "I am a better person because of you, ColourfulFunctor".

I think she literally saved my life. I'm still struggling, but I'm so lucky to have her.

ColourfulFunctor

Misreading Signals

A man came up to me, and asked me if I would be available for a date. I said I wasn't wasn't in a relationship, but also wasn't homosexual, and afterwards said I appreciated the offer. 'Ah, that's okay buddy, I'm sure you'll make some girl very happy one day.' That man was very good with rejection... I think.

Iforgotwhathappened

Yes Daddy

When I worked at Chipotle back when they had long lines, a lady in her 40's got her food, ate, then got back in line. She got to the front, I wait to take her order and she just says "I wanted to tell you that you are going to make a great father one day." I was a little confused but said thanks and then she left. Still a bit confused where that came from, but a compliments a compliment. Still feels good.

MentallyUnchallenged

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Ignorance really is biased.

We always think we know what is right and what is wrong, what's the truth and what's a lie. The reality is that most of what we know is just an opinion or a partial truth that we've filled in with our own rational (or irrational) explanation. These opinions that we pass off as 'facts' are far from it and it takes a lot of courage to look at yourself and admit you were wrong or misinformed about something. Everyone likes to pretend they're on a different level, but the truth is you're not so different from the people you disagree with. Meditate on that.

Here are a some people admitting strong opinions they no longer have, and what it took to change those views. Redditor u/segafarm asks:

What is the strongest opinion you once held but no longer hold, and what make you change your mind?

Jade-Colored Glasses

I used to think that being cynical/negative was realistic and somehow smarter than being positive. I've since realized that a "be prepared for the worst but expect the best" is far better. We can't control the outcome of anything in life. Being negative makes you miserable rather than protected from bad things happening.

nanaimo

Cant' Have A Conversation With A Parrot

I used to be a conspiracy theorist. Believed that 9/11 was committed by the US government and that we never landed on the moon.

Once I started looking outside of the echo chamber I was in and started looking at alternate explanations, theories and listening to different viewpoints I soon realized how ridiculous those notions were.

Not-A-Real-Subreddit

A Big, Mysterious Universe

I used to be a strict, hardline atheist. I was the kind of bastard that would bring the subject up for no reason, just to argue. I don't know what the hell my problem was. Now I feel like, the universe is big, I don't know what all might be out there, I don't really care. I live as if there is no afterlife, because that makes sense to me. But if you don't, and you believe in one, that's perfectly fine, and maybe you're right. Who knows?

CDC_

Portrait Of An Artist As A Young Man

I used to believe anyone can be a successful artist if they just put the time and effort into it. There is no such thing as talent, only hard work.

What changed my mind: Art school. There were quite a few people that tried hard, but just weren't able to achieve professional level art.

berfica

You're Not Your Emotions

For the longest time, I thought my emotions were in a sense the most "real" part of me. I was always a very emotional person and I didn't make a real effort to control it as I thought it was a good thing, that I was just being honest with myself. Over time though, I started to become very depressed and the negative emotions just keep adding on and on. I thought "this is just how I am I guess". Unfortunately it started hurting other relationships I had, and everything changed when my girlfriend broke up with me. After a lot of reading I found that emotions are not who we are at all. They're just reactions and there's nothing that requires us to act on them or feed them. I'm learning to let it go through me instead of hanging on like I used to.

inca829

Don't Forget Big Willie Style

I used to think that hip hop was bland, repetitive, and all about clubbing and sh*t. Then one of my friends pointed me towards people like Kendrick Lamar, Eminem, Nas and Run The Jewels, who all have great songs and clever lyrics, and I realized that Hip Hop is pretty great.

6quid

The A**holes Will Always Find A Way

I used to think that the catholic church was responsible for all of the hateful people in it. I gave people the chance to challenge my opinion and someone explained it very nicely to me. Basically, the hateful people use the church as an excuse, if you remove the church they will gladly find another excuse.

TianaLeFong

High Times

Giphy

I used to tell myself that I would never stop smoking weed, and that I'd be happy if my kids grew up to be pot smokers... Now I have a kid, don't smoke, and realize what an idiot I was when all I did was smoke all day. I could probably be in a much better position if I hadn't smoked all through college.

But I mean, I still think pot's okay... Just in moderation.

edgar__allan__bro

The Road Less Traveled

"All taxation is theft, man! I made my money without any help from public institutions or the infrastructure they support, I should be able to keep every last dime of it!"

Naturally that was when I was 18, living at home rent free, and working at Pizza Hut as a delivery driver who relied upon public roads for pretty much every cent I made.

ExtremelyLongButtock

All Those PSA's Didn't Do Much

The whole D.A.R.E anti-drugs. Yes crack and heroin is bad, but they over dramatized what happens when you do smaller drugs. Weed isn't even a gateway drug, alcohol is more of a gateway drug. When I saw weed for the first time I thought it was tobacco (This was after all the D.A.R.E training too). Letting the government teach you your morales and philosophy is a thing that sheep do. Don't be a sheep.

PlantTreesForToday

Where Would We Be Without The Kindness Of Strangers

I used to think people on welfare and state assistance just weren't trying hard enough. I grew up spoiled and entitled and it seemed like any kind of charity was a stigma.

Then, my husband became chronically ill, and the economy took a shit. My family has been close to homelessness more than once, and have relied on state insurance and assistance off and on throughout the past few years. There are definitely people out there who abuse the system, but some just get stuck in a horrible cycle of poverty.

I also work in a school that has a high number low income and refugee families. It has really opened my eyes to the struggles that some people face.

BuffyandtheHellcats

He's Still There For You, The Best He Can Be

I could go through life and could seek meaningful advice from my Dad who has always been there for me.

Now he has been reduced to a feeble condition, I am starting to understand I'm out there on my own, and even what he's sure of is suspect given his mental and physical facilities have been rapidly deteriorating in his late seventies. I feel horrible that I have noticed this long before he did - or at least admitted as much.

june606

Clear Your Mind

This was before I received an ADHD diagnosis. When my doctor referred me to an ADHD specialist, first of all I refused to believe him and was kind of slighted that he even suggested that I could possibly have ADHD.

I had a very strong opinion that if I get a diagnosis that I would refuse to take prescribed amphetamines because they are "bad" and "addictive" and that they would ruin my life.

Then I actually tried the prescription and it was like magic.

Xingua92

Going Through The Whole Spectrum

Used to be fairly open with my views on immigration policy. Then I worked for a while down near Corpus Christie doing immigration work. I'd say one out if every hundred people that came through our office was going to somebody who actually wanted to work and try to make a living here. So many people simply wanted to exist enough to get welfare. Many were young men who we would later defend against exportation as a result of their criminal activity. I began to despise the work of defending these men and wished they would be deported.

Now, I'm dating a foreign girl and we are in the legal immigration process. She has advanced degrees and skills, so that makes things a little easier. But it does make me resent people who just bypass the system. We can't bypass the system because I imagine my participation in immigration fraud could get me disbarred.

RogerDeanVenture



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