Internet Introverts Share Their Ideal Dates For People That Hate Going Out

Internet Introverts Share Their Ideal Dates For People That Hate Going Out

Dating can be kind of awful for even the most gracious and extroverted social butterfly. It can be even worse for people who aren't exactly energized by the presence of a ton of other people. For the more introverted among us, a date at a bar or restaurant may just sound terrible. One Reddit user asked:

Introverts of Reddit, what sounds like a fun date to you?

And honestly a lot of the responses sound really fun! If big groups and loud public spaces aren't your thing (or your potential date's thing) or if you just want some ideas on ways to break the monotony of things, read ahead!

Must've Been A Great Cook

My tinder date cooked for me. We are now engaged.


I once had a date at Ikea pretty late at night when it wasn't so busy. It was pretty awesome. It took forever to get through, they have a cafeteria that has great food at a reasonable price, and I learned a lot about what she looks for in a bed.

Bad By Definition

The same dates extroverted people also enjoy. A date is sort of a one on one thing by definition. Like going to a club sounds like a universally bad date, even if you enjoy the club, because you can't chat. That's just crazy to do on a date. Once you're established, sure, but a date should be a time where two lovebirds can talk and get to know each other, one on one.

Office Building

Back in high school, this guy took me to an office building that was very climbable and we just sat on the roof, talked, and watched the cars drive by below. That one was really cool.

Something Else To Do

Something where there's something to do besides focusing on each other all the time because things can get awkward really fast, but where you can still decide to if you find you really fancy them.

A trip to the museum sounds good mostly because of this, rather than how well it fits my personal interests.

I suppose it's also a great way to know how well you'd get along with them on a day-to-day basis. You can easily pick out people who overwhelm you with their chatter and don't let you enjoy anything, as well as those who're just trying to rush you to the end because they're bored with it all and don't have anything interesting to say.

Finding someone whose presence makes the visit a better experience for you than it would've been if you went alone is rare. And precious.

So yeah. Museums all the way.

A Literal Fort Night

I'm going to be building a fort and listening to music/watching movies with the girl I'm after. It seems like it'll be pretty great, and give quite the nostalgic feel

Video Games

Playing video games together sounds fun.

Unlimited Things To Talk About

One of my best dates ever was supposed to be a movie date, but we met up at a bookstore and that ended up being the date. Sweet, sweet bookstores. Bookstore dates are the best. There are unlimited things to talk about because every book is a topic of discussion. And you can really get to know a person by what kind of books they look at.

Catching Fish Is Just A Bonus

I would have to say a day fishing but finding a girl who genuinely enjoys fishing has proven to be quite difficult. The part that most people can't get over is the long periods of time not catching anything. They go 10 minutes and if nothing bites, they want to leave. I don't go to catch fish. I go to relax my mind. Catching fish is just a bonus and there's very few people I know that think the same way.

Bake And Binge

Go somewhere truly dark and count shooting stars.

Take a nap together

Stay up all night baking cookies and binge watching a series we're both into

Go on a hike

Lunch Break


You've got three minutes tops to make a first impression. Why waste all night together being polite when there's no chemistry? Assuming it's on both your work breaks, you're in & out quicker than Dominoes.

And if you do hit it off, then rock climbing. You can't belay yourself!


I have always thought going to the zoo would be the perfect date! Zoos are pretty much giant parks with the perk of cool landscaping and obviously the animals.

I would go on a Sunday in the fall when it's a bit chilly to avoid the crowds. Then walk around for a couple hours looking at all of the animals and maybe feed the giraffes. Then we could go find a nearby restaurant to find some hot chocolate and yummy food to warm up. Perfect day. I still haven't found anyone to do this with though.

Just Keep Moving

One-on-one, walking around town, just talking and hanging out somewhere. I prefer walking around because changing scenery makes my brain move from topic to topic easier, thus reducing stagnant conversation.


Wander around a bookstore, go for coffee or a small meal, hang out in a park.


Drinking until i become an extrovert.


Can we just sit on the floor with our eyes closed and eat saltine crackers without talking to each other?

French Fries And Stars

For my 30th birthday, I was expecting my gf to throw me a surprise party, even though I told her I'd rather not. So evening comes and she tells me to put on my shoes and coat, puts a blindfold on me and we get in the car. We drive for a couple of minutes, but I still recognize where we're going, it's the town's square, close to a pub which is visited pretty regularly by me and my friends. She tells me she needs to take care of something and leaves me in the car. Okay, here we go, I figured, let's make this fun, she put a lot of effort into it and I will enjoy it. But five minutes later she returns, starts the car and we drive off again. I also catch the scent of french fries. We stop a few minutes later, all quiet. She starts walking with me, soon on a dirt road. She almost falls down in a brook right next to us, trying to lead me along, making this even more hilarious. Then blindfold comes off, there's a blanket, electric candles. Nobody but us, stars and french fries. I absolutely loved this and it was a huge relief not having to greet 20 people, also knowing that I could trust her knowing what I really liked.

A Keeper

Call me a nerd but if a guy takes me to an art/science museum on a date, he's a keeper.

A Long Walk

Can we go picnic or something? Go for a walk?

Oh Thank God

Getting a text saying "Sorry I can't make it tonight"

H/T: Reddit

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When you're a kid most adults will tell you one thing or another is "cool" and "fun." Odds are you're too young to form any kind of opinion on the matter one way or another. You're a kid, right? You don't know what you're eating for breakfast. However, when you get older and form that larger worldview, you realize that yeah, maybe that one time when you were a kid actually wasn't fun.

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