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Older People Give Advice They Wish They'd Had In Their 20s.

It's hard to get perspective on the phase of life you're currently living. Sometimes, it's best to get some advice from those who've already lived through it.

Here, older people give advice they wish they'd had in their 20s.



1. Don't wait to get in shape.

Your health and ability to physically recover faster. Get in shape now...and stay that way as you grow older. Don't try to get in shape in your late 40's.

icepigs

2. Not having children has some serious upsides.

If you decide to not have kids, your 30's can be a lot like your 20's but with more money. It's awesome.

Cromulents

3. Friendships are important.

I'm 31, own a house, work 60+ hours a week, married and have a baby, and I love everything about my life. The only thing I really miss is hanging out with all of my old friends. Try not to lose touch with them.

dick-nipples

4. It's all part of life.

Your future (story continued on the next page...).


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Being 20something isn't that much better than being 30something. Enjoy the crap out of your entire life. Be in the moment and don't worry if you're "missing out" on anything. You are never going to be able to go back, so keep looking forward. Be happy, make mistakes, and learn - no matter how old you are.

dummystupid

5. Leave the country.

I don't know if your spouse is into it, but if you haven't started traveling internationally by now, you really need to start.

outsideitude

6. Put yourself out there.

For the love of all that is holy - just talk to hotties. Today.

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7. Teeth? Who needs em.

Look after your teeth. Human life expectancy keeps going up in the developed world, but many of our body parts still come with short warranty periods. Sore knees and back are very common as you get older, but dental problems can really compound with age.

FinanceITGuy

8. Less practical but still good advice

I'm going to suggest something less practical: take some more chances. You know that idea that's been ruminating in the back of your mind for years? That one that doesn't have anything to do with your job or your mortgage. That one that falls outside your schema of living and routine and that you shrug off as some immature or impractical idea; as just some silly fantasy (story continued on the next page...).


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Maybe it's a crazy business idea or a trip to go live in a hut in India for three months or to breed Pygmy hippos or to become a juggling street performer. Whatever it is, explore it. Maybe even try it. I don't mean take a stupid, life-threatening risk. I'm not suggesting a trying a lifestyle of meth addiction and bare-knuckle Fight Clubs. But something outside your comfort zone. Try it. Maybe you'll fail miserably at it. But just try it. Because in about a decade when you're responsible for more things and more people, you won't be able to. And you'll find yourself in a self-imposed mental prison of 'what-ifs'. And take it for someone who didn't because I was too scared, too embroiled in my own insecurities and addictions, and so heavily conditioned to fear failure - you'll wish you did.

StickleyMan

9. Be happy with the body you have.

How hot your body is. You're in your prime, don't forget it.

spiced

10. Drinking is still fun but the next day...

Just turned 30 myself and instantly my hangovers are twice as bad and last twice as long.

prancingbadger

11. Be careful where you sleep.

Being able to sleep on the couch and not regret it in the morning.

Brandoe

12. Appreciate the people that are around you.

Work hard and save, as others are saying, but don't do it at the expense of your friends or loved ones (story continued on the next page...).


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Let's just say I never look back at my 20s and think, "Man, I'm really glad I put in that extra weekend of work instead of going on that awesome trip my friends all talk about now."

I never think, "I really regret taking an afternoon off to spend time with my wife."

People think there's some sort of saving mechanism, where one day in the future you'll be able to do something that you wouldn't have been able to if you'd worked a little less or relaxed more. So far, I haven't found that to be the case.

wxyzed

13. Some financial advice.

Put your financial issues in order. Get a second income. For real, that would be helpful when the hard times come to your door. Saving money is a must. A good credit history is another must.

Tikkikun

14. Let the wild time begin!

Get wild all you can. Partying and making a lot of relationship mistakes would be harder in time. Those "I would love to be in a threesome with a woman while some person is looking at us through a hole in the wall" fantasies will be harder to achieve in time and you'll regret not being able to do them while you could.

ikkikun

15. Get some rest.

Sleep all you can. Being able to sleep 6 - 8 hours straight is so underrated! Gosh! I miss sleeping!

Tikkikun

16. Never knew hair could grow from there...

Not having ear hair. Hair that grows in the ear hole. When the heck did evolution decide that was useful.

fiddlepuss


17. Join your local league!

Find a physical sport/hobby that you like and start it now. Whether it's soccer, rugby, boxing, running, weightlifting or some martial art, When you get in your mid-30s and find something you like, you'll kick yourself for not starting earlier.

srm775

18. Time to go have some fun.

Recovery time.

This is the time to pull all nighters getting experience and advancing your career.

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19. You create your own structure.

The realization that you need to be the catalyst for the significant changes in your life now. Everything was so structured through school and college in 4 year blocks. Even getting my first job was kind of easy because I did it through on-campus recruiting. Now to make the next moves I actually need to decide what I want, seek it out and make it happen. It sounds so trivial but it's required a big shift in my thinking and approach.

50s_Ent

20. The nose knows.

Nose hair. I'm shaving them little twerps at least once a week!

plax1780




21. Harsh but necessary.

You aren't special and you won't always get your way. The real world is not fair and it does not care about you. You are in fact capable of accomplishing anything, but it's not going to be easy.

A_sad_vulcan

22. You need to figure out what you want.

You will have to make very practical (sometimes very cold) decisions about what you want from life and what you're willing to give up. And if you don't make them then life will make them for you.

sirophiuchus

23. Good things take work.

You learn that relationships aren't like in the movies, that they take work and thought and that everyone is flawed and damaged and that they'll probably kick you in the gut at least a dozen or so times.

ChubbyWordsmith

24. People fall in love.

The realization that all your friends are getting into serious relationships/engagements.

NordyNed

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