It's safe to say your exes are exes for a reason. Something in your relationship just did not work out, and while it may have hurt at the time, you're better in it for the long run. Though, certainly, if all your past paramours were to gather in one place they might have something to say to you.
Reddit user, u/dRPhantom93, wanted to know what your worst fears are when they asked:
The Times Have Certainly Changed
"HE'S A DRUNK LAZY F-CKER!"
Then my current Fiancee would look very confused because I've been alcohol free for 4 years and I certainly do not behave how I use to.
Change For The Worse
That they all remember me as being much more happy and full of life than I am now.
Simply Out Of It
They'd most likely agree that I was sweet to them and never violent. They'd also all have similar experiences with me appear to 'check out' of the relationship via playing video games and ignoring them. (it's subconscious and im working on it)
I also villainized all of them when we broke up and cut off all contact because it was easier for me to cope. So, that would probably be mentioned.
The First Step Is Self-Awareness
That I was a fun and sweet boyfriend but have too many issues stemming from my super-religious upbringing to survive in long term relationships.
EDIT: For those asking: Jehovah's Witnesses.
Moderation Is Not In My Dictionary
Pretty sure this would be unanimous.
- He is funny. / He can be inappropriate.
- He is a good cook. / He likes things too spicy.
- He really likes beer. / He likes beer maybe a little too much.
Steer Into Your Beanbag StatusGiphy
That I make a better bed than a boyfriend.
Every single gf I've had has said, unprompted, that I am unbelievably comfortable to lie on
You Might Learn From Them
They'd probably agree that I was a bit too clingy, which is why I've spent the last 4 years single in order to work on myself.
Remember folks, make sure you're stable and happy before entering a relationship - thinking someone else will magically make you happy will not make you happy unless you're with them all the time... hints the clingy part.
All You Can Do Is Apologize
That I am extraordinarily sh-t at break-ups.
Also that I mentally check-out from the relationship when under stress.
And that I am a really good cook.
There Can Be A Positive Spin To It
"She's a wonderful person, just not the right one for me."
All 3 of my ex's, including my husband, either cheated or left me for someone else.
Secretly, we all fear having birthdays like the one in Sixteen Candles, where nobody shows up and we're forced to deal with how lonely we feel as people. But sometimes, people have things happen on their birthday that put Molly Ringwald to shame.
It stinks to have your special day go sour. Moreover, it hurts, that if whatever happened was bad enough, you will never be able to not associate your birthday with that awful thing.