People Reveal What Their Parents Did That Completely Messed Them Up As Kids
Mom and dad did their best. Didn't they?
Parenting is difficult. It's in fact one of the hardest tasks in the world. It's not that people have to be perfect at it, that would be impossible, but you can at least try your best. Parents... save some money for your kids therapy bills... you'll need it.
Redditor u/OGWhiz2 wanted to hear some hard truths from everyone about the past by asking.... What is something your parents did while raising you that you realized is screwing up after looking back on it?
My parents would ask my siblings and I which parent we would live with if we had to choose one. Oof-TotalTrashMammal
My Dad took me to a bar for my 5th birthday. It was called McDougal's (it sounded close enough to McDonald's for me). He proceeded to get hammered and another couple at the bar saw it an distracted me by giving me quarters to play one of those glass table video games while they called my Mom. I didn't think anything of it at the time, but my Mom told me that was the day she decided to leave him. string97bean
If I did something to get my dad mad at me, even if it was as little as not hearing him call me upstairs from my room, he'd make me stand outside and watch the family eat dinner. It could be snowing out and I'd be outside the dining room, watching them eat around the table. Judge_Bredd2
Didn't happen to me but happened to my sister.
Every-time my parents would argue, they would individually go to my sister and basically treat her like their personal psychologist and rant about things like "we only stay together for you" or "i'm so miserable."
Yea.... they got their crap together eventually but this really messed up my sister. Dracoqueen
Come on Get Happy.Giphy
They always told me to be happy
Then gave me reasons why my happiness is wrong. Tonythetranstiger
When I was like 3 years old I watched strippers with my mom on TV. Couple of times I told my mom I didn't like it, but my mom was like: Why? Aren't you interested in looking at beautiful naked girls? They are sexy, beautiful and attractive. Then my dad came back home and was like: Jennifer, what the heck are you doing? This happened quite a lot until my parents had fight over it. Minimum_Lemon
I am Worthy.
Claimed credit for whatever I achieved.
I got an A in a test, that was because they had taught me (they hadn't). Best example - I aced map reading in Geography, top of the year. As my step-dad worked in transport, me acing the test was because of his job, nothing to do with me studying and working hard. I should be thankful that he wanted to spend that time helping me (he didn't spend any time helping me) because he wasn't my Dad and had no obligation to do anything for me, not even put a roof over my head. If I dared to say I worked towards it, I was reminded I only lived with my mother because my step father allowed it. (This was all from my Mother, although he was there and never corrected it)
Every single achievement was down to them somehow, and never me. Always followed up with a "she's a bit stupid /daft /never pays attention, are you sure she didn't cheat"
I was constantly told that I should just get a job as a hairdresser until I got married and had children as I just wasn't smart enough to do anything else.
I wish I could say I took their constant put downs, and used it to elevate myself, but years of being told I was stupid by my parents meant I thought the teachers were wrong about my potential. Victoria-belle
Punishing me for not having the right answer in my homework whenever they decided to "help me"... tried asking less of their help throughout my youth but they left the job of raising me to my sister anyways. Alice8Ft
You don't know crap!
They ruined nearly all my hobbies for me because they had to constantly be telling me what I was doing wrong. Even when they didn't know crap about it. Also would lose their stuff if I got a B or lower in school. My district changed up the grading scale, A's went from 95 to 100 and they made it 90 to 100 in the new grading scale, and I'd have to hear a lecture about how that used to be a B any time I got anything from a 90 to a 94. Batman219
Be a grown up...Giphy
They would be furious if I liked something that was either too juvenile for me or not marketed toward my gender. They would talk about how I'm being a baby, ask me how my peers would react if they knew I liked baby and/or girl stuff, they'd tell me how smart they thought I was and how I was ruining my intelligence by liking that stuff instead of doing independent study or whatever. Did I mention they would do this before I was even 12 years old? It's not like I was 25 and still living with them.