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People Reveal What They Learned About Their S.O. After They Moved In Together

We think we know someone, and then we move in with them. Lots of things can chance, especially when it's a significant other. Home is where we hide our quirks and intimate habits, so all sorts of surprises lay in store. The challenge is to adapt, if you can.

Dexcov asked: What's something you didn't learn about your S.O. until you lived with them?

Submissions have been edited for clarity, context, and profanity.


A perfect adaption.

My wife is a warm sleeper. It's like sleeping next to a heater. So, I run a fan next to me and put a pillow between us so that she doesn't get hit by the wind. We love it.

S1lentGuard1an

Get separate quilts, it was life changing for us because now I get to be a normal temperature and she gets to do her best impersonation of a furnace.

syrity

Go big or stay hungry.

How big of a deal cooking is for her... It's feast or famine. She generally doesn't make her lunch and rarely makes dinner, but when she does it is an elaborate meal that takes hours to prepare.

IsItBrieUrLookingFor

I can relate. I'll survive on canned beans until there's a reason, and when there's a reason, I'm all in. Then back to beans.

Yodfather

If you're gonna go to all the trouble of breaking out the pots and pans, you might as well do it right.

CodeArcher

Healthy stress management.

He cleans when he's stressed or upset. Coming home to a clean apartment is like a breath of fresh air then the concern sets in. "Ok what happened? Should I open some wine and you can tell me about it?"

I love that man beyond reason.

thatsnotincense

My all time best roommate stress bakes.

Her: Hey do you want some apple pie I baked?

Me: Yes of course but what's up??

TheApiary

Mine too. We've had explosive arguments followed by hours of silence and cleaning separate sides of the house together.

bitterpickleguy

Always.

That dirty clothes go in the hamper and "not quite dirty, still good to wear again" clothes go on the floor next to the hamper.

robbybaird

I'm confused... is there a different way?

dmfconrad

Yeah you filthy heathen, your supposed to put the "not quite dirty, still good to wear again" clothes on the chair in the corner that never gets used, who wants to wear floor clothes?

Betty2theWhite

Down for whatever is a good mantra.

How absolutely chill he is with everything. Extra people joining us for dinner? - Sure! Hosting a party - sounds great - he'll fire up the grill and no need to ask him to help with clean-up, he's already on it. I have finals week and am crazed with work and studying? - he's my rock.

There are certainly things that get him worried, but the day-to-day stuff that I can get warped over, he is phenomenal at keeping perspective. I adore him.

Evil-ish

That's the best. I love people like that. I hate when people only complain and having an attitude for when one has finals and can't cook or clean.

Keep him! Make him happy as well!

filipieusebiohermes

When they move your stuff.

Hey... where is the cable i use every day to connect my work laptop to the monitors?

Her: "It's right were it should be. *Goes into the closet, takes out and opens 5 boxes, opens a floor safe and grabs the cable.*

Pigglywinks

This is why I try really hard not to move my bf's stuff around. We don't live together, but he's had me help him move rooms and reorganize. But then he sets something down, like a hat, and I am like "I should put that with with the other hats in the closet" and then he can't find the damn thing.

So I try to never mess with things unless he asks me to.

ASpoonfullOfSass

Some are meant to eat, not cook.

She burns literally everything she cooks. She has ruined 2 pots, melted things inside the microwave, and destroyed one crock pot.

I love her unendingly. But my god, she is destroyer of worlds.

spdorsey

How does one ruin a crock pot? I'm impressed.

notthefakemsc

By leaving something in it for days and days, long after it should be done cooking. And she got mad at me if I wanted to remove it.

It's not rational.

spdorsey

Homemade noodles, if you're interested.

He can make homemade soup. Even the noodles are from scratch!

drumgal1

How does one go about making homemade noodles?

theranger815

He takes 1 cup flour, 1 beaten egg, 1/2 tsp salt, 2 tbsp milk and kneads it together, rolls it out, cuts it in strips/pieces and pinches the middle of them to make little bows. Whenever we have a rotisserie chicken he uses the bones and what's left with some veggies to make the soup (:

drumgal1

That is seriously impressive. Tell me, is your partner single?

Dakujem

Also what is your partners views on Polygamy?

KawaiiSlave

What about someone not interested in commitment but open to soup?

Cabana_bananza

When he smokes, but isn't chronically addicted.

He actually is possibly the one person in the universe who legitimately actually smoked a pack a day and "only smokes socially and could quit anytime he wanted." Like, he'd continuously chain-smoke hanging out with his old roommate, but then he moved in with me and I asked him to please not smoke indoors and he spent a couple days going "I kinda want a cigarette but I am too lazy to walk five steps from my desk to the door of our tiny 1BR apartment ¯\_(ツ)_/¯" and just never picked the habit back up. I was floored.

nblackhand

Laziness or sheer willpower.

Friend's kid confronted him with "I'd like to try smoking"...ended up making a deal...dad would stop and kid wouldn't start. Heavy smoker to zero overnight.

AnomalyNexus

It me.

That he has no self control if there are sweets or chips in the house. Can't just leave half the bag, has to eat it. So now I hide a few small chocolates to give our piece by piece :)

Karapuzio

I cant be trusted to shop. I'm too tempted to pick out junk food. Once junk food is in house it will be consumed because I get into a cycle of anxiousness over eating it then use it to calm myself down and then realize how stupid what I just did was.

sipater

Happens to us all the time! We're only human 🤷♀️

Karapuzio

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While we still have a long way to go before we can find out what's next for June/Offred in the Republic of Gilead, we can, at the very least, regale you with some cool facts about one of the most enduring stories of the last three decades.

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The trailer lampoons former President Ronald Regan's 1984 "Morning in America" political campaign television commercial.

"It's morning again in America," you hear over a soundtrack and images that resound with boundless optimism. Things turn dark from there. Soon the camera freezes on Elisabeth Moss's face: "Wake up, America," she says.

Margaret Atwood's Follow-Up Will Be Released Later This Year

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This literary device keeps with the metafictional epilogue that follows Offred's story in the original novel. The novel ends much in the way Season 1 ends: with Offred entering the van at Nick's insistence. The epilogue explains how the events of the novel were recorded onto cassette tapes after the beginning of what scholars have come to describe as "The Gilead Period." An interview with a noted academic implies that a more equitable society, one with full rights for women and freedom of religion restored, emerged following the collapse of the Republic of Gilead.

Serena Joy Waterford Is Likely Based On A Noted Conservative Activist

As the series goes on, we learn more about Serena Joy Waterford (Yvonne Strahovski) and her beginnings.

Serena was a conservative activist who, along with her husband Fred, spearheaded the Puritan movement that ultimately gave rise to Gilead. Inspired by women whom she perceives to have "abandoned" their families in the name of female autonomy, Serena Joy delivers impassioned speeches at venues around the nation calling for policies that would place women back in the home. She even wrote a bestselling book, A Woman's Place, that served as the vessel for much of her conservative dogma and inspired many of the Commander's Wives who become her friends and neighbors.

Serena was likely based on conservative activist Phyllis Schlafly, who established herself over many years as one of the fiercest antifeminist and anti-abortion advocates in the United States. Schlafly was also a vociferous opponent of the Equal Rights Amendment, which she considered an attack against traditional gender roles.

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Pinter told his biographer years later [as quoted in Harold Printer, p. 304] that:

It became … a hotchpotch. The whole thing fell between several shoots. I worked with Karel Reisz on it for about a year. There are big public scenes in the story and Karel wanted to do them with thousands of people. The film company wouldn't sanction that so he withdrew. At which point Volker Schlondorff came into it as director. He wanted to work with me on the script, but I said I was absolutely exhausted. I more or less said, 'Do what you like. There's the script. Why not go back to the original author if you want to fiddle about?' He did go to the original author. And then the actors came into it. I left my name on the film because there was enough there to warrant it—just about. But it's not mine'.

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There are several different adaptations of Atwood's seminal work, including, but not limited to:

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Pray God you can cope
I'll stand outside
This woman's work
This woman's world
Ooooh it's hard on a man
Now his part is over
Now starts the craft of the FatherI
know you've got a little life in you left
I know you've got a lot of strength left
I know you've got a little life in you yet
I know you've got a lot of strength left
I should be crying but I just can't let it show
I should be hoping but I can't stop thinking
All the things we should've said that I never said
All the things we should have done that we never did
All the things we should have given but I didn't
Oh darling make it go
Make it go away
















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