People Reveal Which Double Standards Infuriate Them The Most

Double standards are aggravating for everyone. What's okay from one group is completely unacceptable from the other, even when that makes no logical sense.

Reddit user labadee asked:

What's the biggest double standard in society?

Some of the responses were things that I hadn't even thought about, but just reading the thread was mildly infuriating.

It's All Wind

Farting is basically harmless but taboo and rude but sneezing could possibly cause the f**king zombie apocalypse but no one cares as long as you cover.


Be Free

That men don't have to hide their nipples even though women's are actually functional and useful. Get your redundant little skin pyramids outta here, fellas. (Actually I just hope everyone can be comfortable and that my lady nips can be free in the summer).


Clothes Are Clothes

Women crossdressing?

•Most people don't even think that's possible. •There's barely any articles of clothing that are seen as "for men", and anything that may be is probably currently fashionable anyways.
•Hardly anyone lifts an eye when a girl shops in the men's section, if they do, "I wear men's clothes because they're comfy" works as an argument nearly every time.

Men crossdressing?
•Guy shopping in the women's section is often seen as perverted.
•Should stay away from children. Boys should never be encouraged to do such a thing, but girls can wear whatever.
•Perfectly acceptable to make fun of them in movies and TV shows.
•Unprofessional, if a guy wears an appropriate dress to a job interview, his chances would probably go down.


Fashion Passion

Every news article about a woman will mention what she was wearing. I never hear about what men are wearing. What are men wearing these days? The media won't tell me.




The difference in higher management and drone workers. My boss's mother recently died and she wasn't in the office for like 2 months with no repercussions. My coworkers grandmother is dying and she's being threatened with losing her benefits for spending so much time in the hospital.


Too Much Of A Good Thing

It doesn't seem to be so prevalent anymore, but when I was younger:


but staring slack-jawed at primetime tv for 6+ hours every single night is a-ok.


Sitting at my laptop for 1 or 2 hours after work working on my farm in Stardew Valley makes me an utter waste of skin but sitting in front of a telly, scrolling on your phone hoping for a Tinder match is absolutely fine.


Netflix all nighter : no one bats an eye

Gaming all nighter : "why are you so addicted, it's not healthy"


A Doggy Dilemma

"How come Pluto doesn't wear clothes and lives in a dog house, but Goofy—who is also a dog—gets to wear clothes and play golf with Mickey?!"


Self Awareness Is Refreshing

It's OK for me to make a small mistake when driving, but lord help you if you so much as drive close to my lane. You are the most incompetent f*****r this side of town, and i'll tailgate you for the next kilometer just to remind you of it.


Thank you for responding with what double standard you recognize in yourself. Refreshing.


It's Just A Number

I'm a 33 year old guy dating a 39 year old woman. I get some strange reactions, even from my closest friends, when her age comes up.

If I dated a girl six years younger than me, nobody would give it a second thought.


Jesus, this. My GF is 42, I'm 31. She lives 4 hours away, in Columbus, OH. I'm in Grand Rapids, MI.

My dad married someone who is 15 years younger than he is, who also lived in Columbus, and tells me the age difference is weird and I should find someone closer.

Okay Dad. Sure, you got it.


I'm a 30 year old guy dating a 34 year old woman. The age gap isn't even that large and we still get questions...

I get a lot of comments from people saying that she's at the stage where she's super keen for children because of the biological clock. No damn it... I'm the one that wants the kids!


On A More Serious Note

That if the cops get called for domestic disturbance they will always take the guy away, even if he looks beaten up and the woman looks fine.

Or they tell him to spend the night somewhere else. It's never them telling the woman to go cool off.

Like I know majority of it is men hurting women. But let's go into each instance without a predetermined judgement no matter how the situation looks.


keeping it as I wrote it but plenty of people have assured me that domestic abuse is very close to equal among men and women. I would venture to guess that men report it far less as well. So who really knows the actual numbers.

Just be sure that men can and are abuse victims and there's nothing weak or demasculinizing about it. Please get help if you are in an abusive relationship.


Everyone Pick Up Your Toys

When I was a kid if I left my toys out and one of my parents stepped on them I got yelled at and in trouble for not putting my toys away.

On the other hand, when my dad left his tools out and I stepped on one I got yelled at for not watching where I was stepping.


Pay Attention While We Ignore You

It's super rude to ignore recruiters or HR when they contact you or try to set up something.

...then you're ignored for about 95% of applications you submit.


9 In The Morning Is My 5 O'clock 

I used to work nights by choice, which meant that occasionally I'd knock off work and decide to have a glass of wine before bed. For me, that was about eight in the morning, when my housemates at the time were getting up to go to their nine-to-fives. The reaction from people was *insane*.
For me, it seemed way weirder to sleep during the day, wake up in the late afternoon, then get dressed and go out for dinner and drinks with them, which basically meant that I was having wine for breakfast -- but from their perspective, that made perfect sense.
Night work is weird.


I used to work third shift, which I loved, but yeah. A lot of people can't fathom their morning being your night. I used to have a beer after work around 8 AM and someone made a serious comment about me having a possible problem.


...Yeah, the problem is night shift.


Perception Is Everything

Rich people are eccentric, poor people are crazy.


Have You Tried Turning It Off And On Again?

Everything in IT is working? Why do we pay you?

Nothing in IT is working? Why do we pay you??


You need to maintain a balance of only half the things working.


That's actually true, a friend of mine works at an IT company and says he doesn't have any work to do there and is afraid of getting fired cause of it. That's why every once in a while he unplugs the ethernet cable for the office and leaves it unplugged until someone comes and asks him if he could fix the internet connection.


Canine Discrimination

My cat is allowed on the office desk and my (100lb tank of a) dog is not.

My dog would like you to know this is a terrible injustice and that he would like to file a report with the proper authorities.

- Ich-parle


Management is late, it's because they're busy and important people and had things to do. Peon walks in 5 minutes late, you're getting written up, don't be late again or you're fired!


Uncomfortable Truths

I pointed out to my mom that when I don't hear what she said, I'm told I need to listen better.... but when she doesn't hear me, I need to communicate better. She wasn't amused by that observation.


Parents Are Parents

Drives me crazy that when I'm with my daughter I'm parenting, but when her father is with her people call it babysitting. Stop it. My kiddo's dad does a hell of a lot for her. What he does and what I do are exactly the same, so stop undermining dads by saying they aren't parenting.


Dammit Caleb

When lady gaga wears a meat dress she's being "edgy." When I do it, I'm "ruining thanksgiving, Caleb."


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Jade-Colored Glasses

I used to think that being cynical/negative was realistic and somehow smarter than being positive. I've since realized that a "be prepared for the worst but expect the best" is far better. We can't control the outcome of anything in life. Being negative makes you miserable rather than protected from bad things happening.


Cant' Have A Conversation With A Parrot

I used to be a conspiracy theorist. Believed that 9/11 was committed by the US government and that we never landed on the moon.

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A Big, Mysterious Universe

I used to be a strict, hardline atheist. I was the kind of bastard that would bring the subject up for no reason, just to argue. I don't know what the hell my problem was. Now I feel like, the universe is big, I don't know what all might be out there, I don't really care. I live as if there is no afterlife, because that makes sense to me. But if you don't, and you believe in one, that's perfectly fine, and maybe you're right. Who knows?


Portrait Of An Artist As A Young Man

I used to believe anyone can be a successful artist if they just put the time and effort into it. There is no such thing as talent, only hard work.

What changed my mind: Art school. There were quite a few people that tried hard, but just weren't able to achieve professional level art.


You're Not Your Emotions

For the longest time, I thought my emotions were in a sense the most "real" part of me. I was always a very emotional person and I didn't make a real effort to control it as I thought it was a good thing, that I was just being honest with myself. Over time though, I started to become very depressed and the negative emotions just keep adding on and on. I thought "this is just how I am I guess". Unfortunately it started hurting other relationships I had, and everything changed when my girlfriend broke up with me. After a lot of reading I found that emotions are not who we are at all. They're just reactions and there's nothing that requires us to act on them or feed them. I'm learning to let it go through me instead of hanging on like I used to.


Don't Forget Big Willie Style

I used to think that hip hop was bland, repetitive, and all about clubbing and sh*t. Then one of my friends pointed me towards people like Kendrick Lamar, Eminem, Nas and Run The Jewels, who all have great songs and clever lyrics, and I realized that Hip Hop is pretty great.


The A**holes Will Always Find A Way

I used to think that the catholic church was responsible for all of the hateful people in it. I gave people the chance to challenge my opinion and someone explained it very nicely to me. Basically, the hateful people use the church as an excuse, if you remove the church they will gladly find another excuse.


High Times


I used to tell myself that I would never stop smoking weed, and that I'd be happy if my kids grew up to be pot smokers... Now I have a kid, don't smoke, and realize what an idiot I was when all I did was smoke all day. I could probably be in a much better position if I hadn't smoked all through college.

But I mean, I still think pot's okay... Just in moderation.


The Road Less Traveled

"All taxation is theft, man! I made my money without any help from public institutions or the infrastructure they support, I should be able to keep every last dime of it!"

Naturally that was when I was 18, living at home rent free, and working at Pizza Hut as a delivery driver who relied upon public roads for pretty much every cent I made.


All Those PSA's Didn't Do Much

The whole D.A.R.E anti-drugs. Yes crack and heroin is bad, but they over dramatized what happens when you do smaller drugs. Weed isn't even a gateway drug, alcohol is more of a gateway drug. When I saw weed for the first time I thought it was tobacco (This was after all the D.A.R.E training too). Letting the government teach you your morales and philosophy is a thing that sheep do. Don't be a sheep.


Where Would We Be Without The Kindness Of Strangers

I used to think people on welfare and state assistance just weren't trying hard enough. I grew up spoiled and entitled and it seemed like any kind of charity was a stigma.

Then, my husband became chronically ill, and the economy took a shit. My family has been close to homelessness more than once, and have relied on state insurance and assistance off and on throughout the past few years. There are definitely people out there who abuse the system, but some just get stuck in a horrible cycle of poverty.

I also work in a school that has a high number low income and refugee families. It has really opened my eyes to the struggles that some people face.


He's Still There For You, The Best He Can Be

I could go through life and could seek meaningful advice from my Dad who has always been there for me.

Now he has been reduced to a feeble condition, I am starting to understand I'm out there on my own, and even what he's sure of is suspect given his mental and physical facilities have been rapidly deteriorating in his late seventies. I feel horrible that I have noticed this long before he did - or at least admitted as much.


Clear Your Mind

This was before I received an ADHD diagnosis. When my doctor referred me to an ADHD specialist, first of all I refused to believe him and was kind of slighted that he even suggested that I could possibly have ADHD.

I had a very strong opinion that if I get a diagnosis that I would refuse to take prescribed amphetamines because they are "bad" and "addictive" and that they would ruin my life.

Then I actually tried the prescription and it was like magic.


Going Through The Whole Spectrum

Used to be fairly open with my views on immigration policy. Then I worked for a while down near Corpus Christie doing immigration work. I'd say one out if every hundred people that came through our office was going to somebody who actually wanted to work and try to make a living here. So many people simply wanted to exist enough to get welfare. Many were young men who we would later defend against exportation as a result of their criminal activity. I began to despise the work of defending these men and wished they would be deported.

Now, I'm dating a foreign girl and we are in the legal immigration process. She has advanced degrees and skills, so that makes things a little easier. But it does make me resent people who just bypass the system. We can't bypass the system because I imagine my participation in immigration fraud could get me disbarred.


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