It's a first date and the person you're meeting shows up. They're dressed to the 9's and great eye candy. And then they open their mouth, and it all goes south. Even the most physically attractive people can have really ugly qualities, like treating wait staff poorly or having bad hygiene.
Jynn05 asked: What is an immediate turn off for you?
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Someone who is only interested in talking about themselves. This goes for all types of relationships. The worst habit these people have is when you're finally getting to speak about an experience you've had and their response to your input is a story about how they've done or experienced something similar.
I hate to admit it, but I do this. How do I not do this? What do I say instead? I only know what I've experienced, so if someone tells me about their vacation or something, the only thing I can think of to keep the conversation going is relating to my vacation (unless there's something more I want to know like where they went or who they went with, then I obviously ask them about that).
As someone who also does this, I've found that instead of trying to directly relate with my story, it helps to ask questions about their story or just say what you think about it "oh that's super cool" or "oh man that is a bummer" "no kidding? What was that like?"
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People who talk so much and don't let you get a word in sideways. Those people are always oblivious to the fact that they cut you off every tome you try to speak as well.
Twice in my life I've had the courage to straight up walk away from a conversation with a person like this. Leave them alone, mid sentence, after they interrupted me for the hundredth time.
Yeah this. If your breath smells like you've never seen a toothbrush before and you have to count in days when talking about the last time you showered, then there's no chance I'm into you, no matter how good you look from afar.
Both of these are a no from me.
Lights that are left on when there's nobody in the room. I always turn them off immediately.
Same with leaving cupboards open. My SO constantly will go to the kitchen in the middle of the night and the next morning I will find every light leading to it turned on and one or two cupboards in the kitchen open.
And if I bring it up she gets wildly offended and thinks I am treating her like a child.
Rushing during sex. If it feels like you dont want to do it, it ruins the whole experience.
Oh yeah? Well MY story is better.
One uppers. If you have a story on any topic, they have a bigger and better one.
Pfft, that's nothing. I actually know somebody that always has TWO stories that are bigger and better on any topic.
Came in to say this. I had a friend like this, and in the end I found myself competing against them when we were talking(because I was so annoyed by their one ups) and no one was listening to the other anymore. There was absolute 0 mutuality in that friendship.
No one likes a quitter.
Of course, watching someone fail is such a turn off. successful murder on the other hand...
Exactly. If they can't follow through, they are out.
I agree, it shows a lack of commitment.
Smoking what? ;-)
Smoking. I don't like the smell and it doesn't help that my father smoked inside all the time.
Smoking is disgusting. Like I don't want you to huck up a bucket of tar when I'm with you. Plus I have asthma and I would probably inhale their smoke and it'll suck @ss.
I worked as a home health aide. Just seeing these people who are living penny to penny but still spend money on cigarettes they can't afford and one woman would smoke the butts of unfinished cigarettes just left me wanting to gag and make it one huge turn off.
Rudeness/lack of compassion. If I'm on a date and the person I'm with is a perfect saint towards me but disrespects the waitstaff or anyone working a service gig, we aren't having a second date.
As a waitstaff myself, I can't help but feel proud for being the mvp exposing people's true character in front of their date. And yeah, with unjustified rudeness being the bane of my job, I definitely have 0 tolerance for it outside work too. Wouldn't want a friend like that.
When 99.9% of their conversation topics are pop culture gossip. Sure, it's fun to talk about celebrities and the weird things they do... But there's gotta be other things you can talk about.
Same. I care more about Cardassians than the Kardashians.
Minimum wage is often paid by some of the most physically and emotionally intensive work—service industry jobs. Having to work in a hot kitchen all day or deal with irate customers while being paid less than you need to survive is not exactly the best situation to be in.