People Share Stories Of The Time They Got Up The Courage To Propose – Only To Be Rejected.

The day you propose to your partner it can either be one of the happiest or most devastating day of your life, depending on the answer.

Here, shocked people share stories of the time their marriage proposal got turned down. But, rejection doesn't always turn out expected.



1/28. 8 years ago. It's been 8 years. We had known each other for 5 years, dated for three and a half. Every single day I saw her was the best day of my life. We met while working at a pizza chain and had gotten close at work. I eventually worked up the courage to ask her out (even though it was awfully frowned upon as she was a driver and I was a manager). She said yes and we went to a party together and literally didn't talk to a single other soul that night. I was hooked.

We dated for a year and then moved in together. I can still see her face perfectly, even that long ago. Her family was wonderful, her father an esteemed professor at a nearby college and her mother was a cancer survivor with a heart of gold. Everything just seemed to fit. And I knew that I wanted to be with her forever. After dating for 3 years, I finally popped the question. I had set up a normal night in, ordered a pizza and had a nice little night in. We had a cat, Triumph, a nice little apartment, the whole shebang. I had tied a little pillow with the ring onto the cat and sat her in the other room while my lady was in the bathroom. When she got back, I called for the cat and she came in, pillow and all on her back. I proposed and she burst into tears, saying she was sorry and ran out of the apartment. I tried desperately to reach her, through family, friends, any way imaginable. I finally heard back from her sister after 3 days. Her entire family knew and I was apparently, I was the only person out of the loop. She was diagnosed with a very aggressive terminal brain cancer, just 3 days prior to me proposing.

I was gutted. For so many reasons, but I could understand why she didn't tell me. After I had proposed, she told her sister that she had decided not to put me through that but I didn't care. I would have stayed with her to the end of the earth. I tried night and day to contact her to no avail. She died just 5 weeks after I had proposed. I have never felt more lost and alone than I did at her funeral. Her family were very comforting but I began to hate myself. Thinking that it was something that I had done to scare her away, making her believe that I would leave her if she told me when it couldn't have been further from the truth.

I went into a deep depression for a very long time afterwards. I drank and did drugs, day and night. Went from job to job, not showing up for days on end. I dropped out of school, lost a lot of my friends. Considered ending my life a few times.

I know now that she kept it from me to try and save me the grief of losing her. But there's nothing in the world I wouldn't give to go back in time. Just to hear her say "Yes".

TouchyJoFeely

2/28. She said no and then confessed that she had been sleeping with my brother it ruined the trip a bit to be honest.

HeavyRemorses

3/28. I was with a girl for just over 5 years. When we met, she was in a bad place. The guy she was with before me was really awful to her. So it was tough in the beginning because she had major trust issues, self esteem issues, depression and she self harmed. But I went and fell in love with her. Helped her get over a lot of the mental anguish she was going through. Took her to (and paid for) her therapist every other week. We lived together for 4 of those years.

On our 5th anniversary, I proposed. I was madly in love with her, and I assumed she was with me. She said yes!

Then, a few months after that, I got off work a bit early, picked up her favorite fish and chips for dinner and headed home.

Long story short, I walked in on her having sex with some other dude in our bed. They didn't even hear me come in to the apartment.

I'll skip the details, but within 2 days of that happening, she was gone. All her stuff out of the apartment. Half of MY stuff gone from the apartment, including my cash stash that was several thousand. She took my TV. A bunch of my kitchen stuff. She kept the ring. She took my DOG man. Took the damn dog.

And I haven't seen or spoken to her since. That was just about 3 years ago now.

luminiferousethan_

4/28. I asked, she said no because I drank way too much. I said I would get it under control. I tried bluffing instead. She saw through it and kicked me out. She was right.

I don't have a clue where she is or whatever happened to her.

I quit drinking now but that was definitely my life's most cruel lesson.

picksandchooses

5/28. My dad proposed to my mom the night he net her. The way they explain it, they "bared their souls to each other" that night. They talked for hours uninterrupted. And even though my dad wasn't looking to get married, he just knew. She said no, but did say yes to another night out.

He proposed again. She said no, but again, accepted another date. This went on nearly daily for 6 months (story continued on the next page...).

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One night, my parents played Scrabble against each other for the first time. My mom loves Scrabble. She kicks people's ass up and down the block, and this is a woman who takes pride in being well read enough to serve as a quick reference thesaurus. After a hard fought game, she lost for the first time she could remember. And my 105 pound 5 foot nothing mother swept the board and pieces of the table sending them flying across the room. She looked at my dad and said in a fury, "Fine, I'll marry you!" My dad responded, in classic male fashion, "Uhhh. I need to think about it."

He thought about it, and barely 8 months after they met, my parents married in a tiny chapel in Vegas. They celebrated 23 years this year.

that-IB-guy

6/28. I proposed after 3ish years of dating and one year of living together and she said no. I was offering her my great-grandparents wedding ring. That was Friday night. By Sunday night, after a trip to her parents, she came back and told me that she was gay. That was 22 years ago.

Since then I have been married for 16 years to the next woman I dated. My wife has the wedding ring that I offered to my ex. The gay girlfriend has been with her partner for nearly 22 years. I have a daughter and they have a girl and a boy. I love them and they are just the best people ever. This is a bullet we both dodged.

prohaska

7/28. Proposed to Girlfriend after she got off work on a Monday with her favorite meal prepared, and the apartment all lit with candles, rose petals on the floor after having had a special weekend together (she is shy and promised violence if proposed to in public).

She said No no no! No! NO! when I asked her to marry me as she came in the door to our apartment.

She worked in the medical field and had puke all over her.....

She showered and said yes.

Morgsz

8/28. She said no, because she didn't think we were ready yet. She was a Senior in College, I had graduated but hadn't found a good job in my field.

After graduation, and her getting a professional job (And me getting a not quite so crappy job).

We got married exactly 1 year later, on the Anniversary of the day she said no the first time.

19 years and 4 kids later, It's going pretty well.

RoboNinjaPirate

9/28. She said no, I got a dog and a case of beer and lived happily ever after.

Doublej03

10/28. I'm the denier.

I'd been dating this girl for 6 months, and it was going pretty well. We hardly ever fought, but when we did it was hard for us to get back to normal.

At a good point, she said "I feel like I should pop the question". I have absolutely no poker face, and she instantly saw that I wasn't on board. As a child of the 80's, ALL of my friends had parents who'd divorced, and I'd made an oath to myself that I was just going to be married once. I liked this girl a lot, but I wasn't convinced yet that what we had was going to last forever.

So, we stayed together, went to couples counselling, and learned how to fight. It sounds strange, but I can't tell you how effective it was. We learned that my conflict pattern is to constantly work on a problem until it's solved, where her pattern is to blow off steam over time. The result was that I would keep conversations going when we fought, and would basically chase her around keeping her mad and blocking her attempts at breaking off to cool down. I learned to just let her be mad, and check back in later, and she learned to say "I just need to be by myself for a bit". It worked.

Our 'good relationship with rough fights' turned into 'great relationship with mature, low drama fights'. Conflicts that used to hang a dark cloud over the house for days were now resolved in hours (story continued on the next page...)

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At that point I felt comfortable enough to say yes to a year long engagement.

....and we've now been married 18 years, have supported each other through thick and thin, and are raising two awesome kids.

The ONLY regret I have is that we ended up without a proposal story, as it was effectively negotiated over time. I did get on my knee and present a ring at a fancy dinner, but even then it was a ring we'd picked out together, as she was a jewelry smith.

Benderbluss

11/28. I was at the beach with my best girl, I had planned everything out. There is a beautiful bench overlooking the ocean. We went and sat on the bench and just as I was about to propose a couple walked by talking loudly. No problem, I'll just wait until there are no people around. I was apparently mumbling to myself. It took 30 minutes. Finally when there was a break, I pretended like I had to tie my shoe and then proposed. I was so nervous I just blurted out "marriage party." She laughed and looked confused with a tint of pity. After collecting herself she said no and asked to go back to the car. I felt dejected. I wanted to walk into the ocean and keep going until I died or found a mermaid bride.

When we were at the car she said "Let's try again" I assumed she meant our relationship, like to work on it. She asked me to propose again. I asked her to marry me and then said marriage party again because my brain is broken. She said yes.

Our wedding anniversary is in 2 weeks.

partydelux

12/28. After a Christmas vacation we were home and I asked her about marriage. "I don't want to marry you. I never wanted to marry you. I never will marry you." This was followed by a thirty minute speech about missing her single life.

I died a little inside, honestly. Tried to make it work but I realize now I stopped trying after that. Eight months later she moves out. Three months after that she is begging me to take her back, she wants to get married, she wants to own a house. And I'm just too hurt to believe her.

Therapy is helping. But a five year relationship died that day. And I miss it, but I'm not sure I miss her anymore.

Her addiction and alcoholism played a major role in her choice and feelings. She had, apparently, been using for a few months and kept it hidden. If you need help quitting heroin, go find it. It messes up more than just your life. The people you hurt the worst are the ones you love the most. And that love for you may never end, but how much they care for you just may.

MaintenanceGuy-

13/28. I proposed after 7 months of dating and she said "no" as it was too soon. I agreed and put the ring in a safety deposit box and told her that if she changed her mind, it's there for her. After 2 weeks, she said "yes" and we decided to have a long engagement period (2 years) so that we could be sure. We've been married for 37 years.

blanchae

14/28. Mine was more of a "crap or get off the pot" deal. We had been together on and off for five years.

She kept coming back and telling me she couldn't live without me, then get sick of me and drop me for a few months at a time.

(And make no mistake, I was a no-esteem whiner back then).

She knew I am the marrying type, but she could not commit. Finally, after I had moved into my own apartment away from roommates, she asked to move in. I basically countered with a marriage proposal, knowing in the back of my head she would likely say no.

That's what happened, and we never got back together. 18 months later, I met the woman of my dreams and now we have been happily married for over 15 years.

Toothygrin1231

15/28. Not denied during a proposal but 99% sure she realized I was going to propose and bailed before I had the chance.

Eight years and change together, everything seemed totally fine, we talked about a future together plenty of times, engagement rings, jobs, housing, kids, etc. The job and housing parts were going forward and she had shown me rings and talked weddings plenty so it felt like it was time to finally do that. Bought a ring, tried planning some neat trips to take her on for an awesome proposal, they kept not happening, finally decided I was just going to do it around New Years, but right before that she bailed. Timing was just so perfect for her not to have figured it out.

Never really got an explanation, just the general, "I love you but I'm not in love with you."

One of those kinda generic statements that you hate to get, especially after so long, but at the same time I'm sure there was plenty of legitimacy to it. We met when we were young and we grew into different people. People change a lot between the mid teens and mid twenties.

We tried to maintain a friendship for a while after that but it was super hard for me because I was still totally into her. I had to basically drop off the map entirely for a year or so because we shared the same social circle and I just got so incredibly uncomfortable around her. No hard feelings I guess at the end of the day, it sucked, but it wasn't like something awful happened between us. Eventually we just stopped talking. She drifted to a new social group, I got back in mine, life goes on. Definitely not where I expected to be at this point in my life though.

madshw

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16/28. When I popped the question, she declared it an "AMAZING" proposal and then began immediately planning a huge wedding for us. I was a bit terrified as she began reeling off all the names of potential bridesmaids.

"I guess I'll have to narrow it down to six. Who you picking so it's balanced?"

I bluffed then began going to meetup.com groups and posting 'Strictly Platonic' ads on Craigslist so I could make guy friends to fill out the wedding party. I found a guy on Craigslist but unfortunately he introduced me to the joys of drinking. I always thought beer tasted like piss but I discovered I have a cast iron stomach that can handle the hard liquor straight up. Being perpetually drunk made the socializing easier.

Saddest part came when my new BFF and I were sitting on the sofa on a Sunday morning watching the Seahawks play at the Packers. We did shots every time Madden called Favre a 'gunslinger'.

When my fiancee got home from a round of burpees at the gym, she dropped her engagement ring in my glass and said "You need this rock more than I do."

laterdude

17/28. I proposed after dating my girlfriend for two years. I was about to graduate college and move away, and she was a year behind me.

I had the ring, everything perfectly planned, we discussed our future together. When I proposed, she initially said yes. About half an hour later, she seemed off. I asked her if anything was wrong, and she said she needed to think. We talked for awhile, and then she said changed her answer. She said we were too young, she wanted to be on her own for awhile, to be independent, etc...

Jokes on her though, because now we're married.

We stayed together afterward and another year later I proposed again, that time with a longer lasting success.

LadyandtheWorst

18/28. My dad proposed to my mom after they'd been seeing each other for just under two weeks. She laughed and basically told him he was crazy, that it was way too soon. My dad said, (and he is very proud of this fact,) "Fine. I asked you once. I'm not gonna ask again." My mom thought he was bluffing. After a year of dating she started giving him a hard time about not asking her to get married again, and he stuck to his guns and said she missed her chance and he wasn't going to ask again. My mom finally broke down and asked him to marry her. Made sure she properly took the piss out of him when she did it, too. Made a big show about asking his father for permission, got down on one knee in public, got him the gaudiest engagement ring she could find. He said yes and they just celebrated their 30th anniversary.

Wissix

19/28. I'm the denier.

I'd been dating this girl for 6 months, and it was going pretty well. We hardly ever fought, but when we did it was hard for us to get back to normal.

At a good point, she said "I feel like I should pop the question". I have absolutely no poker face, and she instantly saw that I wasn't on board. As a child of the 80's, ALL of my friends had parents who'd divorced, and I'd made an oath to myself that I was just going to be married once. I liked this girl a lot, but I wasn't convinced yet that what we had was going to last forever.

So, we stayed together, went to couples counselling, and learned how to fight. It sounds strange, but I can't tell you how effective it was. We learned that my conflict pattern is to constantly work on a problem until it's solved, where her pattern is to blow off steam over time. The result was that I would keep conversations going when we fought, and would basically chase her around keeping her mad and blocking her attempts at breaking off to cool down. I learned to just let her be mad, and check back in later, and she learned to say "I just need to be by myself for a bit". It worked.

Our 'good relationship with rough fights' turned into 'great relationship with mature, low drama fights'. Conflicts that used to hang a dark cloud over the house for days were now resolved in hours. At that point I felt comfortable enough to say yes to a year long engagement.

....and we've now been married 18 years, have supported each other through thick and thin, and are raising two awesome kids.

Benderbluss

20/28. We had been dating for 6 1/2 years at this time. We went on a vacation to Hawaii for her 21st birthday because we wanted to make it something to remember. I planned to propose to her on the beach somewhere. I ended up choosing Waimea Bay Beach on the north shore of Oahu. She was coming back from the waves and I popped the question. She was ecstatic and said YES!!! We had a very romantic couple of days after that before we flew home.

Fast forward to 5 months later. We are out bar hopping with her sister and her husband who had just got out of the military. The husband and sister are moving to a base in Germany and they are staying for a couple weeks in our town. She and her sister were together talking for most of the night and the husband insisted we hang out and play pool together. That's fine, he's a cool guy and she hasn't seen her sister in months. We get home from the bars around 12:30AM and all hell breaks loose. She starts SCREAMING at me about how I'm a piece of crap and that I don't do enough chores around the house and that she had to repair a piece on my car (that we both use) and that I should have done that and otherwise petty problems. It escalated to her shoving me as hard as she could into the bathroom where I fell into the tub and hit my head. Eventually she went upstairs and I cried in disbelief for most of the night. Finally fell asleep at around 5:30 AM.

She wakes me up at 8 or so cause she wants to talk about it and I tell her to wait cause she made me cry and freak out all night. I wake up at 10 AM and she says to me that she doesn't want to spend the rest of her life with me anymore and that she wants to know what it's like to be single. She thinks my hobbies (Snowboarding and Climbing) are too dangerous. Bunch of other reasons that aren't real reasons. She had all of her stuff moved out with the help of her sister and husband by the end of that day.

When I returned home after work she had left the ring, a framed picture of us I gave her as a gift, and the bottle of wine that was bottled on the same day we got together that we were saving for our wedding night. That was exactly 1 month ago. I've tried to contact her since and have gotten no response or explanation for her crazy behavior. Don't even know where she is staying. Her sister and husband are in Germany now.

She took one of our dogs as well...

mrramblinrose

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21/28. My good friend was dating this guy for nearly two years.

I could tell things were getting a bit stale with them, one day when we went out to get lunch she told me that she was going to break it off with the guy.

She seemed far more stressed about hurting the guy, he was an alright person in my book, but she was telling me how she is going to do it and was asking for advice.

Right in the middle of me giving her some input, the guy comes in and looks a bit frantic, she must've told him that she was going there to meet me.

He musters up the courage and walks right to our table, completely ignoring me, gets on one knee and pulls out the ring. The dude was shaking so much, and I was in awe of the worst timing ever, that my mouth was open in shock. People around that I was excited so everyone gathers around the table starts cheering, the guy asks my friend and my friend just got up and walked out to her car and drove off.

I almost died from second-hand embarrassment. All I remember if gasps and snickering from the people near me and he just sat in her place looking crushed. I didn't know what to say. I feel kinda bad so I just got the check ASAP and gave him a pat on the back.

He is doing better, the last I heard, this has been about a year now.

My friend is still recovering from the whole ordeal...

Foxy-Jessica

22/28. Boyfriend and I have been together for like 5ish years or so, so I was trying to kinda hint that I want to be engaged. We had talked about married before, and we were both on board. We had both lived together since we very first started dating.

So I told him I need to talk to him about something. I made a nice dinner and asked him, "Will you marry me?" and he said, "Oh of course I want to marry you, you know that." I was unsure on his answer, so I asked, "Ok, so we are gonna get married? Like we are engaged?" and he said, "I mean, some day, yes."

I lost sleep over it. I was so embarrassed, and he wasn't phased. Come to find out he had no idea it was a proposal. So we sat down and talked about becoming engaged and then boom! Engaged. Picked a date that night, and started announcing to family a couple days after.

ancientpsychicpug

23/28. I was proposed to and said no.

After 4 weeks of dating he got down on his knee with a HUGE diamond ring and said a huge speech along the lines of, "When you know you know. Will you marry me?"

Since I barely knew the guy I flat out said no followed by, "Sorry...are you okay?"

He didn't speak to me for the rest of the night and then when he dropped me home I told my roommate about it. As I was telling her about it I get a text from him - YES A TEXT - saying "you've broken my heart. I never want to see you again. Goodbye. I love you."

We were both 22 at the time.

MiloMolly

24/28. I asked her twice, over the course of 5 years. She said no twice, so I told her I wouldn't ask again.

5 years later she proposed to me in a hotel called 42 ( I'm a huge hitchhiker's guide fan) using an iPod (I'm a huge gadget fan).

I said yes.

Married for 12 years now.

joe_archer

25/28. I turned down a proposal using the excuse that he was drunk. He was but I knew he was serious. I drove him home and tried the old 'I want to be friends' speech but he shut me down. He said if I didn't love him he would just have to get over me. And he got out of the car and walked away.

A day later I realized what an idiot I was being and I called him.

Tomorrow is our 26th anniversary.

Skinny_Fatgirl12

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26/28. My mom refused my dad multiple times. Apparently my dorky engineer, chubby father somehow convinced my cute nurse mom to date him, and two months in, he wanted to lock it down. Shoot for the sky kinda thing.

Months later, she finally said yes and they've been happily married ever sense!

Superschutte

27/28. My mom had been going out with my dad for a few weeks. One day she said to him, "We're getting married."

He said, "I'll have to think about it."

She said, "It wasn't a question."

Last week they celebrated their 48th anniversary.

arquebus_x

28/28. I'm proposing today. Now I am very scared.

roberthunicorn

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