People Share The One Thing Their Significant Other Hid From Them Until Late Into The Relationship.

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This article is based on the AskReddit question "What is one thing your SO hid from you until later in the relationship?"


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1. 1. When I was in college, I had no money and shaggy hair. So I wandered around the dorms looking for someone who knew how to cut hair. A cute girl overheard me and said, "Hey, I know how to cut hair!" She gave me a haircut in the hallway and then asked if I wanted to go grab dinner with her.

We've been married for 13 years now but about two years into our marriage she confessed that she had no idea how to cut hair but really wanted an excuse to hang out with me. She did it in the hallway and asked me to dinner because she didn't want me to look in a mirror and see the results.

She's actually pretty good at it now, though!

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2. She hadn't done her taxes in three years because it made her anxious. Turns out she was owed 7K from the government.

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3. One of my exes waited months to tell me that her godparents (that she lived with) were actually her ex-boyfriends parents.

I didn't mind it until he moved back in.

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4. My now-husband acted like he knew how to grill steaks and just casually grabbed steaks and asked me how I liked mine and then made perfect steaks. Then continued making perfect steaks for months, then years.

And I just learned a month or so ago that the first time he made steaks for me was the first time he'd made steaks in his life, he'd just studied up INTENSELY because he felt that I would be impressed by him making me a good steak. I thought he had been making steaks for years to throw down a perfect steak like it was no big thing, but it turned out he did a ton of research and was sweating bullets trying to get it right. He's the best.

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5. My girlfriend swoops her hair over her left eye. I thought it was just an emo hairstyle until I found out she was blind in one eye.

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6. I never knew the story of how his first wife passed away until we were engaged. I only knew that she had CF, and that she died too soon; I didn't know that he came home from work, found her passed out and blue, and rushed her to the hospital himself, where she later died. He told me about it one evening when we were sitting in front of the Christmas tree. The whole story came pouring out of him, and I just hugged him and listened. His mother died six months after his first wife passed away, and to hear him tell it, it nearly broke him. I think it healed his heart a little to talk about it, and I know that it made me love him even more somehow. I'm just grateful that he was willing to open his heart up to love again. He is an awesome man and the best thing that has ever happened to me.

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7. That he hates sheets. About 4 years into the relationship he proclaimed that sheets wrap around him when he sleeps and he refuses to use them anymore. Apparently he's always hated sheets but just never mentioned it.

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8. His eldest daughter. I learned about her 5 months into our relationship.

I had known about his younger daughter (different mothers) from the start - he was very open about that. However he didn't know how to tell me about his eldest because it was going to be a difficult conversation. The mother of his eldest had taken off with her years ago & he had no idea how to find her.

Within a year of our dating we found her. It was very rough at first because she had been brought up being told that her father didn't care about her - typical parental alienation. Within the next 5 years her father and I got married and she opted to live with us. Now she is an adult, living her life on her terms and we are incredibly proud of her.

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9. He can sing, beautifully!

We had been together for 2 years before I heard him actually sing. He would belt out random lyrics in the car with me in a fun, playful, not serious way all the time. The first time I heard him actually feel it, I was blown away. He has such a deep, soulful voice.

VanessaSoIll

10. He liked to punch walls, and himself, when angry.

Until we were married, our disagreements were always discussions. Sometimes heated, sometimes angry, but never violent and always worked out to a solution in the end. It was great! It was the way adults should argue!

The first fight after the wedding, he put his fist through the wall of our (rented) apartment. He also slammed his head into the bathroom door. Why the change? "I've been holding back my anger, but now that we're married, I know you can deal with the real me." Up until then, he'd been WAY more angry and violent than I'd known about, but had hidden it during fights so I wouldn't leave.

Yeah, we're not married anymore. For many reasons, but one of them being that I never, EVER felt safe to disagree with him after that.

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11. My friend is dating a farmer (no they didn't meet on farmersonly.com) they did meet online though. Any who, they've been dating for 5 months at this time and he refuses to take her to his town and meet his family because he's had a lot of girls date him for what he owns. She waited a year and had no problems and he finally brought her to his town and house and his family is a multimillionaire family. They own like 15 farms across the US. They're house is a mansion. She was super scared to be in the relationship after that. They're still dating but she try to buy her own things and not depend on him and his money.

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12. I found out that my significant other hides candy from me in her car. In fairness, she does this because she likes the occasional sweet, whereas I attack a bag of gummy bears like a starved hyena.

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13. That she (now he) was transgender, I was completely supportive and encouraged him to go for taking Testosterone. It just so happens that though I thought I was straight, I adore him so much that he's still a perfect match for me!

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14. My wife did not intend to have a career and always wanted to be a stay-at-home mom. I learned this about two years after the wedding. We live in a high-cost part of the US where dual incomes are the norm. She worked when we met but kept getting fired, I had assumed due to bad luck. Now I can see that there were also other factors at play. People, communicate! I've since given up my low-paying creative career for something more lucrative to try to make her SAHM aspirations a reality (we have kids now). But she is still working and is unhappy doing so. Had I known earlier, I might have (1) taken a more direct career path to focus earlier on higher earnings or (2) broken it off. Perhaps it is the latter risk that kept the subject from being raised. Either way, raise it! take the risk! Be honest.

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15. He brought me to a house party just a couple of weeks after we started dating. He pointed out a young lady and said he'd been dating her before me.

What he didn't mention was that he failed to tell her that the relationship was over.

I'm also 99% sure he was seeing someone else before we decided to get divorced since he was spending all his time at the place his new girlfriend worked.

Furthermore, I'm 99% sure he met someone else before they broke up (several years later) based on how they met and when they started dating.

There's a pattern here. The pattern is that my ex is a crappy relationship partner who exits a relationship, finds someone else, and only then does his partner know he's finished.

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16. My wife knew the sex of our 2nd child, before birth, and didn't tell me she knew for 7 years. She ran the budget and we were single income and she needed to know if we were going to have to buy boys stuff or reuse girls stuff.

Also I found out, 7 years later, that she was really hoping I wasn't going to propose at the moment I did.

Been happily married to her for 13 years now and terrified to find out the next "7 years later" tidbit.

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17. My ex-husband revealed 2 years into our marriage that he didn't want kids, had never wanted kids, and had only told me he did because he knew I wouldn't have married him otherwise. Which is true. We had talked about kids before even being engaged so it's not like we hadn't discussed it on more than one occasion. I stuck around for another 2 years hoping to make it work, but ultimately decided the marriage wasn't worth saving. We had other issues in addition to that, but that was the big, big deal breaker for me.

Luckily, I'm dating someone now who is absolutely amazing. It's like night and day compared to my first marriage.

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18. The year is 2015 and I had been dating my wife, then girlfriend, for about 5 years. I was surprised to learn she had not seen Tropic Thunder so I instituted an Emergency Movie Night. At the end of the movie, Tom Cruise dances to "Get Back" by Ludacris. Imagine my surprise when my wife begins to sing along to the music. Believe me when I say that my wife does not look or act like the kind of person who listens to, let alone memorizes 00's rap. I felt like I was sitting next to a stranger.

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19. How much she hated my pillows! We'd been together for two years. TWO YEARS. This is the same woman who will instantly tell me if she likes or doesn't like something. Love that about her. And then two years in, the topic of pillows comes up and it turns out she's always hated my pillows. I felt betrayed.

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20. My ex told me he didn't have a Facebook. About a year into dating (long distance), he was a "suggested friend". It didn't bother me initially, because it's possible he didn't use it or think it was important.

Nope. He was very active with his friends/family (some I knew), and listed himself as single. When I told him about it, he didn't give me a reason why. Just told me to deal with it

He didn't have a reason to go behind my back or hide me from his friends/family. It bothered me that the ones who knew of me went along with it. It felt like he was hiding something but I never found out.

That was the beginning of our spiral downwards. Being long distance was hard enough, but he kept giving me reasons to not trust him. We broke up a year after that and boy, was it messy.

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21. I thought he didn't like spaghetti.

Just this year (we've been together 6+ years), he says to me that he actually likes spaghetti, just not when I make it.

He's such a punk.

So now, when he pisses me off, he gets spaghetti for dinner.

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22. His real age. Found out after two years and not from him, but his sister. When I asked him about it, all he had to say was "Why are you talking to my sister!

He was a sociopath and compulsive liar though. He lied about places he's lived and even about his "job". Quotes required because it turned out he never had a job while we were together. He would just leave and hang out at the library when he had told me he was at work. (Note that the job was supposedly part-time so it was harder to notice than a full-time job situation) He gaslighted me the entire relationship so any suspicions I'd develop I would completely dismiss as me just being crazy and paranoid.

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23. Met him abroad, and when we moved back to the UK I discovered that not only was his family ludicrously rich (going by the property I was told about, in the tens of millions) after he met my decidedly middle-class and unglamorous family, he was also independently a millionaire due to inheritance. It was actually really frightening, and I felt that he had been lying through omission. He turned out to be a massive turd of a human: he went to travel in Australia soon after I began a degree in the autumn (the plan being that he would fly me out there after final submissions), met a model two weeks in, cheated on me with her, and dumped me over Skype while drunk, then blocked me on all social media platforms immediately after the call ended. Never trust someone who's 'slumming it' with you.

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24. My girlfriend (now wife) and I had been living together for two years before I told her I watched Star Trek. I was worried she would think I was too nerdy.

It was the early 90s. I had a VCR at my parent's house and I would have dinner with them once a week, and then watch the latest episode of The Next Generation. It all came out one week when my girlfriend and I were both over for dinner. We were getting ready to leave, when my mom says "Aren't you going to watch Trek first?" It was all out in the open.

My girlfriend immediately felt bad for me, saying she would never have judged me for watching Trek. She even watched a few episodes with me I had on VHS at my parent's home. She liked it, and thought the stories and themes were good.

Trying to assuage my fears further, a few months later she surprised me with tickets for both of us to a Star Trek Convention that was coming to town. So we went. After about 30 minutes walking around the Con, seeing autograph booths, vendors, and cosplayers, she leaned into me and whispered lovingly in my ear,

"You were right not to tell me.

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