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People Share Their Wildest 'I'm Going To Need A New Doctor' Stories

Doctors are professionals who have spent 6+ years studying the human body and how to treat it's many ailments.

We like to think they always know what they're doing, but they're also human, and therefore subject to the same faults as the rest of us.


As someone who lives in a rural area, im used to not having a whole lot of choice about who to see for medical care. However, there is a threshold for the amount of crap I will tolerate.

When I was a teen, I had a PCP confirm my allergy to bees and hornets with a blood test (after insisting that it was all in my head, like everything else wrong with me 🙄). He then told me that I didn't need an Epi-Pen because I could just "run away from the bees." 🙃

He knew I had insurance, so it wasn't a matter of him thinking I couldn't afford the cost. He just genuinely thought that running away from bees and hornets was a valid idea. I noped right the hell out of the office then and there.

A reddit user asked:

"What did your doctor say/do that made you think 'Ok I'm going to need a new doctor...'?"

A lot of these are going to sound all-too-familiar to anyone who has had to deal with the ridiculousness that is the American Healthcare system, in particular.

Good Advice

I recently moved so this November I went to a brand new primary care physician for my yearly physical. Throughout the exam the doctor told me...

1) That women shouldn't be allowed to drink because we could "get pregnant at any time".
2) That birth control was poison and harming my "natural functions"
3) Said I was lying about my family history because it was too good (and not in a joking way)
4) That I was lying about how much I exercise because I am slightly overweight.
5) Told me that my gynecologist only giving me pap smears every 3 years (which is recommended) was endangering my health and that he didn't agree with that policy and I should find a new doctor.
So I took his advice and found a new primary care physician.




sluzella

This Happens Much Too Often

Put me on a cocktail of drugs without checking interactions, this caused severe suicidal ideation, unfiltered rage, and memory loss. when I told him my symptoms were getting worse he added a "mood stabilizer" which was apparently better off as a blood thinner so I was passing out from low blood pressure almost weekly. I switched doctors, after my ex left because I moved back with parents. My new doc got off the cocktail of drugs and I'm over all in a much healthier place. Though the last couple years are a bit of a fog.

Night-Fennec

I'm Just Here Because I Was Bored

Trying to get a new one right now. My doctor thinks that nothing really is a problem unless it's going to kill you.

Anxiety? Doesn't really believe you but fine have some pills

Body image issues that you ask him if there's any feasible help for? Doesn't seem like a real issue and to get over it
Post nasal drip? Live with it

JustHereForTheHumor

Changed my gyno for the exact same reason. He never took anything seriously.

Told him I was bleeding in the middle of my birth control card. He insisted I was misremembering it and I was actually bleeding after the last pill of the month

Had an awful urge to pee for two months that wouldn't go away no matter how empty my bladder was (and it wasn't a uti, was advised to consult my gyno) and he said "but it doesn't bother you, does it?"

One of the few times in my life I talked back to a doctor. "You see, it actually does. I wouldn't be here if it didn't"

heythere30

You'd Think She Would Have Learned After The First Three

After 4 years of trying to get pregnant she told me that I was essentially infertile on my own and that I could explore medical options to increase my chances of conceiving when I was 100% sure I wanted my own biological child.

4 months (and a one night stand) later... I was pregnant with my first and only son. Now, that wasn't the moment... it was after I had had my son. I went in for a check up a couple of months after he was born and she brought up the fact that we had the infertility discussion. She laughed and said that I was the 4th woman who had ended up pregnant AFTER being told BY HER that we were infertile.

I have never seen her since.

younggreezyy

It's The Second Coming! 

Not mine but a friend in high school, when she was fifteen, she had pain in her stomach. So she went to the doctor. The doctor insisted that she was pregnant. My friend was a virgin. The doctor didn't even have her take a pregnancy test.

Her mom took her to another doctor and it was appendicitis and needed surgery.

Sundaydinobot1

Gee, Thanks. I Hadn't Thought Of That.

Not a doctor, but a "doctor" at campus health services. I went in complaining that I had bad diarrhea that was, by my estimates, 90% blood. Their remedy?

"Try to stop pooping for a while."

pepperoni55

Is This A Thing Now, I Say It Doestn Exist So It Doesn't?

My kid's doctor told us Lyme Disease didn't exist, when we went she had a classic bullseye rash (that was Lyme)

Dropped her like a newborn giraffe.

sitdwnandhngon

Nope, Nope, Nope

"I can't take your insurance anymore."

"Why not? It's state insurance."

"I've been charged with fraud so I'm no longer allowed."

1000daysplusafewhours

Screw MLMs

Whenever I would go for an appointment I would have to wait at least an hour. Every time. One time my appointment was the last appointment of the day. I was the only one in the waiting room. I could hear my doctor's voice. He was talking on the telephone. Maybe he had an emergency with another patient? I listened. He was selling Amway. I'm sitting in the waiting room for two hours because he's selling Amway. The nurse takes me back an he tries to pull me into Amway.

ThatGuy___YouKnow

There Is Absolutely No Relation

My first sign was his office looked like something out of the 1950s.

I came in for testiculiar pain and he was so *obsessed* with my history of deafness, my god. Pretty sure the ears have nothing to do with the balls but he ignored my issue and hounded me about my f*cking ears. Walked out of his office. Didn't pay the stupid copay either.

65116548798532132487

Uh...RUN Away From That One

Not me but a friend, her daughter was diagnosed with autism several years ago and the doctor suggested it was because of vaccines. Yeah, she got out of dodge real quick.

Not to mention he administered those vaccines, so...?

Wikeni

Depression =/= Suicidality

"If you don't want to kill your self then you don't have depression". Real words my doctor told me when I finally built up the courage to tell someone that I think I'm depressed.

lauradiana158

Oddly Specific Complaint

He spent 30 minutes of my consult talking about how his back hurts and how tired he is. Then he told me about how airline travel is getting so strict and how you used to easily be able to smuggle snakes.

Thirtytwotwenty

... and then asked if you'd be interested in some black market snakes?!

StarryLindsay

Mistaken Identity?

Your children must be ashamed of you.

I have no children.
Decided to find another doctor to help me with my depression.

HonestInjury

Devil's In The Details

Gave me the wrong medication.

We had a long discussion about using 1 med. Doc sent the script to the pharmacy for a different med (same type but not the same one). I didn't realize until later because it was the generic so I assumed that was the generic name for the one we talked about, but it wasn't.

I now work in a pharmacy and pay much more attention to things like this. Plus I was 21 and it was the first time I went on a new med without any parental involvement.

FunGovernment

It's Not Rocket Science

Went to an OBGYN who didn't know how lesbians had sex. I decided to go to someone else (I'm a lesbian).

QueenMoogle

My least favorite part of switching doctors is when you get to the birth control questions and they can't f*cking understand how lesbians work. It's insane.

Airplant

No Such Thing As "Too Young"

I was having chronic stomach pain and gastro issues (vomiting/diarrhea) that incapacitated me for months. I could not move without crying. In the past I had open heart surgery and I know what pain feels like.

I finally got in to a Gastroenterologist 3 months in (had seen emergency clinics 3 times before they reffered me and the wait for the Gastroenterologist was 1.5 months) I was in the room for about 5 minutes. She palpated my stomach and I winced in pain and started crying from how badly it hurt. Directly after palpating my stomach she said "sometimes the pain we feel doesn't exist and you think it to be true" and then told me "youre too young for crohns disease, gallbladder issues or cancer."

She left after that perscribing me antacids which I had told her I had already tried and it didn't help and only made the synptoms worse. Walked out of the room and had a 50$ co payment for the doctor to do that. There's only one Gastroenterologist offic that my insurance covered at the time so I had to go back there a couple times. The pain eventually went away 6 months in. I occasionally get the pain and can't get out of bed for a while and it subsides.

TLDR; After months of pain went to specialist and got told "sometimes the pain you feel doesn't exist and you think it to be true".

Maykitsune

Don't Ignore The Milestones

She asked how I was, and I told her I was happy because I'd finally reached my weight loss milestone of being under 200 pounds.

No congratulations or anything in response. Just "okay." It kinda hurt, but whatever.

Then she looks at my chart and tells me my BMI is really high and I need to lose weight. Yeah, no sh*t.

Tells me to count calories (which, honestly, I have trouble doing unless I know exact measurements of what I'm eating because I'm awful at estimating), and we scheduled a follow up in three months. "By the time I see you again, you should be really skinny!"

"I'll have to get a new wardrobe," I said, half-joking.

"Yeah, you can use the money you save from not buying so much food!"

I was too much of a doormat at the time to actually switch doctors. Thankfully, she wasn't working there anymore at the time of my next appointment, so they gave me a different doctor.

IzarkKiaTarj

Eleven?!

Do dentists count? My dentist made up cavities on my baby teeth to get my parents to pay for cavities I didn't have. One appointment I had eleven.

RubberDuckyOfDestiny

He Can Get You A Deal

I went in for a physical.

He tried to sell me on lap band surgery--insistently. Not "you need to diet," not " you're killing yourself with your weight," but "I can get you a deal on lap band surgery."
And then he ordered blood tests I explicitly said were not covered by my insurance, and left the room.
Got a new doctor after that. I don't no d having the health risks of obesity explained to me. I don't deny them or buy into the "fat but fit" bullsh*t. I know. But he wasn't concerned about that--he was like a used car salesman.

km89

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What is the strongest opinion you once held but no longer hold, and what make you change your mind?

Jade-Colored Glasses

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nanaimo

Cant' Have A Conversation With A Parrot

I used to be a conspiracy theorist. Believed that 9/11 was committed by the US government and that we never landed on the moon.

Once I started looking outside of the echo chamber I was in and started looking at alternate explanations, theories and listening to different viewpoints I soon realized how ridiculous those notions were.

Not-A-Real-Subreddit

A Big, Mysterious Universe

I used to be a strict, hardline atheist. I was the kind of bastard that would bring the subject up for no reason, just to argue. I don't know what the hell my problem was. Now I feel like, the universe is big, I don't know what all might be out there, I don't really care. I live as if there is no afterlife, because that makes sense to me. But if you don't, and you believe in one, that's perfectly fine, and maybe you're right. Who knows?

CDC_

Portrait Of An Artist As A Young Man

I used to believe anyone can be a successful artist if they just put the time and effort into it. There is no such thing as talent, only hard work.

What changed my mind: Art school. There were quite a few people that tried hard, but just weren't able to achieve professional level art.

berfica

You're Not Your Emotions

For the longest time, I thought my emotions were in a sense the most "real" part of me. I was always a very emotional person and I didn't make a real effort to control it as I thought it was a good thing, that I was just being honest with myself. Over time though, I started to become very depressed and the negative emotions just keep adding on and on. I thought "this is just how I am I guess". Unfortunately it started hurting other relationships I had, and everything changed when my girlfriend broke up with me. After a lot of reading I found that emotions are not who we are at all. They're just reactions and there's nothing that requires us to act on them or feed them. I'm learning to let it go through me instead of hanging on like I used to.

inca829

Don't Forget Big Willie Style

I used to think that hip hop was bland, repetitive, and all about clubbing and sh*t. Then one of my friends pointed me towards people like Kendrick Lamar, Eminem, Nas and Run The Jewels, who all have great songs and clever lyrics, and I realized that Hip Hop is pretty great.

6quid

The A**holes Will Always Find A Way

I used to think that the catholic church was responsible for all of the hateful people in it. I gave people the chance to challenge my opinion and someone explained it very nicely to me. Basically, the hateful people use the church as an excuse, if you remove the church they will gladly find another excuse.

TianaLeFong

High Times

Giphy

I used to tell myself that I would never stop smoking weed, and that I'd be happy if my kids grew up to be pot smokers... Now I have a kid, don't smoke, and realize what an idiot I was when all I did was smoke all day. I could probably be in a much better position if I hadn't smoked all through college.

But I mean, I still think pot's okay... Just in moderation.

edgar__allan__bro

The Road Less Traveled

"All taxation is theft, man! I made my money without any help from public institutions or the infrastructure they support, I should be able to keep every last dime of it!"

Naturally that was when I was 18, living at home rent free, and working at Pizza Hut as a delivery driver who relied upon public roads for pretty much every cent I made.

ExtremelyLongButtock

All Those PSA's Didn't Do Much

The whole D.A.R.E anti-drugs. Yes crack and heroin is bad, but they over dramatized what happens when you do smaller drugs. Weed isn't even a gateway drug, alcohol is more of a gateway drug. When I saw weed for the first time I thought it was tobacco (This was after all the D.A.R.E training too). Letting the government teach you your morales and philosophy is a thing that sheep do. Don't be a sheep.

PlantTreesForToday

Where Would We Be Without The Kindness Of Strangers

I used to think people on welfare and state assistance just weren't trying hard enough. I grew up spoiled and entitled and it seemed like any kind of charity was a stigma.

Then, my husband became chronically ill, and the economy took a shit. My family has been close to homelessness more than once, and have relied on state insurance and assistance off and on throughout the past few years. There are definitely people out there who abuse the system, but some just get stuck in a horrible cycle of poverty.

I also work in a school that has a high number low income and refugee families. It has really opened my eyes to the struggles that some people face.

BuffyandtheHellcats

He's Still There For You, The Best He Can Be

I could go through life and could seek meaningful advice from my Dad who has always been there for me.

Now he has been reduced to a feeble condition, I am starting to understand I'm out there on my own, and even what he's sure of is suspect given his mental and physical facilities have been rapidly deteriorating in his late seventies. I feel horrible that I have noticed this long before he did - or at least admitted as much.

june606

Clear Your Mind

This was before I received an ADHD diagnosis. When my doctor referred me to an ADHD specialist, first of all I refused to believe him and was kind of slighted that he even suggested that I could possibly have ADHD.

I had a very strong opinion that if I get a diagnosis that I would refuse to take prescribed amphetamines because they are "bad" and "addictive" and that they would ruin my life.

Then I actually tried the prescription and it was like magic.

Xingua92

Going Through The Whole Spectrum

Used to be fairly open with my views on immigration policy. Then I worked for a while down near Corpus Christie doing immigration work. I'd say one out if every hundred people that came through our office was going to somebody who actually wanted to work and try to make a living here. So many people simply wanted to exist enough to get welfare. Many were young men who we would later defend against exportation as a result of their criminal activity. I began to despise the work of defending these men and wished they would be deported.

Now, I'm dating a foreign girl and we are in the legal immigration process. She has advanced degrees and skills, so that makes things a little easier. But it does make me resent people who just bypass the system. We can't bypass the system because I imagine my participation in immigration fraud could get me disbarred.

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