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People Share Which Life Lessons They Had To Learn The Hard Way

Some people just need to make their own mistakes. No matter how many times they are warned, they don't take the advice they're given. In these situations, the most you can do is say "I told you so".

jmtang52 asked: What life lesson did you have the learn the "hard way"?


Preach.

"You canNOT force someone to change. They have to recognize a need for change and make that change on their own."

thetransient1

Amazing how so many viewers don't realize this.

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"People like Dr. House, Dr. Cox, Sterling Archer, etc are only funny because they are TV characters.

If you act like that in real life, people will just think you're a complete butthole and you won't have any friends."

FloralBison

Of course.

"When talking to HR, get what they promised you in writing."

FifthRendition

More people should know this.

"Boundaries. It's not rude to have them. Figure out what your boundaries are and enforce them."

CaptainLollygag

Truth.

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"If you don't put in any effort in your friendships, you will end up alone."

BZNZK

Think of your teeth!

"It freaking hurts to put retainers back on after not wearing them for a while."

Fuazy

Feeling very attacked right now.

"When people tell/show you who they are, believe them. The first time."

Raeofsonshine

Facts.

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"A fun sex life will never make a toxic relationship worth it. A lot of young men need to learn that."

LoveAndDynamite

An important life lesson.

"Don't fully trust "friends" who you work with."

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Live and learn.

"Don't cry over spilled milk. I used to hate myself for making mistakes and it caused me to be suicidal because of how much I hated myself.

I've since learned to move on and learn from my errors. I'm happier than ever before by learning this life lesson."

15jackets

An explanation, not an excuse.

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"Mental illness is not an excuse for inappropriate behavior, being a crappy person, and committing what should be considered sexual assault/harassment.

Boy did I learn the hard way."

OctoberBlue89

Practice makes perfect.

"The only way you can ever hope to even become good something you have to be prepared to fail HARD.

I've been a musician for a really long time and while I always thought I was decent, I was always a bedroom musician and I was terrified of performing in front of a stage. I did a few times in high school for choir and more but it was always in groups.

Recently I started pushing myself to perform at open mics and my god it's been so brutal. There are times where it's god awful and times where it felt great but that's a part of the process. If you can get comfortable with making an ass of yourself then so many different opportunities will open themselves up to you."

prsguitarplayer

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You catch more flies with honey than with vinegar, or so the saying goes.

The same can be said for your interactions with cops, most of whom are perfectly happy to let minor infractions slide––When was the last time you were actually ticketed for jaywalking?––provided you're not a total Karen should you interact them.

Your local police officer likely doesn't care about jaywalking or the fact that you went five miles over the speed limit unless you give him a reason to, as we learned when Redditor Takdel asked police officers: "What stupid law have you enforced just because someone was an a-hole?"

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