Life is difficult y'all. Like no joke rough. And so many of us give into fear, disappointment and just simply laziness because we refuse to think there is better. And that is just work of the devil. Being lazy and depressed does not have to be a life sentence. There is hope and medications.
Redditor _taliaflower asked for the best advice out there on how to be a more active person and greater version of one's self. _
FIND A MENTOR.
Being around driven and accomplished people.
I realized the joy they felt after they accomplished a milestone was far greater than any happiness I felt by doing nothing. When they rested they rested and when they partied they partied hard. It was amazing to see people living edge to edge on life and pushing themselves to their limits because they can. And I've always wondered what can I do? It may not be as great as them, but it's better than if I'd done nothing. And I can build on successes.
Changed my method of thinking.
You can do this.
You know how you sometimes have to pretend to be sleeping in order to fall asleep? I started pretending I wasn't lazy, and then I wasn't lazy anymore.
About the big stuff, I realized I wasn't really lazy, I was just afraid of failure and lacked confidence. I think my subconscious logic was that I shouldn't bother to try because I was likely to fail and end up in the same place anyway, so why put in the effort?
As cliché as it sounds, what got me out of that was to start to think of "failures" as just practice runs for whatever I wanted so I could learn to do it again differently until I got it right. I also tried to train myself to feel excited about the potentially positive outcomes, rather than dwelling of the dispiriting nature of the possible negative ones.
Another simple thing that keeps me trying is thinking about what my PhD advisor said about applying for grants, which are so much work and competitive now it sometimes can feel like it's not worth the effort: "There is only one way I know to guarantee that you won't get a grant, and that's not to apply for it at all." It's a pretty good counter to my old argument of "why try if I am going to fail anyway?"