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Single People Describe Their Ideal Relationship

Most people have a pretty clear idea of what the perfect relationship looks like for them. For some, it's a typical marriage with 2.5 kids, a dog, and a white picket fence; for others it's a long-term, caring, friend with benefits.


Reddit user Goemon777 asked:

"Singles of Reddit, what's your dream relationship?"


One. 

Someone who respects me for who I am, but isn't afraid to let me know when I am in the wrong. Ideally they wouldn't want kids, would be fine with pets of all sorts, and put effort into understanding my hobbies at the least. If they share my interest in the sciences, even better. Would be willing to sit still long enough for me to draw them occasionally, especially with charcoal, or even just drawing them candidly and not getting weird about it.

RattusDraconis

Two. 

Someone who respects my need for space and enjoys having their own, someone with similar interests.

MelodyInTheChaos

Three. 

Heh heh.

This won't be popular, but here goes.

Someone I can message or text every once in a while, maybe once or twice a day, who feels good about getting them. Maybe send a selfie or a meal I cook once in a while, idea sounding board.

Couple weekends a month, we get together for a couple dates, sex, stuff like that. Cuddling with some netflix, maybe some dancing, if its summer go do some hiking and rock climbing or outdoorsy stuff.

Cook some good food together, do some crocheting, whatever. Shared hobbies, or maybe mix up your partners hobbies with yours for a couple nights and do stuff together.

No need to live together, just a nice relationship where the two people respect eachother, hook up every once in a while and touch bases.

No need to marry. Outdated concept that just ends up with most people falling out of love. Have your own hobbies, your own friends, your own life, just with your beau within reach and able to touch whenever one of you feels like it.

LargeSnorlax

I have this now! It's possible :-) I left a marriage and knew that I never wanted that style of relationship again. My current SO has never wanted a traditional relationship. It works so well for us.

We just finished traveling overseas together for a month and it was so freeing to be able to do that without thinking of it as a trial to living together.

I am so happy with my life now. It's the life I always wanted.

Charlie_2020

Four. 

Feeling safe, loved, and valued. And also someone to read books with.

chromatictypewriter

I once dated a guy that also loved books... Many a Sunday was blissfully spent reading together in proximity but on our own. So good!

Merry_Pippins

My girlfriend is more into reading than I am, but I enjoy when she reads to me. We both plop down on the bed, she reads, I listen. We're doing the Harry Potter books currently. Reading is strangely a couples activity that often gets overlooked, I think. I love her voice, so listening to her reading and then doing the characters voices with accents is awesome.

RickyWicky

Five. 

My last boyfriend was my dream relationship

He was the best! One time he took me on a surprise date where we drove for almost an hour to a feed and livestock store. I was so confused the whole time until he showed me the baby chicks, they were SO cute and we got to play with them and hold them.

He was so friendly too, he would start a conversation with any random stranger. I'm super shy so I loved how he could open the door for both of us to meet new people.

Sometimes we fought, but whenever he got upset he would let me know that he wasn't angry at me, he really loved me but he had trouble dealing with this emotions. I loved him for always being open about his feelings and ready to communicate.

Today marks 7 months since he died. My dream relationship is to be with him again, someday.

underwater_sleeping

Six. 

Ideally, we meet, fall on love, and get married. Maybe we have a couple kids along the way. Live happily ever after.

But realistically, someone I can be myself around and laugh with.

orangeguy99

Seven. 

This question has made me realize that I am going to be single much longer. Not in a "woe is me" type of way, but that I honestly have no answer to this.

CactusWorthHugging

I think it just means you have more "self searching" to do :) That's never a bad thing. Take your time and you'll find someone when you're ready.

Midnight_arpeggio

Idk, some people are ok with being single. I don't have an answer to it because I don't want a dream relationship. I like myself as single.

theredpanda_

Eight. 

Right now I just to a snuggle with a sweet affectionate lady. It's so physically intimate, not even sexual..even though it can be sometimes. I miss that intimate connection. Sex is great but the longer I'm single the more I crave mental and physical (nonsexual) intimacy. Those times when you are holding someone in your arms, hearing their soft breathing, feeling their heart beating, feeling safe and secure, and for a while just forgetting about the world around you. The only thing that matters is that moment. You and them. The troubles of the world melt away.

I miss that...

LittleBear33

Nine. 

An honest one. One in which each person feels safe to be themselves, no matter how silly or "weird" that self happens to be. I've been with too many people more concerned with how they are perceived than they are in being a real person. They could never turn that need off, and therefore I couldn't turn off the fake person they demanded I be at all times. Honestly, I don't care what most people think of me - I am perfectly content to sit in Starbucks with my laptop and write, or to eat alone in a restaurant, or sing to songs I like when I hear them, etc. Being shamed for that fucking sucked.

So yeah. A person who can be honest with who they are would be so amazing.

Lexi_Banner

Ten. 

Honestly if the person cares about you and wants to be around you often is 95% of what I care about. If would be a big bonus if if had the same hobbies , gym, video games, sports, tv shows etc. But most importantly having eachothers backs and always making sure everything is ok, also its best when your partner can bring out the best in you and see positive things in yourself that you dont often see.

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