Growing up, nothing made me more furious or left me feeling more untrusted and violated than when my parents snooped around through my stuff. That feeling of powerlessness was something I completely hated. As an adult, and a parent, I get it. It's not a choice I have made personally, but I have a much better understanding of why my parents did it. You really do want to do your best to protect your kids, and sometimes that might lead you to invade their privacy. Invaded privacy is, after all, preferable to a child that is being hurt, abused, battling depression without help, etc.
When kids shut you out, some parents opt to try and force their way in. Others, though, just don't agree that a kid should have any expectation of privacy to begin with. One reddit user asked:
Nosy parents of reddit, what's the most messed up thing you discovered snooping through your kid's bedroom?
We gathered some of our favorite responses for you here. Brace yourself... things are about to get "teenager-y" in here. Grossness ahead. lol.
When my son was 3 I found an old banana peel in an art kit that opened. It came with papers, a coloring book and markers, etc. We were battling a fruit fly infestation and couldn't figure out what they were after. It was so disgusting when I opened that kit and hundreds of fruit flies flew out.
I don't snoop, so I haven't stumbled across anything too crazy but when my kids were in 3rd and 4th grade I found a shoe box (without the top) filled with actual cash and "Jesus Dollars" when I grabbed their hamper to do laundry.
"Jesus Dollars" were something my kid's religious-based school gave out for good behavior or high scores or doing anything Jesus-esque. My daughter was a top student and collected a lot of Jesus Dollars. They were allowed to be cashed in at the school store, but my daughter didn't see anything worth buying. My son has always been the kind of kid who could sell ice to an Eskimo so they joined forces and started selling their fake money for real money during recess.
They had 44 real dollars when I found their stash.
We don't pay for regular chores, so finding that much money in their closet at that age was a little weird. They admitted to it right away and thought their plan was great! Honestly, I kind of agreed it was worth it. They weren't going to use the Jesus Dollars and the other kids were thrilled to be able to buy things from the school store. I did put an end to it because I didn't want parents to call the school complaining that my kids scammed them out of their snack money or something. I'm not religious, but it also seemed a little Un-Jesus-y to encourage it.
My kids are teenagers now but they keep their rooms clean and have been in charge of their own laundry for years so their Jesus Dollars operation remains the most shocking discovery and I hope to keep it that way.
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