Men Reveal Why They Pretend To Be Female Online.
Males on Reddit answer the question: "Why do you play as a female online?" Get ready for some down right hilarious, insightful, and unusual responses.
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I had to do it once as an exercise in a computer crimes class. We made our accounts as 12 to 14-year-old girls for a chat room. Within 5 to 10 minutes, there are guys messaging you to turn your cam on. I had a guy from India willing to pay for my flight over THAT DAY to meet him. Then, we told them that we weren't really a "13-year-old girl" and that their information would be turned over to the police.
I pretend to be female online when I publish light romance.
In the United States, when I first started writing romance, I got an unpleasant amount of attention as a male author in the genre and found it a lot safer for me to write under a female pen name. That way people would read and enjoy the stories, but didn't creep and stalk.
This reminds me of my short lived experience on PlayStation home. I made an attractive skinny blonde female avatar, and I could not for the life of me stop dudes from following me around. So this led me to play around by pretending I was interested in people and getting them to follow me into unpopulated areas. Once we were alone together, I would politely ask the guy if he would wait a moment and that I would be right back. This was never a problem for them. I would then quickly log my other character in - an old, bald, overweight man that looks like he escaped from prison, who would then replace the previous female avatar. I'd then tell them that I was ready to be spanked or something stupid and follow them around while they immediately ran in terror.
When I was at University, we were doing a project on communities and online communities. Our group got assigned to look into and research Second Life (at the time, it was still quite a new and current "thing"), and as I was the one with the best laptop, I got the job of playing it.
We drafted some questions we would try to answer and some kind of short surveys people may answer for data for our presentation. At the end, I made a male character that looked like "me" and jumped in.
After visiting a few social hubs for hours and numerous attempts, no one would really help out or wouldn't give us much more than stupid answers. One of the people in the group thought it was just me and came and watched and realized people were kind of unhelpful towards us.
We re-rolled my character as a female who was tall, slim, and blonde and acted a bit more like a video game noob. We got more help almost instantly compared to the hours I had spent. People were hearing our conversations and coming over to volunteer their answers and opinions. They were asking if we needed things and showing us places to go. One guy even bought us some outfits and gave us some in-game currency, and let us have access to his house.
So yeah, we pretended to be a female to get a project done.
About a decade ago, I was on a dating site without much luck and getting very few replies to messages so I thought the best way to get tips on what not to do was to sign up as a fake profile pretending to be a woman and see what kinds of messages were sent and just not do anything that appeared more than once.
Back in the day, when I still play used to online poker, I used to pose as a girl because male players often wouldn't take them as seriously, especially if you played tight-aggressive. Anything helps to get an edge, you know. The change in the players' general behaviors was very noticeable. A lot of flirting all of a sudden. Of course, not from the majority, but still it gave me a glimpse into how aggravating things can be for women sometimes.
I made a fake account on a dating site just to see what girls actually have to deal with. I deleted it after I saw over 40 messages and far too many penis pictures.
At first, I did it out of boredom and curiosity (eventually transitioned into feeding my creative writing/imagination) I was about 13 to 16-years-old. I think it was 2004 to 2007. Back in the day when it was still fairly common to have online gaming buddies, and there weren't really things like Skype/Discord/webcams to immediately blow your cover.
It started on older games like Gunbound/Maplestory. I had a steady group of friends who played, and I just wanted to see how adding a girl into the mix would change them, so I made a fake account and would accidentally join in their game and play with them and flirt with them etc.
I think it took less than four games before all three of them added me and starting have private messages. I'll admit back then it was fun as heck, and I didn't know it was catfishing or trolling. I just saw it as a form of entertainment, and it made my friends happy.
I went as far as double logging on as both myself and the female and introducing myself to myself just so they wouldn't get suspicious (like this guy is never on when she is on, maybe it's him).
It went on for about 3 years give or take a couple months, and they never found out that I had fun with all of them, and they thoroughly seemed to enjoy my company as the girl.
I even made another account as that girl's friend which really sealed the deal on any doubt they were having about her.
I never told any of them about it in the end. It went way too far once they started confessing their feelings and future plans/meeting up when we all turned 18. All that stuff is when I knew I had to end the whole thing.
I told them that she was moving to live with her grandparents overseas and that her life would be changing. I logged on as her less frequently, until it got to the point where she was just "too busy" to continue playing with us.
The most awkward/guilty part was how sad they all were for like weeks and weeks after she finally disappeared. It was all fun up until the point when I kind of realized that I had just really broken the hearts of three of my closest internet buddies.
I don't talk to any of them anymore. Looking back on it, it was a pretty messed up thing that I did. I learned a lot about myself and my friends and just how guys act in general to girls online.
The game was Runescape. At first, it was just as a joke. However, after a few years, I really grew into the character and created a name, personality, life, etc. My alternate life was very much a reality to the people that I played with.
I learned a LOT about human interaction and how people treat women differently. It helped me understand women a bit better (as far as perspective) even if it was just through a game world behind the protection of a computer screen. In fact, playing Runescape as a female character taught me how to socialize and adapt to real people. In turn, this has greatly built my interviewing skills to the point where I've landed myself a pretty prestigious position.
Honestly, I have two older sisters, and I was the youngest for five years. When writing, my story's character always seemed really feminine even if I was trying to make it a guy. I guess it's easier to appear as what people expect a female to be/act like because I could always relate more to them, and I understand women more than men.
Still 100% a straight guy though.
Honestly, I do it because I really wish that I was a female. I am insanely confused sexually speaking. I'm at a point where I really wish I was born as a female, but I don't want to go through the surgery to become a female. I'm not transsexual, and I don't want people to call me "she." I am content with being a guy, but I really, really wish I was a girl.
I go into online chat rooms, forums, etc. and pretend that I'm a woman because it lets me be who I wish I could have been. I have actually made some good friends online out of this. It disgusts me that they all think that I'm a woman, and it disgusts me that I do this to them, but I suppose I'm not doing them any harm. I don't do it to hurt them or get anything from them. I just do it to feel better about myself.
I don't pretend, but I almost exclusively play as female characters. One because I always want to see beautiful, strong, and powerful women accomplishing amazing things. And two because it's nice to have something to look at.
At times, I feel dissatisfied with the fact that I only get to experience being one gender in my life. Pretending to be a girl online gives me an outlet to that.
A few years ago, I signed up on a couple of these sites (along with my GF at the time) where you can answer questionnaires for marketing companies etc. and get Amazon credit or gift vouchers.
After a few weeks, it became clear that she was getting two or three times the number of surveys than I was. So, I set up accounts as a woman instead and ended up spending all of the credits on James Bond DVDs.
I'm an active user of the virtual world Second Life. When I first signed up, it was a new experience for me, and it was fun to do all of the things that you can do in the virtual world (some things I can't mention on here because it's NSFW). I knew, however, just how gullible guys were when it came to females online mainly because I myself am one of them that would talk to girls based on their avatar's looks and all that. I knew that I could not make money on Second Life without pouring my real life money into my account myself and that wasn't going to happen. So, I decided to sign up with a female avatar.
I would enter different areas and get all kinds of guys talking to me saying "Hello" and just generally being nice for the most part, which is something that I never got while using my default male avatar. Since I knew that I could possibly make money as a female avatar, I started asking guys that wanted "services" (again, no details because NSFW) that they have to pay me first. I'll never forget the first time I suckered a guy into paying me. All I asked for was 25 Lindens (the currency of Second Life), and he actually paid it to my surprise.
I would continue to scam guys out of their Lindens for years. They would pay me, and I would teleport myself out of the area after blocking them so I wouldn't have to read their abuse. Most guys on Second Life just refuse to pay, and rightfully so because "services" are easy enough to get for free in the virtual world. The ones that would pay me were the gullible and desperate suckers, thus justifying what I was doing in my head. I know that that's probably not what your opinions are going to be, but it's like I said, "I don't care. Using the money that I scammed people out of, I would buy houses, clothing, furniture, etc. It was a real trip to have all of those Lindens, and none of it came from my real world bank account.
Of course, though, what I was doing would not go over well with the managers at various clubs. I've gotten banned from many different places more times than I care to count. Being that I was using a female avatar though, I would try to sweet talk the managers into unbanning me. It worked a few times.
I practically had to use the Lindens I got to buy new accessories for my avatar as Second Life technology was starting to move ahead, and I had to do what I could to stay on track. I only recently updated my female avatar to look as good as I could possibly make her. She had gotten a whole lot more IMs for people after the update. I'm still scamming people out of their Lindens to this day. In fact, my female avatar is online in the world at this very moment.
The funniest part about all of this is that Linden Labs, Second Life's parent company, has not banned my account yet. While I'm frequently banned from individual places, I'm never been banned from Second Life itself. My theory is that Linden Labs considers the guys I scammed to be suckers just like I do and shows them no sympathy for falling for the cheap tricks that I make.
I dont really pretend to be female online, but I often choose female avatars. I like the narrative of a strong woman who can take care of herself and doesnt need anyone to fulfill her goals in life much more than the male counterparts. Its not that I like playing as women specifically because, for certain roles, I still like to play as a male. But you can bet that if I can play as a strong female tank, Im going to.
Did an online chat with At&t, and they automatically assumed I was my mom because the account was under her name. I played along and added lots of smiley faces and talked in an overly feminine way. It was pretty strange to be honest, especially because the guy asked what I did for a living and started sending smiley faces.
I have to write female characters sometimes (game designer). It's the only way to walk a mile in their shoes.
I started due to comfort reasons. Online I've been a girl since 20-21 years old. I even went as far as developing a "female voice" for voice chats on games. Most conversations were entirely gender neutral so I didn't need to, but my online "persona" on forum boards and video games was a woman.
Have dealt with gender identity issues for as long as I can remember. By 25, I felt comfortable online for years as a woman but hated my life as a man. Started HRT and began transitioning in real life to become a woman. I have now been on hormones for five years and living "full-time" as a woman for four. I have undergone SRS and am happily married now.
It's not the case with all or even most guys, but my reasoning was for much deeper rooted personal struggles.
I've played female characters in a bunch of MMORPGs with the main reason being better-looking characters. I've never really considered any of my characters to be a representation of who I actually am in person though. Just like I don't exclusively pick male characters in fighting games or Overwatch because I'm a guy, my character is not me and I think it's healthier that it stays that way.
If we're talking about picking a female avatar and pretending to be a woman socially online, I can't really relate there since I've never gotten into the roleplaying aspect of any games before.
Maybe only tangentially related, but I have a few World of Warcraft characters who are female. I don't play on a roleplaying server, so it doesn't really matter, but I basically made all of my toons different genders and different races just so I could hear different voice lines and see the different armor styles.
If I did play on an RP server, I would probably still have female characters. It would be easy enough to play it gender-neutral.
A girl once told me that she had overwhelming responses online dating and how difficult it was to keep up and sort through them, where in contrast (as a guy) I would go days and sometimes weeks getting nothing but ads or fake replies for sex sites, but very few real girls with real intentions.
I created a fake account as a relatively attractive girl as a social experiment, and the results blew my mind. In the first day, literally hundreds of guys replied and many of them seemed like relatively attractive and reasonable people. Many whom were worth following up on and almost all of them were better looking than me.
Although disheartening, I think all guys in the dating scene should experience this disproportionate phenomenon for themselves just to understand exactly what they are up against which are insurmountable odds.
My buddy and I used to play WoW together. His main was a female pally. When I asked him a question, this was his response:
Him: "Dude, do you know how often guys will go out of their way to give me gold and free stuff?"
Me: "Wow, that's kind of messed up."
Him: "You play the game your way, I'll play it mine."
Fame always come with a price!
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