That memory comes up in your head and you twist your hands around in anger and clench your teeth.
How could that have happened to you? How could those people have done that to you???
So many injustices, so little brain space. But you want some answers---honestly, none may come.
Rules are something babysitters get used to. Every household is going to be a little bit different: a different bedtime for their kids, maybe somebody has allergies, etc.