"The Only Person You Have To Live With Forever Is You" —And Other Rules People Will Follow
What is the hallmark of your creed? By that, we mean--each and every person has their own set of values and rules to live by. Those things define our choices, and therefore, those things define us.
Here were some of those answers.
It's The Title, Y'allGiphy
The only person you have to live with forever is you. Make sure you can live with you and your decisions.
When you get what you want in your struggle for self And the world makes you king for a day Just go to the mirror and look at yourself And see what that man has to say.
For it isn't your father, or mother, or wife Whose judgment upon you must pass The fellow whose verdict counts most in your life Is the one staring back from the glass.
He's the fellow to please – never mind all the rest For he's with you, clear to the end And you've passed your most difficult, dangerous test If the man in the glass is your friend.
You may fool the whole world down the pathway of years And get pats on the back as you pass But your final reward will be heartache and tears If you've cheated the man in the glass.
-Peter Dale Wimbrow Sr.
Rule number one : Don't Panic
My dad has drilled this into my head since I was old enough to understand him and so far it's worked out
One time I was scuba diving in low visibility water so I couldn't see my partner very well, so I tried to catch up with him but my rebreather hose got caught on a rock and made the rebreather start free flowing (when there's nothing stopping the air in the tank from escaping) me knowing I had roughly 30 seconds left of air before I ran out, and a resurface would be dangerous because of the high pressure change I, instead of panicking, took a deep breath and took a few seconds to get calm, and I fixed the free flow by hitting on a rock, while it was upside down.
I don't know what would have happened if I didn't stay calm but I think about it everyday
A Person's A Person
Thank those doing what are considered menial jobs.
That dude cleaning the gym locker room has gainful employment and makes my life nicer and cleaner. It absolutely amounts to nothing for me to give thanks and it will hopefully provide someone in a thankless job thanks.
And I have had to clean toilets at a job in my past. This isn't benevolence, this is recognizing another human.
This One Might Be Only You
I will always use my turn signal.
If I'm totally alone on an empty street at 2am, going from being parked on the side of the road to wanting to merge into the street, I'll still use it.
*Law And Order Sound*Giphy
Make all the judgements you want. Just be ready to seriously rethink them as soon as new information is presented to you.
'Never bend the facts to fit the judgement, change the judgement to fit the facts' is my general rule.
The Hunger Games
If your wife says she doesn't need a snack and you're at the store buy her a snack or she will want yours.
I've started doing this the last few months. Not because she will eat mine, but because she hates flowers and I want her to know I'm thinking of her.
Doesn't matter what I buying I'll grab her a chocolate bar or skittles. She had a grocery bag stash of them after not too long.
Be A Friend To The Planet
Never litter. I dont care if no one is around, trash and recyclables go in their place, not in public space or on the ground.
I wasn't even consciously aware how seriously I follow this rule until I read this and thought about it for a few moments. I can't even imagine the mentality of someone who thinks it's okay to drop rubbish on the ground.
Always respect someone until they give you a reason not to.
I've always tried to live life like this and it makes so much difference. When you show someone respect, more often that not they show it back, and it creates much better interactions and relationships, and makes my day and their day better. Highly recommend this to everyone.
They're Alone For A Reason
Don't be pity friends with someone. Then they'll expect a relationship and hate you for being kind.
Don't befriend the loner that everyone else hates. I used to do this and more than once was disappointed to find out that the loner was a loner for a good reason, they ended up being really spiteful and would put me down and think they were better than me. Sometimes people who hate themselves will hate you for being kind to them.
When grandma calls, I answer the phone. I don't care where I am, who I'm with, or what time it is. If for some unholy reason I CANNOT answer (which doesn't happen very often) I'll either answer anyways and quickly say "Can I call you back" (if she says no then I'll drop whatever I'm doing. But grandma would never say no if it wasn't actually 400% important) or I will send her to voicemail, read it once it shows up, and then call her back the very second I can.
No Matter How Cold
Never walk with both hands in your pockets.
I bashed my face in on some concrete stairs back in college because my hands were in my pockets when I tripped and I couldn't catch myself. Now I wear gloves when it's cold and keep my hands out of my coat pockets.
The First Rule Of Manipulation
Kill them with kindness. People who sh*t talk the nice guy are considered *ssholes. In reality, I'm probably the biggest *sshole in any room I enter. I just choose to be nice because it's the most advantageous( and because it feels good sometimes).
Here Comes Speed RacerGiphy
Never go faster than 20% over the speed limit. Seems to be about the average around here and I've yet to be pulled over yet, even if going past a speed trap.
I always set my cruise 10% above the speed limit. It fulfills my need to beat Google's ETA and keeps me out of trouble.
In my area, the highways work that way too for the most part. The only speed law that is enforced strictly is the separate law we have about going 80 mph or higher. My cruise control generally stays set to 79 mph on the highways.
The counties, cities, and towns are entirely different and loaded with speed traps filled with trigger-happy cops.
We're Just Doing Our Jobs
Be nice to retail and food service workers. Our jobs are designed to suck *ss and we get basically zero power over anything. Don't be that f*cker that yells because your coupon expired or you didn't get the protection plan when you were advised to do so.
Kindness Is Always The Rule
Don't be rude.
No matter what happens there is never a need to be rude. My Dad taught me this. He ran his own business and I'd work for him during holidays and breaks from school/uni. He had to be pretty forthright with suppliers sometimes but he had a way of really telling them off but never being rude.
Stay away form ad-hominem attacks, insults, or name-calling. You can be angry but you don't need to be rude.
When he passed away, there were hundreds of people at his funeral. There were people who'd only dealt with him through work and many I'd heard him shouting at on several occasions but because he was never rude to them, they'd had lovely chats on other occasions and they really respected and liked him.
He inspired when he was alive but even in passing I realised the best thing you can do in life is to leave behind that many people who are glad to have known you.
Better Safe Than Sorry
Never trust other cars to stop at a red light. I've seen way too many accidents where the light turns green and the car in front pulls out only to be T-boned by someone running a red.
An extra second to look can literally save your life.
You catch more flies with honey than with vinegar, or so the saying goes.
The same can be said for your interactions with cops, most of whom are perfectly happy to let minor infractions slide––When was the last time you were actually ticketed for jaywalking?––provided you're not a total Karen should you interact them.
Your local police officer likely doesn't care about jaywalking or the fact that you went five miles over the speed limit unless you give him a reason to, as we learned when Redditor Takdel asked police officers: "What stupid law have you enforced just because someone was an a-hole?"