Women Reveal The One Thing They Think Guys Should Stop Feeling Insecure About
"Girls of Reddit, what is something guys shouldn't feel insecure about?" –– This was today's burning question from Redditor reddit_menace, and guys... you should probably take note.
"My husband told me yesterday..."Giphy
My husband told me yesterday he's less of a man because he got fired and can't provide for us. I'm providing for us just fine for right now. He's looking for work and has picked up more of the housework. To me, he would only be less of a man if he gave up and only played video games all day. As long as he's trying and productive, I'm happy.
"Why do some guys..."
Liking cats, especially kittens. Why do some guys get their boxers in a twist about cooing over animals that are objectively cute and lovable? Chill out and pet the damn cat.
Being vocal when they orgasm! I've seen so many guys just hold their breath and try to choke any sound that might come out of their throat when they do and it's just a little sad, like what are you afraid of? I wanna know you're having fun, I wanna know you enjoy what's happening! Be loud about it, screw the neighbors!
Some friends of mine are really insecure about not being able to grow a beard. Tbh it doesn't really matter.
It's ok to not be the smartest person in the room. Admitting you don't know/understand a thing does not make you look weak. Blustering your way through makes you seem like an arrogant ass.
Appearing feminine over stupid things, like thinking a puppy is cute, wearing pink, or being generally friendly and smiley. Women like that and get annoyed and exhausted by men who take masculinity too far.
"The flip side..."
The flip side of the comments about not being able to grow a beard - guys shouldn't feel insecure about being hairy. I love a hairy chest, and don't find a hairy back or shoulders to be a problem.
Like most things listed here, yeah you'll find women who won't like it, but if they are willing to write you off for something physical that is out of your control, they probably aren't the person for you.
I will say, regardless of anything else, hygiene is important. If you're hairy you might sweat more depending on the climate and how warm you run, but if you shower regularly and keep everything clean, it's all good.
Balding. So many guys try to hide it or even get plugs or constantly wear hats. Just keep the sides cut close (buzzed or shaved), and most women will actually think it's attractive.
Don't feel insecure about liking "girly" things. Order that fruity drink, watch that rom com, and sing in the shower. A lot less people care than you might realize.
"They should stop..."
They should stop feeling insecure about showing emotion, especially in a relationship. I know a lot of guys grew up being told that showing emotion was 'girly' but honestly when a guy is open about how he is feeling and doesn't suppress it, it makes everyone feel more secure. When the girl feels like she's the only one who has real feelings in the relationship then it's hard to trust the guy, and the guy often feels misunderstood as he isn't conveying what he wants to. Guys, please know it's okay to be emotional, you deserve to be honest with the people around you and it makes relationships so much better for everyone involved.
Breaking up is hard to do.
And when you get the law involved, it's even worse. But sometimes people don't need the law's help to make things overcomplicated, they just have a grand ole time making that happen themselves.
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