People who are conventionally attractive on Reddit were asked: "When did you discover that you were hot and how did it affect your personality?" These are some of the most insightful answers.
1. I'm more than how I look
I [became] a beautiful 6'2", 145 lbs redhead in college. At first I wasn't used to it, people staring at me for different reasons - and the bullying stopped! But now that I'm an adult earning my PhD, it sometimes sucks. I texted a friend yesterday that I felt like screaming going into public because people stare at me all the time. I was wearing old clothes with no makeup on and I got rubbernecking from men and glares from women. I didn't ask to feel like a zoo attraction wherever I go, but it happens. I can't use my beauty for sexual liberation because time has proven that I will just be hurt by it. My attractiveness has proven more of a burden than anything in my life so far. I intimidate my boyfriend who I think is absolutely gorgeous, which has caused a lot of stress in our relationship and sex life.
So this is me, the person in Walmart glaring with their eyes forward because I don't feel like being a zoo attraction or catering to the world anymore. People think I am only there to look at, but I have so much more to offer. Any man I have ever dated or talked to has commented about how they didn't expect me to be smart and funny too. Don't get me wrong, I love how I look and I know people will be people. But I have so much more to offer.
2. I think a few of us have been these girls at some point
About two years ago is when I found out, it was after a few months of girls latching onto my side that I realised that those girls weren't cuddling me because I was warm. I had always just assumed they were cold. Personality wise not much happened aside from me teasing them a bit when they started hugging me.
3. We aren't all the special snowflakes we thought we were
I've always been pretty. Since I was 12 I've had boys lust after me, been cat called in the street, and people in the elevator would complement my parents on how nicely I grew up. Honestly, it started going to my head. I probably would have turned completely shallow if not for 1) my brothers who gave me [crap] every time I started acting snotty, and 2) I went to a high school with an amazingly large population of beautiful girls. Like, seriously it was astounding. I went to a performing arts high school in NYC, and many of my classmates were working models and actresses. I figured out real quick I wasn't going to be the "token pretty girl" in any groups anymore. It really put me in my place and made me develop a personality beyond my looks.
4. Be careful that it doesn't go to your head!
I was never really [unattractive] in high school, just nerdy and never really took care of myself. Started working out, got a haircut, and became less of a dork. I'm not hot, just good looking.
After I became single junior year, I was a douche. Always trying to sleep with people, constantly talking about the gym and drinking, that kind of stuff. Eventually I realized what I'd become and that most of my friends didn't like me any more.. and that I didn't like me anymore. So I stopped and just kind of settled down.
I have a girlfriend now, but still get hit on by girls, especially at parties. It's fun to play along and be flirty for a while, but never cross a line.
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