It's difficult to imagine what it would be like to be deprived of sight.
We are so dependent on our senses to narrate the world around us, that losing one of them would easily mess with us. Blindness in particular would be so different for most of us that we cannot fathom the stakes.
It makes us curious.
Here were some of the answers.
I'm legally blind, and tend to find voices pretty important for finding someone attractive. Also, their hair , and general face shape if i'm close enough to them (I can see some details if i'm very close to someone).
There Are Four Other Senses
There's a YouTuber named Molly Burke who is blind and goes over questions like these. She said things like hair she could run her fingers through, a nice voice, a nice smell, soft hands. Obviously tastes vary from person to person but it gives you a sense of some of the non visual features you could be interested in.
Not So Shallow
One of my best friends is legally blind (about 20% vision in one eye and no vision in the other) and a woman once asked her at a party how could she possibly know her fiance was attractive and a good marriage pick if she can't really see him?
It's shocking how people think that attraction and love come purely from visual aesthetics. It's also from physical closeness, sound of their voice, shared sense of humor, how kind they are, how they treat others, shared passions.. etc.
Even in people who can see, looks change and can fade over time! Things you might have been pickier about physically become less important when you deeply care about the person.
The Talks That Talk
Physically? I find a man's shoulders and chest attractive. I don't need to see them to feel them. With woman I am attracted to curly hair. I'm not that shallow though. Looks really, truly mean very little.
Mentally? I find a man or woman's ability to hold a conversation with me and our connection attractive. If we don't naturally mesh, I am not attracted to them. If we can get lost in each other for hours at a time... oh yeah. If we can stay up all night and finish a game of monopoly without realizing the sun is about to come up, s**t, I'm in love!
Even A Little Sight Goes A Long Way
Real blind person here:
I have very limited vision, but I can see somethings from very close up. Most of what I can pick up are major details, so when it comes to attractiveness, the things that I see are things like face shape and hair color/cut. How the hair frames the face is a lot of what determines attractiveness for me, but I'm not sure how to describe what that means for me.
Color contrast helps me see things better in general, and I think that might be why I'm not really into blondes.
In general, I think I'm less obsessive over looks than most people, but I'm not a total saint. I still have preferences, but those are based on what I can see, and may have nothing to do with the person's attractiveness to people who can see. People tell me my girlfriend's attractive, so it appears these lined up this time.
How You Think
Legally blind here
It is mostly personality and how someone is wired. For me because I still have the rest of my sight I also obviously think physical attraction is still there. But I also think it is all about soft hair, soft skin, nice hair, gorgeous smell and stuff like that. But I also want to be treated like a normal human being and if someone does that they are automatically more attractive to me even though almost no one treats me differently.
If you are talking about emotional attraction, I personally like people who are kind and easy to talk to. If you are talking physical, I like women who take care of their skin. I also like women with young sounding voices.
The Other Senses Really Do Help Tho
I've been completely blind since birth. I mostly judge people by their voice and smell after meeting them for the first time, after that I mostly go by personality like most comments here say. If you're interested in how I do other things you can read my AMA I did recently https://old.reddit.com/r/casualiama/comments/ao380t/im_17_years_old_and_completely_blind_i_like_cars/
It's Not Easy Being Clean
I am legally blind with low vision in only one eye. Things I find attractive in a partner (any gender):
- People who use their voice to communicate - I can't see your nonverbal cues
- People who carry themselves in a relaxed but confident way - I can tell who friends are by the way that they walk way before I can see their faces
- People who respect my independence and don't try to take care of me because of my low vision - I've made it to 40 on my own guys, let me cross the street by myself.
- People who clean up after themselves - the fact that I'm blind does not mean I can't tell you're a slob
- People who can tell stories in a way that makes them easy to envision and laugh about together
A Good Sense Of People
My mom was blind and she never really cared about how the person looked based on like face shape or height but she always said that she could immediately judge people based on the tone, cadence, and personality in the way they talked.
In most situations, when you're hurt by someone, it can be best to just forgive and forget. However, there are some people that can't help but hold grudges. Sometimes it can just be petty, but other times, it can be for very valid reasons.
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